score of 14 after mood questionaire

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Ds3 is 4 weeks old. Hv came today to do routine visit she asked me to answer a mood questionaire which I scored 14 points. Is that good bad or an average score?
I did voice a few concerns to her, she's coming back to see me in a few weeks

It depends on which questionnaire it was. If it was something called the PHQ-9, which is quite widely used, then a score of 14 it indicates moderate depression. How are you feeling? Are you managing to get up and get out?

Thanks for your reply, there was about 8 questions with each one having 4 different options for answers. I have been very up and down some days I do get out but I prefer to be at home.

I don't think waiting a few weeks for another visit from a HV is going to be much of a help. Even say you are not depressed, you're clearly not too happy either and could use some more support. There may be a group in your area for women with PND - this could be just like a baby group, but with people a bit more understanding that it's not a bed of roses for everyone, or it might involve counselling. They won't throw you you if you turn out not to have pnd!
Four weeks though is still so young, at the world-turned-upside-down stage. Are there any particular things you're having trouble with, is it sleep/anxiety/feeding problem, or just a general "lowness"?
Whatever you're feeling, there are women on mumsnet who have felt it too

I'm just feeling low in general. I've no anxiety at all regards the baby in fact the way I'm caring for him/ how he is is the one thing I'm confident in my abilities. He's a very happy baby, feeds and sleeps well. It's the rest of life and the world I want to shut out wish everyone would just leave us alone

I'm sorry to hear that, of course you don't have to join a million baby groups or invite all your relatives round to see the baby, there's nothing wrong with spending time alone with your new baby. I do think getting out of the house is quite important, even if you just push the pram around for a while. The spring will help with this! Do you know any other new mums/have friends with dcs?

I've got 2 older ds so have to do the school pick up every day so we do get out for that. It's the older ds and dh I do not want to be around which is a horrible thing for a mother to say. I've been fine all day but cried within minutes of them coming home from school, as for dh I can't bear to look at him never mind speak to him.

I went a bit overly protective of my newborn around his older brother - I think I saw him as a threat! It calmed down after a time. But since you are experienced at this new baby lark, how does it compare to how you felt with dc1 or 2?

Hello I was wondering if anyone could offer me some advice I am 16 weeks pregnant and I have been having really strong suicidal thoughts due to my anxiety and depression and insomnia I have admitted myself into hospital so that I can get the best possible help to fight this because the last thing I want is for social services to take my baby . At the time when I was at my lowest I didn't feel any connection to the baby which sounds awful I know and I thought the baby would be better off without me .. I didn't harm myself because o knew that would harm my baby so Hello I was wondering if anyone could offer me some advice I am 16 weeks pregnant and I have been having really strong suicidal thoughts due to my anxiety and depression and insomnia I have admitted myself into hospital so that I can get the best possible help to fight this because the last thing I want is for social services to take my baby . At the time when I was at my lowest I didn't feel any connection to the baby which sounds awful I know and I thought the baby would be better off without me .. I didn't harm myself because o knew that would harm my baby so I have seeked help .. My doctor has said because I was suicidal they have to inform social services as a procedure I am so scared that they will take my baby off me
Thank you x