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to be upset by what DH put on You Tube?

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SweetnessAndShite · 25/06/2010 20:23

I should explain firstly DH works in broadcasting/entertainment. I found out through my BIL's facebook that my DH (His bro) has posted a You Tube video of him singing a comedy song he wrote about a woman he worked with a while ago. It's all about how he fancies her and even starts off along the lines of... I like women a lot but I'm not happy with the one I've got. Now I know it's his work and everything, and I don't think he really fancies this woman, but I can't help feel a bit put out and upset - especially because we haven't been getting on very well lately and I feel the sentiment of him not being happy with the woman he's got is probably true.

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 25/06/2010 20:25
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OopsDoneItAgain · 25/06/2010 20:28

Thats pretty shitty. Have you spoken to him about it?

southeastastra · 25/06/2010 20:30

that's mean

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SweetnessAndShite · 25/06/2010 20:36

I haven't seen him yet as he's at work and I only saw the vid today. I keep telling myself it's his job, a work of fiction and I shouldn't be so sensitive about it but I feel very uneasy and really quite offended. I will definitely be telling him it has upset me, but should I demand he take it down?

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OopsDoneItAgain · 25/06/2010 20:40

Definitely. Its very disrespectful.He has some grovelling to do I would say.

chipmonkey · 25/06/2010 20:42

That is horrible! If my dh did something like that ( which he wouldn't!) I would demand that he take it down.
Is he always such an arse to you?

CwtchyBlueMama · 25/06/2010 20:44

Thats very disrespectful to you,why couldn't he have sung a song saying how much he loves the woman he is with?

Does he have ambitions to be a country & western singer

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SweetnessAndShite · 25/06/2010 20:48

It's a comedy song, it's not supposed to be serious. I keep thinking I should just laugh it off and take it in good humour but I do feel a bit humiliated I think.

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 25/06/2010 20:50

does he say horrid things to you and then tell you that you are over sensitive?

Magalyxyz · 25/06/2010 20:50

But it's a bout a real person in his real life SweetnessAndShite. It's not made up.

I couldn't laugh that off. I wouldn't be hurt so much as I'd look at him and think what a prat. Have you no idea how inappropriate this is? are you so insensitive you don't grasp that this is potentially hurtful, and how would you handle it if I did the same???? It would make me think less of him.

OopsDoneItAgain · 25/06/2010 20:52

NOT funny. Its too close to the bone to be humorous.

mumblechum · 25/06/2010 20:52

I'm afraid there'd be Words in our house if my dh did something like that. In fact it would be ww3.

Magalyxyz · 25/06/2010 20:53

oh sorry, you are the OP.

I think it's like a button he's pressed. It's a catalyst button. He wants something to either implode or change or improve or disappear.

I'd be channelling Liz Lemon. I'd say "shut that down. That's a deal breaker". [30 rock geek fan]

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SweetnessAndShite · 25/06/2010 20:56

God, I know if I talk about it I'll just explain it all wrong and it will open a huge can of worms that neither of us really want to talk about.

Shit! I almost wish I was being unreasonable!!

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mrspir8 · 25/06/2010 20:56

Thats preety grim of him, I really feel for you. Very disrespectful.

It sounds like you you have other things you need to have out with him though. You have already said that you are not getting on, maybe being peed off with him about other stuff has made you more sensitive.Sit down and have a big talk. Hope you can sort it out xx

lazarusb · 25/06/2010 21:21

YANBU. What he's done is very public, even if it was meant to be a joke. Maybe he didn't realise how hurtful it would be, but I would definitely tell him how you feel.

ChippingIn · 25/06/2010 22:50

What a knob.

We'd be having words along the line of 'if that's how you feel, don't let the door bang you on the arse - if it's not, take it down and put something more suitable up - like how fucking wonderful your wife is for putting up with you!!'

JenniPenni · 25/06/2010 23:21

Highly insensitive of your DH

LittleMissJudgypants · 25/06/2010 23:36

Swift kick in the gonads is on the cards.
Shit situation, men are so insensitive.

gtamom · 25/06/2010 23:52

Yanbu.

lemonysweet · 25/06/2010 23:54

sorry, i think you're over reacting. theres obviously some history here, or you're feeling down at the moment or something.
its a comedy song, its along the lines of his job, its a joke.
im really sorry but i do think you're over reacting. its a song for comedic effect, not an online diary lamenting his love for her. if he wrote a comedy song about man love and being in love with his best male friend, would you instinctively think he was gay and feel hurt? or would you laugh?
im not trying to be harsh

estuardo · 25/06/2010 23:57

we can't tell without seeing it

mayorquimby · 26/06/2010 00:20

sounds like you're over-reacting

Cake · 26/06/2010 00:29

Two pertinent questions

Is this woman he works with real?

Why didn't he tell you about the song if it's just a lark that's part of his job?

chipmonkey · 26/06/2010 00:38

No , she is not over-reacting.

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