to be really p'ed off with dh over a sandwich???

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i make ds's(10) packed lunch the night before and put it in his lunch box on the fridge. This is because mornings are hectic with a 7 month old dd and the school run...

I did the same last night and went to bed at half ten as dh had decided to pop for a pint when he finished work at ten... I woke dh at half six this morning as he had to be at work at half seven and then went to see to dd...

Dh has just texted me on way to work to say he had eaten half of ds's sandwiches last night!!!!

We have loads of snack food in the fridge, loads of ham and bread and cheese so he could have made himself one, plus i left a baked potato in the microwave for him!!!

I am furious! He thinks i am being ott and told me to 'chill'!!!! Aibu??

YANBU If he texted to say he had eaten DS sandwich then he knew it had been made for
for him. Whilst you are preparing for your hectic morning he was in the pub. He came home and rather that trouble himself with making a sandwich he took the one you had made because it made his life easier. It was a little selfish.

But he had been to work, got home late and he did tell you. So not a hanging offence.

YANBU

It's pretty obvious that a sandwich that's been put in child's lunch box is meant for that child. And that the OP made it in advance because they were trying to save themselves a job in the morning so they could, say, get 5 minutes more sleep.

I'd be annoyed if my DH did this. But if it's a one off and he grovelled apologised appropriately I'd get over it pretty quickly - worse things have happened.

Hilarious thread - massiver over-use of the icon by Altinkum - have you just discovered it or something?

Classic mn - 'oh I wish this was all I had to worry about' line.

OP I'd have been irritated too - am guessing you won't divorce over it but in the scheme of things it would have been a minor annoyance on which to start the day.

YANBU. Yes, ok, it's not a really big deal, but it's thoughtless and selfish. He could very easily have made his own last night.

Oh and anyone who goes near MY chocolate knows all about it.

OP, you are definitely not BU to think your DH is a lazy sod for rooting around in his son's packed lunch box rather than make himself a sandwich when he came back from the pub. That sort of behaviour is only justified if you're hammered! It would never have been an issue if he'd just made another sandwich in the morning but he waited till he was clear of the house to 'fess up! Big baby!

And as for the people saying get a life, its only a sandwich, that's a bit unfair. Sometimes its the little things that really get on your nerves in a relationship.

If you both work full time why do you do the majority of the housework and childcare?

YANBU, and all those who are saying "it's only a sandwich, make another one" are missing the point.
It was thoughtless on his part (was he pissed?), which is putting a gloss on it, in view of the conversation you had last week when he was snippy about you unnecessarily pointing out that the sandwich in the bag was for DS.
But if he'd just acknowledged that this morning, and said "OK , sorry, wasn't thinking." rather than "chill woman" then it'd be easier to drop.

YANBU to be annoyed that he ate the sandwich but I suppose it's not worth WW3 over.

I would have been more annoyed that he left for work without making a replacement himself - if he ate it, why can't he replace it? It's the polite thing to do!

Am I the only one who thinks that DS should be making his own sandwiches - after all, he is 10. Or is that a new thread .

Very annoying, if DH did that I would expect him to get up and make the new sandwich himself.

He wouldn't though because DS1 thinks cream cheese and vegemite are the height of sandwich fillings and most normal people find that fairly revolting.

No you aren't. Selfish behaviour.

Dear god... You were on the loo,posting, from 7.20 until 8.10??
No wonder your mornings are hectic.
You need to see a doctor about that though

"Am i right in thinking that everyone who says iabu for being annoyed wouldnt mind at all if their dh ate theirs/their kids lunches instead of making themselves one?"

But you weren't merely annoyed, you were really pissed off and furious. I would have muttered under my breath, told him to make his own snack in future and then let it go.

I thought that your DS was already at school with only half a sandwich and your DH had just told you. I would be pissed off with that. But having seen the time of the OP and the fact that there was actually time to make another one, yes YABU. Annoying but no big deal.

No, YANBU in the slightest. It was selfish and inconsiderate. If he'd eaten it and then made another one, OR apologised profusely, fair enough but he didn't. He told you to make a new one??? So that is your job in life to make sandwiches when he can't be a**d to make his own, I would find that bloody disrespectful!! Your priority is looking after the children, he is an adult he can make his own food when he rolls in from the pub..... I'd go loopy if my OH did that and if he told me to "chill" he would have been told where to shove it.....

I suggest planting a round of pedigree chum sandwiches in DS's lunch box next time your DH skips off down the pub. That'll learn him to make his own butties!

I have just read through this thread. I can't believe the direction that it took and am sad to say that that's 6 minutes of my life that I will never get back

What's yours is mine and what's mines me own! It's an old Brummie saying my Mom used to say in jest!!