Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 4

[NatzCNL]

Welcome to the newest thread of support for those ladies who are pregnant or trying to concieve after terminating for abnormalities. Since this thread first began there have been stories of heart break, sadness and fear, but from these stories there have also been stories of happiness, success and most importantly, hope. Here they are, our thread babies, and may the list continue to grow:

Mishtabel - Bella 22/01/10
Linspins ? Franklin 22/01/10
Shangrila ? baby boy 01/02/10
Can'tdothisagain ? Babycan't 12/04/10
Katerina100 ? baby boy 06/10
NumptyMum - Josie 28/06/10
Allstarsprincess ? Frank 30/07/10
Katiecubs - Felix 13/08/10
GinaFB ? Alexander 03/01/11
LittlePoot - Jacob 02/02/11
Coffeeandchocolate ? Coffeebean 22/02/11
Rushingrachel ? Oliver 02/03/11
Crazycatlady - Lawrence 08/03/11
Dramamama - Isabella 13/03/11
VivClicquot - Phoebe 28/04/11
Lisbeth Salander - baby boy 7/11
Stormbird ? George 24/07/11
Sarahmia ? baby girl 25/07/11
Eavers ? Jacob 11/08/11
Grandj ? Eliot 01/09/11
Babylily ? Miles 05/09/11
NatzCNL - Sienna 26/09/11
Manitz - Sacha 28/09/11
Cherrybug ? Kade 02/11/11
Ghislaine - Charles 14/01/12
Mrsbigz - Callum 19/01/12
MyangelAva - Isabella 21/1/12
Bezzyk - Minibez II 2/2/12

Sorry, I meant 16, 17 & 24th . I was going by my not very effective memory!

hello there, just came on to see how the meet up went and hooray, I'm still in with a chance. However Feb is bad for me generally. Not any saturday and away for half term though we are back on the friday of half term so the weekend just following is free. The first weekend in march can do the sat if not an arsenal game. Otherwise march free unless arsenal are playing at home.... I can check my diary for when that is but don't have it here. Snow is nice here but a bit icy. Hope everyone doing well in their pregnancies. xx

We didn't get very far with this did we?!

Any thoughts on dates, anyone?

At the moment I can come on any weekend day Feb or March. I want to see kitten's bump!

When is your due date Kittens? I may be able to come (prob newborn in tow) if we do it mid/late march x

Hello. I can't make the next two weekends then can't do sun 3rd 10th or 17th march. All a bit busy at the moment but would love to come if I can! x

How about the last week-end in March then? Newborns welcome, Katie :) Another one here who would love to see Kittens' bump. Hmmm, I think I am getting a bit broody... am terrified at the thought of another DC though.

How about 23/24 March then? Last weekend of March is Easter so probably no good for lots of us.

I would also like to meet a little squishy newborn....

I can probably do 23/24 March weekend.

Oh crap-sorry-I can't do that one either! Wedding I'd forgotten about. I could only do the 16th I'm afraid or Easter weekend so I think you might need to miss me out this time....

Could everyone else do the 16th?

Yes, me!

16 march has nothing in the diary, no birthdays and no bloody arsenal. I may even have moved by then so it's looking good for me too. Please let me sniff the newborn...

btw coffee i got pregnant with no 2 by accident and I think i would never have taken the plunge otherwise. It's awful and the greatest thing I ever did (hence why I went on to have 4 more pregnancies!). Go on can I sniff yours too if you have one because I am not allowed any more babies and am just getting extremely broody once they get to 5yo they are much easier and your back doesn't hurt.

sorry - 3 messages in a row and v fond of strike through today. Forgot to ask when you are due katie? must be soon if you can make mid/end march. Good luck. I may just have to get a dog and sacha, despite being a slow developer/quite lazy, is now thinking he should walk and grow teeth and i can't pretend he's a baby any more x

Manitz lol you make me laugh!!

I have 2 weeks left - feeling a bit anxious about it all now, think its just that I am so close to the finish line and I just want to know it will all turn out ok !

I can do 16th too.

Blimey Katie, 2 weeks! How exciting!

I can do the 16th. Wow, 2 weeks left for Katie! Manitz, you made me laugh! I hope all newbies are ok, please don't be put off by old timers arranging when to meet, everyone is welcome if they can make it.

Hello! I've lost my diary and DH shifts are about to get a shake up - but count me in for 16th March please! I think I may actually be able to come - Eek Katie! You have nearly crossed the finish line. I love newborns, but definately finished my lot now. Trying to talk bully hubby into getting the snip....
Sienna is 16 months, cant believe how quick that has gone. We both have rotten chest infections at the moment, and Im on the mother of all antibiotics now which make me light headed (could be the chest infection, but Im blaming the drugs). Had a rubbish start to the year as we lost my Nan at the begining of Jan, so my head has been elsewhere. Now ill and feeling crap, but starting to see the sky again and things brightening up.
I hope everyone is well? Kittens, am very excited to see your bump. How's everything going? Hello to everyone else. Will keep an eye on my PM for confirmation of date and venue xx

Ive not had a chance to go through the thread for a while, but think after Kittens little one arrives, we need to update the thread babies list!!

Well shall we go with the 16th then? I am free and shall try my absolute hadest to make it but can't be 100% as if baby comes late and i end up with a c-sec or something it may not be possible. Fingers crossed though!

One week to go now - at my last mw appointment i was only measuring 34 weeks (5 weeks behind) and had gone down from 35 weeks at the one before. She said this quite normal as baby had dropped and measurments aren't that accurate etc but it's still playing on my mind a bit and i'm paying extra attention to make sure it's moving ok. Luckily he or she is usually quite squirmy.

Nat sorry to hear about your nan and that you are feeling so ill. Hope you are ok and feel better soon xxx

Hello. I'm up for the 16th. Katie-getting so close now! Must be such a mix of emotions. As for the measurement thing, I'm surprised she measured at all because from what I know, it really does mean pretty much nothing in the later stages. Must be worrying for you, but you're right that movement is the key thing. If you think the wriggles have stopped then have a cold drink and move about, then if your still worried then call straight away. Bump measurement is a nonsense when baby's engaged though so try and put that out of your mind if you can. If its dropped already, I have a feeling that baby is not going to be late.... xxxxxxxx

Ahh thanks for the reassurance poot - luckily baby is moving quite and if I do want to check all it takes is a prod!

I hope you are right about not being late too - F was 3 days early so am thinking it may be around this weekend but who knows?! Hope all is well with you and family xxx

Hi ladies.
Am hoping its ok for me to join in on this thread. I will be 9 weeks tomorrow and am getting increasingly nervous and anxious about my upcoming scan (nuchal) and blood work on march 1st. I have had 3 losses in the past 25 mths. First was a natural miscarriage @11wks which I found extremely hard to deal with. My second loss was at 13wk 6days after a bad scan and blood work showed 1 in 4 risk of one of the trisomies. A cvs confirmed it was trisomy 13 (not compatible with life) and we made the hardest decision I've ever had to make and end his little life. I really struggled with day to day life after this and finally got pregnant again 9 mths later only to have a very early miscarriage. I was due to start on clomid to help me ovulate but discovered I was pregnant early in the year. I am really scared I might be faced with another heart breaking decision again and devastating outcome and have no idea how i will cope. My husband is away travelling until the night before the scan so I just wanted to have some people to chat with in the leading up time. I should mention that I already have 2DS who continue to give me much joy.
Thanks in advance

Hi Maryangela-of course you're very welcome here, I'm just sorry that you need to be. I can certainly sympathise with how worried you must be-my now 2 year olds was pregnancy number 3 and I had a very hard time dealing with the termination and miscarriage before that. You've come to the right place though-its a little quiet at the moment but there are ladies here with ask sorts of stories, ultimately of hope, and wise words along the way. I hope you can take some comfort from the list of thread babies at the start-proof that it really can work out in the end. if kittens is around, she can certainly offer some empathy-multiple pregnancies before getting to this stage (about to start Nct classes!). But all of us will happily hold a virtual hand and keep everything crossed for your scan. You might have noticed a few are arranging a lunch in London soon which you'd also be more than welcome to join if you're any where near.
Katie's gone a bit quiet-a little dickie bird told me there might be a good reason for that.... xx