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AIBU?

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to be fuming at my MIL for bringing my DD home late

72 replies

mendipgirl · 28/06/2010 14:25

My DD has been with her grandparents this weekend as we were at Glasto (working so she couldn't come with us.) She is only 19 months old and it is her first time away so I am desperate to see her, I rang them this morning and they said they would bring her back after lunch (they only live 30mins away) so I was thinking about 1pm, then she rang at 1.30 and said they would leave in 15 mins and now has just rung at 2.15 to say they are just leaving! I am fuming, how hard is it to stick to a plan?? I could have gone and picked her up if they said they had other things to do but they offered to bring her back. I know they have done us a big favour this weekend, but I have been waiting all day to see her and miss her soo much! I am really going to have to restrain myself when they finally get here!!!

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moondog · 28/06/2010 14:26

Jesus, get a grip.

LisaD1 · 28/06/2010 14:27

YABU to be fuming at your MIL who has cared for your child to enable you to do something else for the weekend!

I can understand that you've missed her but maybe your mil is enjoying her time with her and has just lost track of time?

clam · 28/06/2010 14:27

Erm..... dare I say YABU?
I understand you've missed her but they have done you a huge favour. Be nice!

OrmRenewed · 28/06/2010 14:27

Oh dear.

I think you may be over-reacting a little.

seeker · 28/06/2010 14:28

Huh???????

What moondog said.

comewhinewithme · 28/06/2010 14:28

yeah it was really nice of them to take care of her all weekend.

I think you need to think about why you sound like such a spoilt brat.

gingernutlover · 28/06/2010 14:28

you are right, they have done you a massive favour so I think YAB abitU.

If you wanted her back by a specific time then you should have said so, or gone to get her.

It sounds like you have missed her a lot but an hour or 2 makes no difference does it? I would take it as a sign that they have had a fun weekend with her and enjoyed looking after her - and that they may do it again.

mayorquimby · 28/06/2010 14:28

yes you sound like a nightmare

ShatnersBassoon · 28/06/2010 14:28

Give them a break.

DanJARMouse · 28/06/2010 14:28

I would say 2.15pm is after lunch.

I think you are over-reacting a bit, and Im sure MIL will have looked after your DD very well. Of course you have missed her, but Im sure MIL is probably sad that her 121 time with DD is coming to an end.

I would relax and be VERY nice to MIL when she arrives, she has done you a huge favour after all, and it wont be long until you will be thankful for an extra half hour here or there!

rookiemater · 28/06/2010 14:29

After lunch is anytime between 1pm - 3pm, therefore your ILs are not technically late.

It is hard the first time you are away from your DC and I know I was keen to see DS, but when they do arrive grateful thanks for looking after her all weekend so you were able to work might be more in order.

Alternatively what Moondog said.

Greensleeves · 28/06/2010 14:29

what?!?

she will be home by 3ish

that is after lunch

you sound very anxious, are you usually like this about your dd?

Jamieandhismagictorch · 28/06/2010 14:29

Sorry, YABU. they looked after your DD, and kept you posted with phonecalls.

If you missed her. that's entirely normal, but you can't then be ungrateful to your ILs. I can't really think of an AIBU that has been more U.

SloanyPony · 28/06/2010 14:29

Gosh, please dont have a go at them! Sounds like they've been having a blast, sounds like you had a blast, what's not to like? YABU and dont know how lucky you are!!!

compo · 28/06/2010 14:30

Yabu
you know how easy it is to get delayed with a litle one
I hope you've got mil a pressie for looking after your dd
it's sweet though how much you've missed her - give her a huge cuddle

Jamieandhismagictorch · 28/06/2010 14:30

Really hope you aren't rude to them ...

Iklboo · 28/06/2010 14:31

Your MIL said 'after lunch.'You 'were thinking' 1pm. You didn't ask for a specific time. I understand you've missed your DD but YAB (a bit) U.

ShirleyKnot · 28/06/2010 14:31

YANBU.

You're at home ready for your child to be delivered back to you, and they're not there at the exact second you expect them to be? I would go MAD, and I would tell DH in no uncertain terms to sort out his stupid parents ONCE AND FOR ALL. The bastards.

scurryfunge · 28/06/2010 14:32

Don't see why you think this is a problem.

Jenbot · 28/06/2010 14:32

It is hard sometimes to get out of the door on time even when you are the primary carer. If your MIL doesn't do it every day it'll be more difficult for her. Yabu I think. Sorry!

maresedotes · 28/06/2010 14:33

She's not coming home that late - yabu. You should count yourself lucky you have someone to care for your child all weekend!

mumofthreesweeties · 28/06/2010 14:33

YADBU

WitchyWooWoo · 28/06/2010 14:33

i was expecting 11pm or some nonsense when i clicked the tab

jeez, enjoy the time to yourself... you say it takes 30 minutes for them to get to you? sit down put your feet up and have a cuppa ffs!

yabu

we all love our children, we all miss them but you NEED a break.

seeker · 28/06/2010 14:34

And on what planet is "after lunch' !.00?

Jamieandhismagictorch · 28/06/2010 14:35

I am fuming, how hard is it to stick to a plan??

I recall that with a 19 month old it's actually rather difficult to stick to a plan, even if you are the parent

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