nuchal test 1:11 for down syndrome, waiting for cvs result

[drivingmisscrazy]

not sure why I am posting really - just need a bit of hand-holding while waiting for cvs results (friday all being well). We are in shock, although shouldn't be - nuchal fold measurement 2.77mm (at 12w6d), nasal bone present (although this wasn't factored into test), one set of bad bloods (forgot to ask which), maternal age 41.

we will terminate if it's downs, and this will be our last pregnancy if that happens. Now I know that 1 in 11 means that there are 10 chances it will be fine, but I am preparing mentally for worse case scenario. Someone has to be the one. We are very stressed, of course, but this is made worse by the fact that we live somewhere that terminations are illegal, so DP will have to travel, most likely alone (we have a dd aged 2) in the event of a termination. This feels nearly as dreadful to me as the termination itself - that I won't be able to be there to comfort her :(

Just to avoid confusion, we are a gay couple and it is my DP who is carrying.

all well at scan, everything in place, spot on and delightfully average...while we were there, heard the receptionist telling somebody that results weren't in yet. We so wanted to give whoever was on the other end of the phone a hug - such a hard place to be.

Hopefully my next update will be a birth announcement...thanks to all of you again - your support and kindness made those terrible days so much easier to bear.

Yay, congrats, Rhetorician/Driving. That's lovely news. Now you can look forward to meeting your little girl. Will you have two little girls? I have two little girls, and it's lovely :)

drivingmisscrazy:
I had to go as well to a specialist heart scan because nuchal was high.
All turned out well :))))))) They never got an explanation for the high NT.
My baby girl turned 18 months yesterday. She is gorgious, healthy and happy :)))

Try and enjoy! Sending goods wishes! x

cantdothisagain yes 2 little girls; DD very excited about her little sister; we didn't have specialist scan, but they are going to check again at 24 weeks jaabar what a lovely story! fabulous

it is all horrible, but I do think that it makes you appreciate how great normal is

this baby that we worried about so much was born on sunday at 13.08. She is perfect, 7lbs 8oz, sleeping on my lap.

congratulations

Ive just read this thread and wanted to say congratulations too. Must be a wonderful feeling to be holding her and knowing everything will be ok :)

she is doing a good line in cluster feeding right now but we are so lucky, and I so often look at her and think about those terrible days and it reminds me to check back here and offer support to people going through it