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Teaching assistant eating ice lolly

141 replies

JJ6 · 24/06/2010 18:48

Am I being OTT to think it totally out of order for the teaching assistant to be sitting next to my daughter in after school club eating an ice lolly when the children had fruit and biscuits (this being a very hot day) !!

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Tombliboob · 24/06/2010 21:12

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ravenAK · 24/06/2010 21:12

& you are absolutely free to deny yourself marshmallows & whipped cream! Just not to decide whether other people are allowed lollies.

I think the point I'm making is that a more measured response than those made by some of the disapprovers on this thread is 'Oh, I wouldn't do that' rather than 'She shouldn't do that!'

Jenbot · 24/06/2010 21:12

It'll be in the papers tomorrow morning. Those poor children.

UnderneathTheStream · 24/06/2010 21:14

I think I'm going to insist that pupils share any chocolate they are eating at breaktime with me when I'm on duty!

Gracie123 · 24/06/2010 21:16

I look forward to several people outing themselves as local parents when I see the complaints about DHs lolly eating tomorrow eve...

...actually might have to wait a bit. It's a boarding school.

stressheaderic · 24/06/2010 21:19

At our weekly dept meetings in school, we can be seen scoffing a myriad of treats. In fact, I almost look forward to the meetings just to see what's on offer.
But then we're a laid-back kind of team with chocolate oo our faces

Goblinchild · 24/06/2010 21:35

You know what?
I'm fed up with all those parents that meet their children in the playground with biscuits and strawberries and ice lollies and cheese strings and little bags of yumminess.
They eat them in front of me when I'm still at work and have a manky staff meeting to go to.
Let's ban everyfink for everyone. That's fair.

I'm eating icecream whilst typing. Decadence beyond measure

PurpleHeffalump · 24/06/2010 21:39

Oh dear God - I really think that this is the last time I'm going to be on MN for a while.

To think that this happened today and that someone was actually that outraged that they decided to come on here to post about it. Seriously, some people really do not have enough to worry about in their lives.

It was really hot today and I'm sure that she really enjoyed her lolly - good for her. Yes, I'm sure that the children would have also enjoyed a lolly, but that's life. I took my class on a trip last week - I had a chocolate bar in my packed lunch. None of the kids had chocolate - should I not have eaten it in front of them? Should I have gone off and left them unsupervised and eaten it elsewhere, or just put it back in my lunch box and eaten it when I got home. Should those who have school dinners share their chips with those who have sandwiches - or maybe they should eat them in another room, because how can we let the 'packed lunches' sit and eat their cold sandwiches near people eating lovely warm chips in the middle of winter? In the summer, parents often greet their child in the playground with an ice-lolly or a cool drink ? should they share it with the poor teachers and TAs who can?t get to the shop for at least another hour as they have meetings/after school clubs?

Oh and at people who think it's completely reasonable to suggest that the TA bought them all a lolly - so parents are getting free child care in the form of an after school club and actually expect a TA to pay for lollies all around - she's likely to be either being paid around £8 or has volunteered to run the club (any teacher/TA run club in our school is only ever through volunteers - only outside providers are paid)
She was an ADULT eating a snack with CHILDREN. Are you all actually suggesting that she be demeaned so much that she should only be allowed what the children are eating? Do you all live by that at home?

PurpleHeffalump · 24/06/2010 21:43

Ha ha Goblinchild - exactly the same thought about parents/children eating/drinking in playground at end of the day. I may print this thread out and next time I see a parent with something in the playground I will show it to them to explain why I expect them to share it with me (and the other 200 people standing in the playground)

babywalks · 24/06/2010 21:50

PurpleHeffalump sums it up very well. It's insane that the OP was so annoyed about something so trivial.

MoreCrackThanHarlem · 24/06/2010 22:23

'I am thankful that my daughter would happily share her fondant fancies with whoever she was with. You sound very petty.'

Ha!
Rofl at me being the petty one on a thread where outrage is caused by a TA eating a lolly

lambethlil · 24/06/2010 22:24

I remember a teacher giving only her dd a drink on the coach back from an evening trip, saying to the other pupils 'I've got my Mummy hat on not teacher'. It was a residential school and the pupils wouldn't be seeing their parents that night. OP not the same though.

EvilTwins · 24/06/2010 22:31

Next time I take half a cup of coffee back to my classroom after break on a cold day, I'll be sure to offer it around.

porcamiseria · 24/06/2010 22:35

@So all of you who think the OP is being VU - would you eat a choc bar in front of friends/colleagues without offering any?@

FUCK YEAH!!! all the time, they can get their bloody own

some people...

Gracie123 · 24/06/2010 22:35

Lambethil that does sound mean!
The only way I could see that happening in our school is
a) child was not part of the class on the trip but dragged along because house parent was required (ie my DH might decide 2yo DS needed a drink but that year 7 class could hold on til we got home)
b) children all had access to tuck (sweets, treats and drinks that parents provide at the beginning of term) and had eaten it already. IMO if they had parent provided snacks (whether they have any left or not) it is fine for parent teacher to provide same for her kid.

cory · 24/06/2010 22:41

So given that the school provides snacks for the children but not for the TA, how should the TA deal with the matter. Be onto the caterers in good time, so she can be sure to source exactly the same kind of snack that they are having or be the only one in the playground without a snack?

sayithowitis · 24/06/2010 22:45

So am I supposed to forego my lunch on the day when I give up my lunchtime to run a club for pupils at my school? I eat my lunch whilst supervising. If I didn't I would either have to work from 8.15 til 3.30 with only a ten minute break mid morning, or not run the club. I don't get paid for this so I am afraid I consider I am entitled to eat/ drink in front of your children when I am giving up my time to give them something fun to do.

muminthemiddle · 24/06/2010 22:55

I wouldn't want to share anyone's lolly (except perhaps Brad Pitts or Johnny Depps) then again I would settle for a lick of their carrot stick.

stac14 · 24/06/2010 23:20

think it is ridiculous to be annoyed that TA had an ice lolly beside kids who were already eating, it's not as if they were left drooling. Kids are used to being envious about what others have eg. A friend having a chocolate bar they would have preferred but you wouldn't go complaining to their parents. Tbh op is probs making a big deal about it and her dd has forgot all about it

Goblinchild · 24/06/2010 23:23

So OP complains. TA is reprimanded and quits.
ASC closes due to insufficient adult/child ratios.
Result?

scottishmummy · 24/06/2010 23:43

eating a lolly?have the insolent gerl beaten.must not expose children to tyranny of ice lollies eaten in a leisurely manner.what a bitch

what the fuck next? hide if the children see a stranger devouring trans fats in a built up area area

you always so damn precious?

watsthestory · 24/06/2010 23:44

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Henny1995 · 25/06/2010 00:13

What an evil and twisted TA! You should have removed for sure;-)
Failing that, chill. Your child has to learn that there are certain priviledges associated with being a grown up.

Lonnie · 25/06/2010 00:27

It is inappropriate behaviour in a person that is suposed to be setting an example on how to behave.

Yes she can eat an icelolly but why could she not do so out of sight of the children? If she was thirsty water like the kids had offered or a piece of fruit would aid that..

PadmeHum · 25/06/2010 00:58

IMO it does no harm for a child to realise that adults sometimes get things that they don't.

That's why they are the child and the adult is the adult.

You are being a bit OTT IMO.