to be really p'ed off with dh over a sandwich???

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i make ds's(10) packed lunch the night before and put it in his lunch box on the fridge. This is because mornings are hectic with a 7 month old dd and the school run...

I did the same last night and went to bed at half ten as dh had decided to pop for a pint when he finished work at ten... I woke dh at half six this morning as he had to be at work at half seven and then went to see to dd...

Dh has just texted me on way to work to say he had eaten half of ds's sandwiches last night!!!!

We have loads of snack food in the fridge, loads of ham and bread and cheese so he could have made himself one, plus i left a baked potato in the microwave for him!!!

I am furious! He thinks i am being ott and told me to 'chill'!!!! Aibu??

Not really no. He could and should have eaten something else - but at least he told you.

So - he makes extra work for you, doesn't seem to think there is anything wrong with that (which is unreasonable) - how about you leave his dinner in kit form for him to make himself and see how he likes it?

YANBU - tell him he will be in charge of making packed lunches from now on....

YANBU at all, what a total arse. And you had to wake him up, does he not have an alarm clock?!
I'd be informing him that he is cooking dinner this evening and making DS's packed lunches for the rest of the week. You're both parents, not just you.

i tend to wake him when he is on an early as he doesnt turn off his alarm quickly and will snooze it a few times waking dd up.... This way its easier!

Good idea about dinner tonight.... Will see what his response to that is!

FGS, it's a sandwich. he's not murdered the cat, he's not urinated in your underwear drawer and he hasn't eaten everything in the kitchen.

You've got bread, ham and cheese, make another one.

I will go against the grain here but it is not the end of the world is it? It is ennoying and frustrating I give you that but call him a total arse for that is a bit OTT, non?

I think you're rather missing the point there, Soupy - it's not just about the sandwich, it's the lack of responsibility, thought and care for the OP having to now make another sandwich whilst looking after 7mo DD etc etc.

The sandwich itself is the least of it.

If the OP is a SAHM, the comment that "You're both parents, not just you." doesn't really mean anything.
Yes, they are both parents but he goes out to work and she works in the home, doing the house and family stuff. It's her job.

YADNBU I would be serverly annoyed and fwiw I dont think you are being ott, its not reallt about the sandwich its about him being lazy as he couldnt be bothered to make his own last night and he basically doesnt care that he has created another job for you that you had already done

Thumb, have never ever used/ eaten something that was not necessarely meant for you?

For all we know he might have meant to do another one in the morning and then forgot about it, realised on his way to work and called OP so she is aware of the situation before she actually leaves home for the school run with just half a sandwich for her DC?

Yes, but she already DID her job and he sabotaged it!

He was just being a bit lazy, but he should have made the sandwich this morning.

Oh FFS,
I'm not missing the point, it's ONE sandwich! Get a grip! it's not a three course meal she has to make, it's a sandwich.
It takes five minutes.
Its really not that difficult.

In my supreme Perfectly Organised Mother role, I have sworn profusely under my breath and rushed back in from the car to make an entire packed lunch in less than 5 minutes.

Yes, its annoying but it's hardly worth fighting about.
Your DH is right, you need to chill.

If he was feeling remorseful, he should have apologised, not told her to "chill"

Gorionine - er no, I don't think so, not since I've had my own home. But then I've both lived as a lodger and had lodgers, so I'm quite keen on the proprietorial rights over whose food is whose. (does that mean what I want it to?)

I got pretty peed off with DH the other day because DS had a Kinder egg - he was allowed half but not the other half, I asked DH to wrap it because I was busy with something else - somehow he interpreted "wrap it up and put it in the cupboard" as eat half of it first! It was DS's, not his.

It's ONE sandwich ONCE.

If he regularly scoffs the packed lunch its fair enough to be this pissed off (although you should start hiding it better if that's the case!).

But it's not, it's a one off.

I would be very annoyed with DH but agree that it is only a sandwich and can be made again quickly. Possibly even in the time it takes to post about it on here.

And getting him to make all sandwiches and supper etc is going a bit over the top.

Whether he was out of order telling her to chill rather depends on the OPs response to him.

Actually, Noah, thats a very good point. The school run is so hectic with a 7month old that she can't easily make a sandwich yet she can post on MN

Which reminds me that I need to make a packed lunch for DD...

In our house, food in the cupboards tends to belong to everyone living there. The only thing is for the children to ask pe5rmission before they take something to avoid snack colliding with meal but other than that food does not belong to one more than another. The concept is strange to me. (obviously different if sharing home with people you are not realated to).

Had friends arround for two weeks once and the wife was cross against my DH because he had eaten half her pizza (by that she meant the pizza She had put in the shpooing trolley and that DH had payed for). People have strange ideas on what they are entitled to (not related to OP, just made me think of it)

packed lunch done. how long did that take...?