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AIBU about this?

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ReneeBrightEyes · 14/05/2011 21:53

I have two DSD from my DH first marriage.

Currently pregnant with our first child together (known to be a DD) and two of the three the name(s) that DH likes are Isabelle/Isabella - the latter being one of the middle names of my eldest DSD.

Apparently DH has laways loved this name but his XP didn't so it was used as a middle name.

I actually don't mind the name and quite like the nn Izzy but I am not willing to go with a name that DH discussed and chose as a middle name with someone else. AIBU?

His other suggestion is Arabella which I really don't like - I also think this is too close to my youngest DSD who is called Anna.

DH has rejected all other suggestions!

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CarefulWithThatAxeEugene · 14/05/2011 22:02

What's your problem? He likes the name - she didn't. If you like it, what's the issue?

mrsvwoolf · 14/05/2011 22:03

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Firawla · 14/05/2011 22:07

no yanbu, i would want a fresh name not a 2nd hand one which it possibly may feel like if you end up going with this?

LoopyLoopsBettyBoops · 14/05/2011 22:09

I don't think YABU. Has DSD been consulted? I would probably mind if I were her.

exoticfruits · 14/05/2011 22:27

Names are a compromise and people very rarely get what they want. I would have 3 completely different names if it was just me! You have to keep going until you get something fresh. He must like something beyond Isabella and Arabella!!

MelinaM · 14/05/2011 23:10

YANBU at all Would the fact that Isabelle/a is exceptionally popular at the moment not put him off? Not a fan of Arabella, nor Anabelle/a either!

There must be another name that you both love ...you just have to find it

CarefulWithThatAxeEugene · 14/05/2011 23:27

"I am not willing to go with a name that DH discussed and chose as a middle name with someone else. AIBU?"

Well, I think the reason given is what's unreasonable. Not liking the name, the name being too popular, the other child being unhappy about it: these would all be reasonable objections in my book, but not the one given by the OP. Just my opinion.

cat64 · 14/05/2011 23:34

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thereisalightanditnevergoesout · 15/05/2011 00:11

I wouldn't use it. I've seen plenty of threads where the OP has been advised not to use a mn of child as the first name of a new baby.

It's your baby together - I'm sure there's a name out there that you'll both like.

ChippingIn · 15/05/2011 00:15

YANBU and you don't want to be 'stuck' with a name that will constantly remind you of this and it's already used within your immediate family. End of. There are millions of names in the world. Tell DH he needs to come up with a short list of 10 by x or you are going to choose it on your own

thereisalightanditnevergoesout · 15/05/2011 00:21

@ ChippingIn

savoycabbage · 15/05/2011 00:24

No, you shouldn't use it. If only for the sake of the DSDs. Even if the one whose middle name it is loves the idea, then the other ,non-Isabelle' child is left out on the cold.

MercurySoccer · 15/05/2011 11:59

YANBU. Agree with ChippingIn.

ShoutyHamster · 15/05/2011 13:16

No no no. Actually I think your reasoning is fine - names are very emotional. But on every other front - no, it's bad. Both children could resent it. The name is already in use in your immediate family. Most people seem to think that's a bad idea.

But most of all - you are put off both the names by something. That's all the reason you need tbh, just the same as the probably insignficant reasons your DH has rejected other choices of yours. There are millions of names out there. He has to think of other suggestions just as do you when he says 'Nah, don't like it' at something you suggest.

Trinaluce · 15/05/2011 19:52

I agree with Savoy - what about the non-Isabelle? I'd feel sorry for the other DSD too. I wouldn't like my middle name being used as the first name for any of my sisters!

Italiangreyhound · 15/05/2011 22:19

Agree with you, ReneeBrightEyes you don't want to use the name, so that's all you need. There are so many names. If you both draw up a long enough list you will find one you both like.

emmanumber3 · 15/05/2011 22:36

I don't think YABU. The only way that I might consider using Isabella, in your circumstances, is if DSD2 also has a middle name that you could use. That way, your new baby would be named after both sisters. It would be important to me that both DSD's were happy with "their" names being used too.

However, only go down that route if it is what you want. If you don't want to "reuse" the name/s then don't! Simple as that . I agree that there must be more names out there than just Isabella & Arabella .

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