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Erin Patterson - We the members of the MN jury find the defendant Guilty or Not Guilty?

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Dustyblue · 22/06/2025 03:51

Well here we are, after 2 years of head-scratching speculation and many weeks of trial detail-thrashing. It looks like the Judge will give his directions to the jury on Tuesday, after which they'll be sequestered in a local motel (I do not envy them this) to reach a verdict.

Clearly we're not privy to every last piece of evidence shown at the trial, but those of us who've been following closely will surely have formed an opinion one war or the other.

So, I ask you- if you were on the jury- what would your verdict be?

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echt · 26/08/2025 23:42

I should clarify the second bit where he said that Erin Patterson was his victim is the bit that sticks in my craw.

TerrorAustralis · 27/08/2025 02:46

@echt I agree. It’s a very odd, jarring choice of words. It doesn’t come across as Christian at all.

HoppingPavlova · 27/08/2025 04:29

Well, just maybe, underneath it all, he doesn’t feel very Christian towards her after what she has done that has directly impacted him in so many ways. He’s human. I doubt he claims to be Jesus. I certainly don’t think he should be flogged and stripped of being a pastor, or indeed to have people shitting on him for not being a good enough Christian🙄.

Blueyshift · 27/08/2025 07:04

He just doesn't want to be the victim himself and who can blame him.

LizzieSiddal · 27/08/2025 07:31

echt · 26/08/2025 23:42

I should clarify the second bit where he said that Erin Patterson was his victim is the bit that sticks in my craw.

He’s not using “victim” in this context as a bad thing. Being a “victim” of his kindness is surely a positive thing for EP?

velvetandsatin · 27/08/2025 09:30

TerrorAustralis · 27/08/2025 02:46

@echt I agree. It’s a very odd, jarring choice of words. It doesn’t come across as Christian at all.

Seriously. You're critiquing the words in a victim impact statement of a man who should have died, and lives with his lifelimiting injuries and the loss of his wife who died hideously, because it doesn't fit your brand of Christianity?

I think as a Baptist pastor, a thoughtful dignified man, a good man, and an actual victim of serious crime, Ian Wilkinson knows exactly what he means.

There is no one Christianity, no one way to 'be Christian', and I would suggest to you both your judgement of this is very unChristian.

Tourmalines · 27/08/2025 10:44

velvetandsatin · 27/08/2025 09:30

Seriously. You're critiquing the words in a victim impact statement of a man who should have died, and lives with his lifelimiting injuries and the loss of his wife who died hideously, because it doesn't fit your brand of Christianity?

I think as a Baptist pastor, a thoughtful dignified man, a good man, and an actual victim of serious crime, Ian Wilkinson knows exactly what he means.

There is no one Christianity, no one way to 'be Christian', and I would suggest to you both your judgement of this is very unChristian.

Spot on !

echt · 27/08/2025 10:48

LizzieSiddal · 27/08/2025 07:31

He’s not using “victim” in this context as a bad thing. Being a “victim” of his kindness is surely a positive thing for EP?

Read what he said. In what world is rejoicing in someone being a victim is a good thing?

Blueyshift · 27/08/2025 10:55

echt · 27/08/2025 10:48

Read what he said. In what world is rejoicing in someone being a victim is a good thing?

He is rejoicing that he will no longer suffer from being her victim. Though he clearly will.

It is just semantics he doesn't mean he is gloating she is the victim though I am sure nobody would blame him if he even wished her dead. Most wouldn't forgive. Ian has.

FeralWoman · 27/08/2025 10:55

echt · 27/08/2025 10:48

Read what he said. In what world is rejoicing in someone being a victim is a good thing?

He’s reclaiming the word “victim”. Receiving kindness and forgiveness doesn’t make anyone a victim doesn’t it? He’s using victim to mean target or recipient.

echt · 27/08/2025 10:58

HoppingPavlova · 27/08/2025 04:29

Well, just maybe, underneath it all, he doesn’t feel very Christian towards her after what she has done that has directly impacted him in so many ways. He’s human. I doubt he claims to be Jesus. I certainly don’t think he should be flogged and stripped of being a pastor, or indeed to have people shitting on him for not being a good enough Christian🙄.

It's entirely possible his Christian beliefs were challenged. However, he spoke in the context of Christian forgiveness and he is a pastor, so he has a responsibility as a representative of Christianity. His victimisation of Erin Patterson is well out of order.

There are no days off for Christian forgiveness.

An instance of someone who faced up to this is the parent of woman killed in the 7th July bombings in London. There may be updates I'm to aware of.

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-bristol-33378848

Julie Nicholson

Rev Julie Nicholson: 'No forgiveness' for 7/7 bombers

A priest whose daughter was killed in the 7/7 London suicide bombings says she is still unable to forgive the terrorists, 10 years on.

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-bristol-33378848

echt · 27/08/2025 11:00

FeralWoman · 27/08/2025 10:55

He’s reclaiming the word “victim”. Receiving kindness and forgiveness doesn’t make anyone a victim doesn’t it? He’s using victim to mean target or recipient.

That's a new one. And target is no less vindictive.

echt · 27/08/2025 11:02

Blueyshift · 27/08/2025 10:55

He is rejoicing that he will no longer suffer from being her victim. Though he clearly will.

It is just semantics he doesn't mean he is gloating she is the victim though I am sure nobody would blame him if he even wished her dead. Most wouldn't forgive. Ian has.

That is not all he says: read my post. Read what he says. He says she is his victim. That is not a Christian attitude.

LadyDanburysHat · 27/08/2025 11:03

I don't think he meant victim in a bad way. He is clearly a forgiving man. And I agree that the words of a man who has lost so much, should not be pulled apart.

Blueyshift · 27/08/2025 11:04

echt · 27/08/2025 11:02

That is not all he says: read my post. Read what he says. He says she is his victim. That is not a Christian attitude.

I disagree. I think you think really weirdly but up to you.

echt · 27/08/2025 11:05

velvetandsatin · 27/08/2025 09:30

Seriously. You're critiquing the words in a victim impact statement of a man who should have died, and lives with his lifelimiting injuries and the loss of his wife who died hideously, because it doesn't fit your brand of Christianity?

I think as a Baptist pastor, a thoughtful dignified man, a good man, and an actual victim of serious crime, Ian Wilkinson knows exactly what he means.

There is no one Christianity, no one way to 'be Christian', and I would suggest to you both your judgement of this is very unChristian.

Yes. I do. I am not a Christian of any stripe, so don't have to adhere to Christianity.

If he does know what he means, then he is way wide of the Christian mark. You don;t get to pick and choose about forgiveness ion the way he does.

echt · 27/08/2025 11:11

LadyDanburysHat · 27/08/2025 11:03

I don't think he meant victim in a bad way. He is clearly a forgiving man. And I agree that the words of a man who has lost so much, should not be pulled apart.

It's a widely-reported statement, carrying weight in the sentencing of a woman who did utterly dreadful things that have had the most horrendous effect on him, but it's out there and subject to judgement. In this case because he plainly put weight on religion and by implication his status of pastor, and then blew it.

echt · 27/08/2025 11:13

Blueyshift · 27/08/2025 10:55

He is rejoicing that he will no longer suffer from being her victim. Though he clearly will.

It is just semantics he doesn't mean he is gloating she is the victim though I am sure nobody would blame him if he even wished her dead. Most wouldn't forgive. Ian has.

Read. What. He. Said.

He said she was now his victim.

It'd not "just semantics". He had time to prepare this. Posters have claimed he is intelligent so one can only assume he meant what he said.

LadyDanburysHat · 27/08/2025 11:15

@echt you are seriously overthinking this. I think there are plenty of religious people, of which I am not one, who will have taken his words entirely differently to you.

velvetandsatin · 27/08/2025 12:20

echt · 27/08/2025 11:05

Yes. I do. I am not a Christian of any stripe, so don't have to adhere to Christianity.

If he does know what he means, then he is way wide of the Christian mark. You don;t get to pick and choose about forgiveness ion the way he does.

What an insane conglomeration of conflicting statements.

Not a Christian, but somehow also an expert on correct Christian sentiments and speech, and despite not being a Christian, happy to declare a devoted Christian "unChristian", while sitting yourself in unChristian judgement of words plucked out of a phrase you clearly don't understand the meaning or intention of.

Blueyshift · 27/08/2025 12:44

As Pp said he is a christian and therefore human not Jesus.

FeralWoman · 27/08/2025 13:22

echt · 27/08/2025 11:00

That's a new one. And target is no less vindictive.

How about focus? Would that make you feel better? Are you Erin’s sole friend who turned up to court each day and has control over her properties while she’s locked up? You know she’s guilty, right?

TerrorAustralis · 27/08/2025 13:41

velvetandsatin · 27/08/2025 09:30

Seriously. You're critiquing the words in a victim impact statement of a man who should have died, and lives with his lifelimiting injuries and the loss of his wife who died hideously, because it doesn't fit your brand of Christianity?

I think as a Baptist pastor, a thoughtful dignified man, a good man, and an actual victim of serious crime, Ian Wilkinson knows exactly what he means.

There is no one Christianity, no one way to 'be Christian', and I would suggest to you both your judgement of this is very unChristian.

I don’t have a personal brand of Christianity and I don’t doubt he has been through and continues to go through a horrific time.

That said, it’s still a really weird thing to say that she is his victim. That kind of message does not align with any of the Christian messages I’m familiar with.

(For clarity, I am not a Christian, but was raised in a version of it.)

Anyway, I don’t think it’s helpful for the thread to get bogged down in this, and I don’t think anyone is changing anyone’s mind.

Thatsnotmynamee · 27/08/2025 16:03

WHAT THE FUCK AM I READING?? FUCKING HELL

Anzena · 27/08/2025 16:13

Back on track. Is there a mandatory sentence in Oz for murder and would there be multiple sentences for multiple murders? Are multiple sentences concurrent or consecutive, and can the judge set the tariff or is it fixed? I know murder is usually a life sentence, but does that actually mean for the rest of your life in Oz?

As you can guess, I'm not familiar with Aussie rules!

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