MILs response to name. I may be overreacting?

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Our baby boy was born 3days ago. We named him Kade which is a Scottish name we've always liked. We live in Scotland and dad is Scottish.

MIL has made it clear she doesn't like it, thinks it sounds chavvy and said something like 'someone called Kade would never be a physics graduate and would be pre judged by teachers'

I know my hormones are currently crashing but I'm really really upset by this. It's made me feel awkward about his name and that people will all hate it. I think it's insensitive of her not to have kept her opinion to herself and now I know she feels that way I know she'll be cringing every time she has to say his name and I don't want that for him. I've always thought a lot of her so I guess it feels more hurtful. But again maybe I'm just being too hormonal.

Is it really a horrible chavvy name? To me your personality and upbringing puts your name into the context of who you are but maybe other people don't think like that. Any thoughts?

I think it is a lovely name. Unique, as I haven't heard it before. Make me think of a nice, strong, charming, good looking young man - which I'm sure he will grow up to be.

Congrats on the birth of your son.

Kade doesn't sound chavvy.

Ignore her, she is being a cow. So what if she doesn't like it, so long as you and DH do.

and congratulations!

Stuff her, if you like it thats all that matters. Some people pass comment on everything, if you had picked Colin she would say it's boring. (this is when you tell me your DDad and DH are both called Colin, sorry in advance , but you get my point).

I love it..... Never heard it before.
How rude and insensitive your MIL is....

Although I'm Scottish and live in Scotland, it's not a name I've ever come across so I'm surprised to read that it's of Scottish origin (which after a quick google search I now know it to be!) as it doesn't 'sound' or look Scottish, iykwim?

What she said was just plain ill mannered - regardless of what she thinks of the she should have kept quiet about it. As long as you and your DH like it, that's what matters. Congratulations on your wee boy

Tell her that before you met your DH you didn't think much of his name either, but you're not so narrowminded to have made a judgement about him as a person before getting to know him.

She had her go at naming her child/ren and now it's your turn.

People grow into their names and any arsehole you knew at school negative connotations are quickly forgotten

And I'm scottish and I like it. Never heard it before but sounds like a good, strong, handsome boys name.

She has been unbelievably rude. Your DH perhaps needs to point this out to her.

Stick to your guns and call him whatever you like.

She was just rude. Ignore her. Even if you called him Yo'taz'ja she should smile and pretend to like it.

"To me your personality and upbringing puts your name into the context of who you are".

OP, that's one of the wisest things I've read on MN. And no, it isn't chavvy because it's a proper name. It won't be long before your MIL is so besotted with her grandson and his name will just be part and parcel of him. Don't upset yourself worrying about it.

Congratulations on your new son.

Wow, what a gorgeous name!

How rude! I've never heard of it before, I love unusual names, ignore her.
Laughed at "never be a physics graduate" Having recently met a number of them, I'd be thinking, thank god for that

I grew up with a Kade. I never knew it was Scottish!

Everlong inadvertantly offends mothers of Kaden

What a witch! I am extremely judgey about names and I think it is lovely. Congratulations

'What do you mean you dont like Kade? He's a beautiful little boy, what has he done to offend you?'

This is your son's name, she is being unspeakably rude about your son.

Chavvy would not spring to mind.

It's such an unusual name, I don't really have any preconceptions about it. He will make it his own.

Just say "I certainly hope Kade's future teachers and the Application Panel at his Top Physics University aren't half as judgemental as you, and you're family!"

Poor form of her to judge that he would want to be a Phisics Graduate anyways. Talk about projecting her views onto him.

My nephew is Kaden but is called Kade...its lovely (and nicer than Kaden imo)

YANBU. My youngest DS was called "Eddie" as a bump. Which is a derivitive version of a traditional name in my family.

DH and I always agreed that even though the "bump" was one thing, when DS3 was born he was given another name that was not a traditional family name, but one that we both liked, and one that DS3 suited, and was chosen by us from a few that we had in mind.

You know what I mean, when they are born, you know what the right name is. He looked like his name.

On telling the family what DS3's given name would be, my DM flounced out of the ward (this was still while I was in hospital the day of the birth) and announed to the whole ward "Well, I am going to call him Eddie. I don't like that name at all".

You call him what you want and ignore her.

I know that everlong, was only teasing :)

It sounds cool and unusual to me. I can picture a tall teenage musician. My mother was very rude about all my children's names - too chavvy, too common, and too unusual, in that order. Yes it hurts, but ignore those with no manners and stick to you guns! I speak as a mum of a son whose name regularly appears on MN as one of the most hated!

Many congratulations and please, please, please dont let anyone spoil this magical time for you! I like the name (it would go well with our unusual surname) and it does conjure up a dashing, handsome, hero-type. By the time Kade gets to school (and uni if he wants to go) then the teachers and application panel will have heard it all. Some reception registers read like the characters from a Disney film. However, we all have to get used to the idea that certain names are classic. some popular, some back in fashion and some will never return (thinking of my dear late FIL - Brian). Just put "Dr" in front of your DS' name - it'll sound great.