Devastated 1:4 chance of downs

[disconnecteddrifter]

I have had 6 consecutive miscarriages and finally got to 13 weeks at the age of 42. Combined test nt 3.8, hcg 1.5, papp a 0.5. This seems certain for downs syndrome in all three areas of the test. I'm going for cvs but it's not looking good. It's stupid to hope isnt it?

Sorry I meant to say got the harmony done right after the scan x

@Simz01 I am in a similar situation - expecting di/di twins and at my NT scan one has come up as higher risk (1:119) while the other is low risk at 1:687. One twin has measured a week behind from the start and I have been worrying about that one since my first scan! It has a smaller CRL but a slightly higher NT measurement than the other twin (1.7mm as opposed to 1.2 mm) I am waiting to hear the results of the Iona NIPT test I had last Thursday and it’s so worrying. I hope things go OK for everybody when we eventually get our results Xx

@Jenjens79 i am sorry you are going through this worry too. The NT measurement looks reasonable but I know it doesn’t help hearing that and only results can help confirm. I think I am expecting the worst but hoping for the best based on our scan and consultants feedback unfortunately xx

Good luck for the Amnio. I suppose consultant is likely right about 70% but it feels like a big gamble, doesn't it?

Thank you @BertieBotts. It's so hard waiting me and my partner are seriously strained. I think I'm going to the amnio on my own. He couldn't arrange childcare for the cvs and didnt bother because he thought it would be nice for me to have his kids there as he would like it if he were in my shoes. He doesnt understand or accept that I would feel differently.

Oh jesus, no of course you don't want to have kids there! Is there someone else who could come with you, maybe your mum or a sister or just a good friend? I know if a friend asked me for a hand hold for this kind of thing I'd definitely go if I could.

How are you getting on ? I ended up having cvs yday x

How was it @Simz01? I have an amnio on weds

@disconnecteddrifter it wasn’t bad as I thought. I think the thought of it and anxiety is worse than the actual procedure. It is more uncomfortable than painful as feel some pressure and cramps, but it was over quickly. I had to do it twice too due to twins, so once will be quick. Also I have heard amnio is slightly easier than cvs so try not to worry , really isn’t bad. I had sore tummy after so it is better if sometime is driving you, my husband came with me. Just read the thread , and don’t think is it something you would want to take the kids too xx Happy to answer any questions x

How are you OP?

Thanks for thinking of me. Weirdly it was painful. It took my breathe away a couple of times and the baby went crazy. Still cramping now so worrying about that. Should know by monday

All the very best OP, for you and your little one.

Thinking of you xx

This may be out of line but OP, does it really matter? Why does it matter so much? This is the baby you have longed for through all of the trials and tribulations and miscarriages, and really if the baby has specific special needs you will manage through them together. I just want to encourage you to possibly look at it slightly differently, this is still the baby you have longed for, no matter the outcome.

SORRY OP, I just read all your comments properly and can see you've already explained why this might be complicated. Apologies for not reading properly. Will be thinking of you.

No worries @arcof Im completely torn because I wish it didnt matter. I'm really attached now. I just have to try to stay positive and it's only a few days to know now.

Thinking of you OP. The wait is hard so do talk as much as you need x

Try and stay positive OP.

@Timekeeper2 not going to get into a bun fight with you on this thread except to say I fundamentally disagree. Have a good evening.

@Timekeeper2 That is not entirely true. These tests are not simply for termination purposes. Many conditions might need assistance before or at the moment of birth. Parents and medical teams want to know as much as possible about a situation where problems might or will arise so they can prepare to treat them immediately. Many times babies are born and although may initially present well in the immediate afterbirth, they will deteriorate within hours. Being able to anticipate these situations is key to facilitating best outcomes.
It is also important to acknowledge how parents feel upon the birth of a child who they believed would be healthy and who may have profound healthy problems. It can take a lot of time for parents to come to terms with this and mixing those emotions with frightening hospital situations is extremely stressful. Being fully informed of a situation, and taking time to process it in your own environment, can be hugely beneficial to parents to be.

What a stressful time your going through. What I can say though is when I was told i had 1:2 chance of a baby with DS there were other markers on the scan and I just new. However with a later pregnancy i was told I had 1:4 and everything else was fine I was fairly sure he was fine but very stressed. Age plays a big part in there odds now and i hope in your case all goes well