Hey everyone.
I need some advice because I honestly don’t know what to do.
I have been married since I was 19. My husband is around 10 years older than me, and I have been living with this kind of behaviour for years. This morning he said some very disturbing things, including that he hates me, that he should have married a better woman, and comments about me dying in my sleep. He also called me his enemy.
I come from a Pakistani Muslim background and him African, and growing up I didn’t always see healthy relationship dynamics around me. Because of this, I sometimes struggle to know what is normal and what isn’t, and whether I am overreacting.
I feel completely overwhelmed and I feel like I need help making a safe plan. I’m considering speaking to my health visitor, but I’m scared about what happens if I ask for help. I don’t want things to immediately become police involvement or lots of agencies — I need advice and support to understand my options.
What would you do in my situation?