What do you do when your enemy steals you baby name?

[CantWaitForMyBaby]

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In work, all the people on my floor are friendly and I get along well with all of them, but there's one lady (let's call her Kate) who is cruel, mean, ignorant, hated and irritating and no-one gets along with her at all. She was already pregnant when I found out I was, and all the people on my floor were helping me decide in names, and my baby was always the topic of conversation. DH and I found the name combo which we both loved after months of deliberation - Poppy Eliza May. Two weeks after I told the rest of the office the name, Kate left for her maternity leave and came back two months later (2 weeks ago) to show us the baby. She had named it Poppy Eliza May. None of the office dared confront her about how she had stolen my name, as she was bound to report us for 'bullying' (which she has done before and ended up getting one of my colleagues sacked)
Now I face a dilemma - do I just call DD(who is due next week) Poppy Eliza May or shall I think up a new name? I wouldn't so much mind the latter apart from it took agesto find a name DH and I agreed on as we are both so fussy and I really don't think we will be able to find a name we love as much as Poppy Eliza May.
Please help!

I feel a bit sorry that Kate has to go to such lengths to get her own back. I do hope she genuinely likes the names and isn't doing it JUST to wind you up.

Agree with bran

I was going to post what Bran said. I hope she is winding you up because you sound horrible to be honest.

Maybe now is the time to have a long hard look at yourself and see that treating another adult in the way you have is not acceptable.

And what Bucharest said.

imagine being pregnant and then somebody announces they are pregnant and nobody pays you any attention at all

imagine working in a situation like that

how very sad and playground

no one person is cruel, mean,ignorant, hated and irritating unless somebody takes against her and stirs up horrible bullying conversations and excludes her from conversations - I wonder who that might have been

How self involved. You that is, not your collegue. "My baby was always the topic of conversation." Really? God, how dull it must be working where you do.

Seriously, get a grip. You can still use that name, you're not bosom buddies with this woman who, by the way, sounds a fabulous. She's found the ultimate way to piss you right off without even trying all that hard. Genius.

Can you imagine if she did say it just to wind you up? She was probably laughing her head off when she saw your face. Sorry OP but if you have bullied her she's getting her just desserts.

Also, as you're familiar with playground bitchiness OP I want to stick the boot in and say that I hope this lady is just winding you up and has actually chosen a different name. Poppy Eliza May is a bit bluergh tbh. Doesn't roll off the tongue nicely IYSWIM. No offence or anything.

These are all very common names at the moment. Your child will be one among many. Can't you be a bit more imaginative?

I hope she's just winding you up too.
FWIW, any 'confrontation' would probably lead to her reporting you for bullying again.

Think that's uncalled for, Saffy. No need to be rude about the name.

And why would anyone want to "confront" her? Apart from yourself of course - what stopped you?

You have 'enemies'??? Really??? Crikey heck.

Oh if Kate has done what Bran says ... Oh that would be funny.

Is Kate really that vile and you so popular?

But why tell your office the name? Baby hasn't even been born yet - have a short list by all means but wait to see what baby looks like.

What to do when your enemy steals your baby name?

Er, you remember that you are not 12 and you get over it? FFS

I'm sorry you feel this 'Kate' is being so spiteful. You, on the other hand, come across as a lovely person calling her...what was it? Oh yes "cruel, mean, ignorant, hated and irritating". Not horrible at all.

TBH Poppy Eliza May sounds a bit vapid to me. But if you love the name, keep it. Or change the combination. Clearly your daughter and 'Kates' daughter are not going to mix given that you and 'Kate' don't.

And this is why you should keep your name choices to yourself until after the baby is born.

BTW 'enemy' FFS!

Is anyone else tempted to name change to poppyelizamay just to wind the OP up?

Or is it just me that's petty enough?

It does sound like the poor woman is being bullied, by people including you. And I hope she has just told you this to wind you up as 'my baby always being the topic of conversation' sounds tedious and self-centred.

If a theft has occurred you need to call the police.

I'm sure they'll be very sympathetic to your plight.

lol Panzee!