to be fuming at my MIL for bringing my DD home late

[mendipgirl]

My DD has been with her grandparents this weekend as we were at Glasto (working so she couldn't come with us.) She is only 19 months old and it is her first time away so I am desperate to see her, I rang them this morning and they said they would bring her back after lunch (they only live 30mins away) so I was thinking about 1pm, then she rang at 1.30 and said they would leave in 15 mins and now has just rung at 2.15 to say they are just leaving! I am fuming, how hard is it to stick to a plan?? I could have gone and picked her up if they said they had other things to do but they offered to bring her back. I know they have done us a big favour this weekend, but I have been waiting all day to see her and miss her soo much! I am really going to have to restrain myself when they finally get here!!!

You are so fortunate to have family arround that can look after your your DC and have a strong relationship with them. I think YA a bit U

troll anyone?

erm...relax..

YABU - is the heat getting to you? Chill out and enjoy the break.

Definitely YABU. Your definition of after lunch is different to theirs. If you needed her back by a set time you should have stated an exact time. If they have been out for the morning they may not have had lunch until 1:30 and lunch with toddlers can take a long time!

I wonder if you have other issues with your MIL because you only cite her as being unreasonable but then you mention that both her grandparents had her for the weekend.

I know it is hard to give up control of your children to MILs but as others have pointed out, you are fortunate to have a grandparent willing to babysit for a whole weekend, and that will become more and more desirable the older they get. If your daughter enjoys being with her grandparetns and they keep her safe, then you need to 'let her go' sometimes.

This is a wind up, right?

How about why didn´t you fetch her yourself this morning-or invite MIL for lunch as a thank you?

YABU.

I'm with Moondog.

You rude bugger. They have done you a favour. You will come across as (a) mad (b) an ungrateful wretch and (c) vile if you complain to thenm about this.

You are obviously able to spend time away from your dd without having a fit of teh vapours if you have just been to Glastonbury, so a couple more hours won't harm.

I hope you have bought your MIl a nice present for looking after her, not some ghastly jester hat or similar tat from Glasto.

so they're 30 minutes away..to get to you by 1 they'd have to have left by 12.30, also factored in a post lunch clean up and nappy change, meaning lunch would have to have been around...let's see...11am ??

So the gps have had her all weekend while you have a jolly away from home, and you now sit fuming enough to post this after the event for the sake of an unreasonable anticiptaion of when they should have got her back to you.

... not a jolly cani (working at Glasto) - but still U

Another one for YABU here. As far as I am concerned, 1pm is lunchtime - after lunch is anything up to about 3-ish. Of course you missed your dd, but if you were that desperate, you should have gone over and collected her, instead of whinging here.

YABVU. I would be grateful for a couple of hour's babysitting, never mind a weekend. To complain over being what is your definition of late is massively ungrateful. You sound very childish

YABVVU.

How kind of your MIL to take care of your daughter. She is returning her after lunch in my book.

I think you owe her a very large thank you and absolutely no hint of fuming.

And you should be considering how to show your gratitude to your MIL, not whether you will be able to restrain yourself when she arrives with your dd - if you want her to babysit again.

You come over as very rude and with a huge sense that the world should revolve around you, and you can blow your top at anyone or thing that doesn't.

YABU. Why are you only fuming at your MIL? What about your FIL surely he has cocked up too?

Are you the MIL dealing with a miserable self-centerd ungrateful DIL by any chane

If so you desserve a medal!

So you've left your daughter for an entire weekend (I've just done the same with DS, so nothing wrong in that) and just decided that after being away from her for presumably over 72 hours that half an hour is going to make a vast difference?

Perspective; get some.

Get a grip! Your MIL has done you a massive favour and your going give her a rollicking when she get in with you daughter, hope to God she ever does you another favour, I've never heard of anyone so ungratful in my life!!!

YANBU.

I would dock them an hours' pay.

You are paying them, right?

What the others have said. You are damn lucky to have such a supportive family and after lunch could reasonably be up unti around 3pm. If you have a go at your MIL you will be being downright rude and ungrateful not to mention very hurtful. I hope for all your sakes you were able to "restrain yourself". If this is all you have to worry about then I envy you. YADBU

If someone said 'after lunch' to me and turned up at 1pm I would think they were early and annoying.

I think she may have got the message by now.

i can understand why you would be fuming, to be honest im a little crazy when it comes to my DD's routine at the monent and when MIL is late for somthing i have to bite my tongue, i dont think YABU i think you have just missed you baba loads and got yourself all worked up, calm down dear!

Are you in fact Kate Moss and have you just changed your DD's age to throw us off the scent? If so prancing about a bit and shagging Jamie Hince in a winnebago doesn't count as work you know dear.