I just wondered if people have had to deal with similar situations to this, and how you handle it? - we were out at a meal with dh's sister and her husband, and the topic of baby names came up (I'm pregnant, 33 weeks). They asked if we had a list yet and I said we were just beginning to think about names (didn't want to encourage the conversation as I want to only discuss names with DH). She then (and she's not pregnant yet) announced that she keeps a list of potential names and that she's really annoyed as a few of the names have been 'used' by her friends, and then was about to get the list out and show it to us (the implication seemed to be so that we wouldn't then use the names). Luckily the waiter came at that point and then I managed to start a new topic of conversation before the names thing could crop up again, but I'm pretty annoyed about it. DH said that if the list had come out, we could have just said ' oh yes thats on our list too' whenever there were names that we liked, but still, it would have potentially caused problems with her if we then used one of the names.
Or am I being unfair in being annoyed with her? If it had been one name, that she had absolutely set her heart on, I might have been irritated but I think I would be a bit more sympathetic, but a whole list seems a bit much to me.