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CVS tomorrow (6th April)

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KnitterNotTwitter · 05/04/2011 19:53

I had my 12 week Nuchal scan today and the combined result came back as 1:3 risk for trisomy. The nuchal measurement itself was 6mm. Bloods were:

Free Beta HcG 24.790 IU/U equivalent to 0.6825 MoM
PAPP-A: 0.200 IU/I equivalent to 0.1823 MoM

Just wanted to post to see if anyone had any thoughts, positive stories or suggestions for me... My CVS is tomorrow...6th April

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LisamumtoJake · 13/04/2011 14:47

I'm so sorry to hear the sad news Knitter, was really wishing for you. Really do take care of yourself x

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KnitterNotTwitter · 13/04/2011 15:40

Thanks so much everyone. Just had lovely cuddle/sob with DH and then lunch... Still feel rather in shock to be honest.

RunDMC I do remember you - hope you're doing well now ?

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BlueCat83 · 13/04/2011 17:04

So so sorry been following your thread and really hoped you would get good news. xxxx

nickstermum · 13/04/2011 18:05

((((((huge hugs))))) Knitter Thinking of you and your family right now honey xxx

MummyAbroad · 13/04/2011 19:49

Just wanted to say sorry once again. Its so so unfair. My heart really goes out to you. much love M.A. xxx

PinkFondantFancy · 13/04/2011 20:15

knitter just to say again I'm so so sorry to hear your news. You so deserved some good luck :( I'm thinking of you and your family and hope that these next few days and weeks go as well as they can be hoped to xxxx

Ninunina · 13/04/2011 20:55

knitter I've been in floods of tears since hearing your news, I can't begin to imagine how you're feeling. Life is just so cruel sometimes.

Thinking of you and giving you courage to get through the next few weeks xxx

Sparklies · 13/04/2011 21:55

I am so, so sorry you didn't get the news you needed to hear. Sending you strength for the coming time ahead and I hope everything goes as well as it can.

Dilligaf81 · 13/04/2011 23:31

Im so sorry. x

misty0 · 14/04/2011 07:35

Knitter - i just wanted to post again to say that we are all here for you xxx

As you know i'm only a short time ahead of you in what we are going through and - although i know that all our decisions and feelings are totaly individual - i just wanted to make sure you know your not alone

Anything you want to say or ask is fine. I have found tremendous support and love here over the last few days - and i intend to try my best to return some of it (as best i can) when its needed xxxxxx

mrsbigz · 14/04/2011 10:48

knitter :( i'm so sorry to hear of your news (and belatedly at that!) i was praying that your results would turn out differently. as misty said there is a fantastic support network on here, for those who have been in this situation which i've found invaluable, so when you're ready please feel free to ask anything, shout/scream/cry - we're all there to listen and hopefully help at such a dark time.
sending you many healing vibes xxxxx

Emoo · 14/04/2011 12:02

Knitter - I have been looking out for your news and I'm so so sorry it wasn't what we all wanted to hear, and I'm so sad that life has been so unfair to you recently. Sad I do hope you get well looked after while you try to recover from this, and get some better luck in the very near future. And I hope in particular that you manage to find some sort of solution that works for you in terms of the timing/wedding etc. You are so kind and gracious to us all, thanks for your good wishes. Take care sweetheart. x

owlbooty · 14/04/2011 12:21

Hello lovely :) Just to say that am still thinking of you and your family and hoping you're okay. Your gold-plated super-comfy VIP beanbag will be there waiting for you as will we xxx

IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 14/04/2011 12:34

knitter just popping in to see how you're doing and how you got on with the clinic today. Thinking of you and your family, big (((hugs))) xx

hubbard86 · 14/04/2011 12:52

knitter i was on the feb 11 bus and have been watching out for news i am so sorry that you have had to go through this. You are in my thoughts and prayers

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KnitterNotTwitter · 14/04/2011 14:29

Hi

Just reporting back following our trip to the hospital today... I went early and had a scan at the EPU to say goodbye to the bean. He was there wriggling away and had grown quite a lot - was 8.4cm today. His Nuchal fold measurement was still massive... Felt very sad that I was about to go upstairs and say that I didn't want him any more when in so many ways I do. But the impact and implications are just too much for us.

Then it was up to the FMU where we had a chat with a midwife, consent signing with the doctor and then bloods were taken and that was it. I held it together pretty well until the point where I had to sign the consent. That really felt like the point where the decision was made... the point of no return. And it was horrible to feel I was signing my bean's death warrant... poor little bean

The removal is tomorrow afternoon.... we report to DAy Surgery at 12.30.

Thanks so much for all the lovely words, wishes and finger crossing...

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manitz · 14/04/2011 14:38

Really sorry you are going through this. Good luck xx

Bumpsadaisie · 14/04/2011 14:56

Knitter -

It's heart breaking to think of this. Sad

Will be thinking of you tomorrow - it's an awful decision to have to make and you've been very brave indeed.

Bumps x

Cinnamondog · 14/04/2011 15:17

Knitter - you did not sign bean's death warrant, that evil, horrible b*stard fate who has got us all lately did. You have made an impossible decision, and are in no way at fault or to blame. This is not a choice; none of here would choose this. Please, please take the love, good wishes and hugs that are being sent to you and be as strong as possible. If only we could work out why bad things happen to good people. Bean is loved; he knows it, you know it and we all know it too. Take care xxx

misty0 · 14/04/2011 16:07

knitter, cinnamon is right. Its so hard to be strong and go forward and do what you know is right for you when your maternal instincts are all ticking away.

The only thing i can think of to say to you knitter is that in my experience this now is the hardest time. Lean on your OH and support him back xxxxxx

No one can say anything which will realy help ... we're all holding your hand from here xxx

tunnocksteacake · 14/04/2011 16:23

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KnitterNotTwitter · 14/04/2011 16:45

Forgot to say that the CVS results told us the bean is/was a little boy.

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IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy · 14/04/2011 17:04

knitter what a difficult day Sad Sad. Please don't see it as you saying you didn't want him or that you were signing his death warrant, we all know how much you wanted this baby - none of this is your doing and you've done your best for him all the way through. You've had a terrible decision to make, and you and dh have made a really brave decision based on what's best for your family - that's all you can do.

I'm glad you got to say goodbye to him, and to know that he's a boy; although it might feel like it makes things harder right now, I think you'll come to value that time and knowledge, if that makes sense.

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers tomorrow and over the coming days xx

Blackkat · 14/04/2011 19:45

Oh knitter, just read your post from earlier today and am gutted for you all over again. What a tough, tough thing to have to do. Sad Sad

I will be thinking of you tomorrow and hope that things go as smoothly as can be expected in such a difficult situation. ((hugs)) I hope you have the time and space afterwards to get some proper rest.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers xxx

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KnitterNotTwitter · 14/04/2011 21:19

Thanks so much everyone

It's so weird to know that at the moment I'm pregnant but this time tomorrow I won't be... and it's my 'choice'. This baby is/was so loved and wanted, and in many ways is still but it's just the implications that are so far reaching if we were to continue. I know that fate has mucked everything about and that we've been incredibly unlucky. But it is all so difficult right now.

After the trip to the hospital I treated myself to a trip to the shops to buy a different dress to wear to the Wedding and my parents party on Sunday. I got a lovely dress and accessories which is going to be paid for out of the money that I had started saving for when I was going to be on Maternity Leave. So even if I'm crying on the inside I'll look lovely on the outside.

FWIW I'll be heading straight down to the West Country from hospital so won't be able to post an update until later tomorrow - but I will post so you all know how it went.

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