To think BF-ing a 2yr old is, um, weird?

[Lucy85]

Well what do you think? I know it's a very emotive subject, but I've seen it a couple of times and it makes me come over all strange.
I BFed my baby exclusively until 7 months when I went back to work, but the thought of doing it now is just plain odd, - not wrong, it's just I can't imagine doing it to someone who can walk, talk, get their own drinks, eats proper food and is too big to lie sideways on my lap.

Coalition, my second post below was addressed to HC
as she asked the question i was answering, i thought it was clear, but i should have put her name at the start to make it clearer

i think saying that people know what this forum is like, so anything goes, is an odd statement to make

altinkum i don't know how to break this to you, but i wouldn't take heat or closer as a completely reputable source of information about current affairs, necessarily

dammit. I was about to go get Closer to update myself upon the continuing political crisis and enviroemntal timbomb that is the BP oil leak....

Dammit again.

the taboos are strong
it can be hard to disregard them even if you know it is all bullshit

ds1 was approaching 4 when he stopped feeding, he only had a couple of minutes at bedtime usually, and it was just a peaceful time for both of us, a nice end to the day

but occasionally i would be lying there and catch sight of him (he was quite tall for his age) and think WHOOOOOA! what's going on here

now all you weird-sayers can tel me that was the voice of sanity finally speaking to me, LOL

sorry, that was just a random musing in reply to what spidermama said

I know what you mean coupleofkooks and the time I fed my 4 year old in the playground no-one else was there but my friend and her family so maybe I'd have been more self concious if it were busier.

However, my four are now 5, 8, 10 and 11 and none of them ever asks for bitty. I never weaned any of them either. It all just gradually, effortlessly and beautifully phased itself out.

Coalition well we ARE real people, you know? not quite sure why you are putting the conditional there.
I think you are getting a little muddled in your postings. I am not saying You have offended me. We were discussing the op, and your defence of the op. The op said bf a two yr old is weird. Which is hurtful, yes. And you were justifying that on the grounds I went on to challenge.
I wasn't commenting on whether you have been hurtful

No I don't have to educate myself on BF propaganda ta whoever said it, I can't think of anything more time wasting. I have evidence that it is actually absolutely fine to stop breast feeding at 6 weeks - two v healthy dc who, guess what...are not suffering emotional trauma for being weaned off the breast, and, errr, doing pretty well on the balanced organic nutritional diet we provide. They have blankies and teddies and tons of cuddles and talks etc, they don't need BF at their age for any emotional reasons(early school now). And as for 'I'm passionate about breastfeeding' - what the fecking aida does that mean? I find that patronising towards non BF-ers.
(I still don't think it's fair to say it's weird though, that's just hurtful.)

If you want evidence of how hurtful it can be: a few years ago I came onto one of these threads to stand up for bf, to say how lovely an experience it can be - what spidermama just said - and someone on that thread said there was 'nothing more creepy' than a child asking to be bf. I am a very confident person and I can tell you that I was very very sorry that I had read that. It put a nasty little pall over my bf for longer than I would like to think.
Stop me if you have heard this one before

They have blankies and teddies and tons of cuddles and talks etc, they don't need BF at their age for any emotional reasons(early school now).
do you not worry they'll get teased for theor blankies and teddies?

well, i would say that i am passionate about it
i don't know why you are confused about what that means?
it means a lot to me - it has been a big part of the early years with my children and i could wax lyrical about it - on other occasions i have, but not here, now, not with the kind of atmosphere that's arisen on this thread

HC i remember that story and it is chilling, i still feel my stomach turn over to read it again

i have no idea proud, why you think declaring my feelings about something that means a lot to me, is patronising to anyone who doesn't feel the same way?

I also BF until 7 month mark OP. I don't find it odd if it's done discreetly but to openly broadcast it I find a bit odd. YANBU

Oh go on let's say it Kooks...
I adored bf my dds. I loved it and they did too. It made us all very close - I fed them simultaneously. I think that allowing them to self wean was unreservedly a very positive thing, and I would recommend it to anyone. I can't count how many times I have thought - god I am glad I am still bf.
Maybe you think this way about horseriding or tatting or clubbing or skiing or football or something else i don't give a shit about. So what? Just because you don't share someone's passions doesn't make them.

yeah, i agree, it's ok if it's done like it is something to be embarrassed about, or like a dirty little secret

it's the ones who seem to think it's normal and that they can do it anywhere, that you have to watch out for

oh sorry that was to lovechoc
i must learn to put the person's name at the beginning of my posts
i will get the hang of this web forum thingy one of these years, if only all the internet sprites would stop posting in between me and the droid that i am replying to, that would help

Oh go on let's say it Kooks...
I adored bf my dds. I loved it and they did too. It made us all very close - I fed them simultaneously. I think that allowing them to self wean was unreservedly a very positive thing, and I would recommend it to anyone. I can't count how many times I have thought - god I am glad I am still bf.
Maybe you think this way about horseriding or tatting or clubbing or skiing or football or something else i don't give a shit about. So what? Just because you don't share someone's passions doesn't make them.

i love it too HC
we are bloody lucky women
i can't count the number of people i have met in RL or on here who have told me they would have liked to have fed their children for longer, or for as long as they wanted, or for just a few days, or even once

bloody sad that more people don't get the chance, and bloody sad that other people try to make it into something sordid and grubby
"shame on you" - you spoke the truth there

Blankets and teddies - errr, all kids have these at bedtime. Funnily enough they don't take them out in public or discuss them with their peers.
harpischordcarrier, that's very sad and am very sorry for you on that one.
I think as someone else on here said, AIBU is a place to explore issues you most certainly wouldn't tackle head on in RL. I would never make disparaging remarks or proffer my opinion to an extended BF-er in RL. But I don't 'agree' with it... I guess in the same reverse/judgemenatal way that the BF brigade think all mothers shld breast feed.

Lol at me and kooks being like a pair of amateurs on this thread. We need more practice

I don't think all mums should bf but I do think that all mums should try to stop being judgmental bigoted idiots. Who are unhappy about there own choices so make snap judgments about others.

Sour grapes anyone?

i think all women should have the CHANCE to feed for as long as they want to
and that they should have support and understanding to do so, not criticism and prejudice

you will look a long time before you find a post of mine saying that all women should breastfeed

but when you say that breastfeeding is 'weird' or 'creepy' or you don't 'agree with' it or any of these little comments, you do a disservice to ALL women who are trying to breastfeed their children
if it's only to be done discreetly - why is that? is there something wrong with it then? is it offensive? if it's weird to breastfeed a child that can ask for it, is it weird to breastfeed a baby that can cry for milk? all of these attitudes and statements make people feel uncomfortable about their choices, and create an atmosphere of prudery and distaste around breastfeeding
many many many people are put off trying, or continuing, because of attitudes like this
you are doing damage by what you are posting on here - this is the real world - real mothers are reading this

My dds never had blankies or teddies at bedtime - they never needed them.
Although dd2 does take a pink plastic buckets with her to bed.
Normal, very normal

As a self confessed toddler feeding weirdo I have been trying to ignore this thread in active conversations, but I'm afraid I had to come back to say that the "um" in the title is so irritating that it makes me grind my teeth every time I see it.

Somehow "breastfeeding a toddler is wierd" wouldn't have been even a 10th as annoying as "breastfeeding a toddler is, um, wierd".

It is actually making me, um, twitch.

PINK you say
hmmm
the bucket as a symbolic container of liquids