to be really p'ed off with dh over a sandwich???

[notremotelyintofootie]

i make ds's(10) packed lunch the night before and put it in his lunch box on the fridge. This is because mornings are hectic with a 7 month old dd and the school run...

I did the same last night and went to bed at half ten as dh had decided to pop for a pint when he finished work at ten... I woke dh at half six this morning as he had to be at work at half seven and then went to see to dd...

Dh has just texted me on way to work to say he had eaten half of ds's sandwiches last night!!!!

We have loads of snack food in the fridge, loads of ham and bread and cheese so he could have made himself one, plus i left a baked potato in the microwave for him!!!

I am furious! He thinks i am being ott and told me to 'chill'!!!! Aibu??

Oh come off it, I've 'lost' whole packets of fishfingers,burgers, packets of ham, cheese, cakes etc. when DH comes in from pub [sometimes with a gaggle of mates]. Ok I would have something to say, but that would be it, no more said. Life is too short!

ok... To answer a few points...

1. I work full time too, but do the vast majority of childcare and housework
2. Yes he works varying shifts and i have offered to do him a pack at the same time as i do ds's, he says no he can do his own so fair enough
3. I posted while breastfeeding dd.... Cant make sandwiches at same time yet, but hey multitasking is good so perhaps i should work on it!
4. I agree, its not much to make a new sandwich but why should i have to when i did them last night! In the effort it took him to dig out ds's lunch etc he could have made himself one....
5. Yes, all food is everyones but making up a kids packed lunch for school at 10pm kind of ear marks that bit for the morning... Its not as if the stuff to make sandwiches had been all used up!
6. I know some will say about posting now too but hey! I'm on the loo! Tmi i kniw but just before someone mentions being hectic again....
7. My response to dh wasnt half as bad as it could have been....
8. It is the principle/respect thing that i'm annoyed about!

Altinkum - wtf are you on about? DS is only allowed a limited amount of chocolate - a Kinder egg (or half) is a decent size - but DH seemed to think it was ok to appropriate his son's chocolate, rather than shift his arse to the cupboard to get some for himself - how is that me being strange about food?

Other posters are right, it does only make 5 minutes to knock a sandwich together. So why couldn't the lazy sod do that himself last night?! I think you're absolutely right, if my DH had done this I'd have slapped his bone idle, inconsiderate arse all around the kitchen!

Not worth falling out over though, just call him a git then move on.

i'm not upset about the replies, i am happy to go along with the majority....

And yes i know its only one sandwich but am i his slave? No, he could have made himself one instead of being selfish! And no, i'm not going to divorce him on this but i am bloody annoyed at him! Am i right in thinking that everyone who says iabu for being annoyed wouldnt mind at all if their dh ate theirs/their kids lunches instead of making themselves one? Fair enough!

Have a fab day everyone, i think i'll make dh buy me a kinder egg to apologise!

You aint unreasonable - it is annoying as you have already made the packed lunch. Plenty of other food in the fridge to eat, plus something in the microwave yet chappy goes and scoffs son's sarnies. It might just be a one off, but why should that mean you can't be annoyed?

If this happened a lot it would annoy me too as it is inconsiderate (and the fact he goes OUT to work in no way nullify's her staying home to work imo btw...) ... maybe DH is hinting he'd also like a packed lunch for work ;)

I'd be pissed off too. It's not crime of the century, but it is bloody inconsiderate. He looked in the fridge, and chose to eat the sandwiches which he must have known were for his DCs lunch. He must have realised that they had been made in order to save time in the morning, but apparently felt that his need for a sandwich right now was greater than his wife's need to keep the morning rush to a minimum. He was a nobber.

altinkum - that's your attitude and you are entitled to have it - equally I am entitled to have mine which is that DS's chocolate is DS's - not to be scoffed by anyone else. My attitude is not "wrong" - it just doesn't match yours.

Yes, I agree with the above assessment of 'not crime of the century but bloody inconsiderate'. YANBU.

Altinkum yes, sharing's great and all, but surely there's a point where you respect that certain portions of food are for particular people. If you were sitting eating with your family and your DH took all the food off your plate and ate it himself, even though he had his own, because he said he wanted more food, would you say 'oh well, it's all family food', or would you think that he should have let you eat what was on your plate and got himself some more food from the kitchen?

Crikey, I wish this was all I had to worry about!

Surely it's not about "food ownership" and sharing issues!? It's about the fact that the OP's DH decided that he was too lazy to make his own sandwich, and that his wife could pick up the slack in the morning.

Actually he probably didn't think anything, but thoughtlessness is just as bad!

Oh get a life you lot!

for goodness sake, it's a sandwich - hardly crime of the century.

exactly! Its the thoughtlessness thats so annoying!!!!!

and what makes it more annoying is last week ds lost his packed lunch box so i made his sandwiches and put them in a bag in the fridge, i said to dh 'oh those sandwiches are ds's for his lunch tomorrow, please don't eat them' to which he had replied 'of course i wouldn't eat them, you didnt need to say that'..... Now it seems even being in ds's packed lunch box is not enough and i do need to say it!!!

Flippin heck this is something I often do when I come home late and DH has already made the boys lunch for the next day.

The solution is to make some more butties. It doesn't matter who makes them again sometimes me sometimes him- it is hardly a big deal.

I can not believe some of the stropy answers (perhaps I should I've been here long enough to know that anyones DH that does a slight against someone is selfish, inconsiderate and should wear sackcloth and ashes forever!!)

it is only a sandwich but I would be fuming too tbh.......whether unreasonable or not!

It only takes a minute to make another sandwich so perhaps the dh could have made his own last night. Or replaced it this morning.

YANBU imo.

I would be pissed off. Extra work in the morning whilst sorting dcs and getting ready for work.

Altinkum at your extrapolations, which I find frankly ridiculous. But you carry on with your opinions.