to be fuming at my MIL for bringing my DD home late

[mendipgirl]

My DD has been with her grandparents this weekend as we were at Glasto (working so she couldn't come with us.) She is only 19 months old and it is her first time away so I am desperate to see her, I rang them this morning and they said they would bring her back after lunch (they only live 30mins away) so I was thinking about 1pm, then she rang at 1.30 and said they would leave in 15 mins and now has just rung at 2.15 to say they are just leaving! I am fuming, how hard is it to stick to a plan?? I could have gone and picked her up if they said they had other things to do but they offered to bring her back. I know they have done us a big favour this weekend, but I have been waiting all day to see her and miss her soo much! I am really going to have to restrain myself when they finally get here!!!

This thread is what my kids used to refer to as the 'hour long telling off'

Everyone else has told you YABU so I wont bother, however seriously, if this is your biggest issue you have with you MIL I am and would love to swap

YAB totally U. If they just turned up hours late without warning YWNBU but they have kept you up to date and told you they would be delayed. Massively unreasonable and bloody ungrateful to be annoyed with them IMO.

LOL Orm......Um, can I just add that you are being very ungrateful ?

Oh right, its already been said along with a million other things....

Are you there OP? Are you being NICE to your MIL????!

I wish someone would have my DD for along weekend. YABU

LOL try having MY parents. They take DD for "an hour or two" at about 10.00 am. Then bring her back at 17:30, tired cuz they didn't giver her a nap and hyped up on sweeties, ice cream and other treats stuffed into her during 1 day that she doesn't get with me in a whole month. They've dragged her round shops, shown her off to friends and by the time I have her back she won't eat her dinner, and is overtired!

Tell you what tho, she's had an amazing time, loves her GPs and THAT is what she will remember in years to come, not how she cried til 20:30 cuz she couldn't sleep. And TBH I KNOW they're going to do it and am prepared. It's only because they love her so much, and love being with her . I just tell myself she's only this little once and it won't last forever. I guess there may be a time when I have to bribe her to see them!

Sorry this isn't about Reality's SIL again, is it?

they are doing you a favour stop mumping princess

YABU to be fuming

BUT

I remember the first time we left DD1 with my mum for the weekend, we had 2 nights away for DHs 30th. DD1 would have been about 19 months too.
I ended up phoning my mum on the Sunday morning saying we would be coming back for lunch as we missed her soo much. Unfortunately my mum had made plans (to show off her first grandchild to all and sundry!) We had to suck it up and be grateful when sh brought her home at about 5pm.
My need to see her felt almost physical. However I'd have been VVV unreasonable to show it after she'd looked after her all weekend.

It does get easier to leave them, she's now 4.2 and I'm always happy to pack her and her sister off for the weekend!

YABVU. You MIL kindly looked after your DD for the weekend whle you were away. She said she would bring her back after lunch. Which she did do, 1pm is not after lunch.

I hope that you were properly grateful and gave her a huge bunch of flowers. 1pm or 2.15 was neither here nor there-I thought you were going to say it was late at night and DC was exhausted!

Ungrateful.

seriously - you are pissed off cause your MIL took a little longer getting sorted and out of the house after caring for your child for the weekend.

Bloody hell how ungrateful can you be.

Did mendipgirl ever come back to say what sort of a reception she gave her MIL when she brought her daughter back?

I expect that she is keeping well away-having had 100% agreement that she was unreasonable-a rare achievement! Moondog's first reply said it all-'get a grip'.
If she took the advice, she would have been especially nice and appreciative.If not MIL will be entitled to be totally bemused that after lunch isn't taken to mean 2.15-3pm. (Some days I don't get my lunch until 2pm)

It would be nice if she told us the outcome.It is good if people can admit that, on second thoughts, they were totally unreasonable-it does happen.

Oh grow up

YABU.

I think you are very lucky that you have a MIL who will look after your DD for a whole weekend.

My parents cannot cope with both of mine, and struggle with one of them for any more than a couple of hours. Not that I ask unless I am stuck cos I get nothing but hassle from them about it.

MIL and FIL, are great in a crisis, but still will not have both DD's and only have either one of the DD's for a couple of hours. I am eternally grateful when they do.

You sound very nasty and controlling, if you wanted your DD home by a certain time you should have told MIL that. I hope you were nice to MIL when she dropped your DD off to you.

I think she may have killed her MIL and eaten her liver with some fava beans and a nice bottle of chianti

So, with a 19-month-old do you always get out of the house as planned?

I know it's frustrating but at least she has grandparents who love her. Just look at the positives.

My mum is late for everything. She picked DD up from the childminder for me as we went to a wedding (adults only) and I had to stress how important it was she got there before 1.30pm as I would have to pay for overtime if she was late. That worked but only because money was involved! I overlook it as I know how much mum loves and cares for her.

Deep breaths! ;-)

Did the OP ever some back to the thread?

shes probably crying