To be mad at DP's arguement?

[fyimate]

So let me just start by saying, love my DP very much but he recently got very grumpy because the house wasnt as neat and tidy as he likes it, my argument is I have DD (4yo) to entertain ALL DAY as she doesnt go school yet, also have to go to the shops for groceries then when I get back usually do the hoovering/ironing/washing up dishes/clothes. Seriously, if I take on anymore than this my DD gets upset because she has no one else to play with but me. Oh and when I tried to clean out the cupboards whilst he was indoors (so he could watch/play with DD) he got grumpy because "it's not the right time to do it" ie I was getting in his way, and said I should do all these things when he's at work!...
AIBU or is he?

What I meant was because he's high maintance on cleaning, and I accepted that when we got together.
But I didnt realise he would expect me to make it look like Buckingham Palace when I havent even got childcare.
Maybe I should just try harder. See how DD takes it if I clean the cupboards out tomorr---oh no wait, he'll be home, he's on nightshifts.

ANd PLEASE scrap the idea of self defence classes!

Why? If it gives her self confidence and protection...why?

I actually just saw a karate school near me...

Protection from what? If she's shown an interest in one of the martial arts that's fine- good exercise and good for the confidence, but it's not self defence!

fyimate - was that apology to me (not Riven)?

I only have two children but they are only years apart and sometimes they fight. It's hard, and it's draining, but I'm fairly sure it doesn't make me a bad mother. Your comments made me feel like shit but now I see that it has much more to do with you and your life than mine.

If your apology was to me though, thank you. I feel better for havign some perspective on it now.

Not sure where I got Riven from..
Er just as you didnt like me making judgment on your life, how is it your now doing that to mine?

One good turn deserves another.

fair enough.
I say stupid things sometimes. I think a name change will fix that
Havent done it yet though.

Ah, don't worry, we all do. You just caught me on a very bad day and I took it to heart more than I should have.