Teaching assistant eating ice lolly

[JJ6]

Am I being OTT to think it totally out of order for the teaching assistant to be sitting next to my daughter in after school club eating an ice lolly when the children had fruit and biscuits (this being a very hot day) !!

I expect he or she had been at work since 8.30am, running around after and with children, playing games with them and teaching and was feeling a bit hot and dehydrated and possibly found a box of ice lollies in the freezer. After the age of 18 surely we can choose to regulate the healthiness or otherwise of our snacks.

Oh FGS shush and get a grip.

I sometimes wonder if I'm a terrible parent, or a lax parent when I read things like this but no, I don't think I am, I think I just realise that life isn't perfect.

I do like hot pies though.
May I have one next time you are buying?

I'm eating a magnum classic at this very moment

So all of you who think the OP is being VU - would you eat a choc bar in front of friends/colleagues without offering any? Mugglewump, of course I would buy you one if I wanted to eat it in your presence. Or at least offer you some. I wouldn't scoff my face while you sat there drooling.

Yes, 'out of order' is a bit OTT. Of course, she CAN do it. It's just, well, rude.

And would you sit in a meeting with your colleagues eating an icecream?

YANBU-how mean!!

Presumably she had the rest of the evening in which to scoff ice lollies to her heart's content?!Could she have maybe also had fruit and biscuits with the children and ...um..waited? till she got home?
Ice lollies are a treat, it's mean ..and ill mannered, to eat them in front of children who don't also have one in my opinion.

I wish I had a magnum, the one with all the caramel between the layers.

OP didn't say the kids were drooling she said they had other snacks.

I really can't imagine giving a toss about this. YABU.

Oh and at the poor, poor TA possibly feeling "a bit hot and dehydrated"!!Glass of water might sort that maybe?

Now if she gave one child an ice lolly and not the others you'd have a point,but the children all had the same thing.

i do think its unprofessional, but not worth such a fuss as this. she should be reminded not to do it again though.

Adults have the right to eat what they want. Have heard of some schools banning staff from eating unhealthy food at school. I would not stand for this. Adults are long past the age when other people get to dictate what they do and do not eat, so yes, YABU

I have no problem with her having it but she could have gone into the kitchen. Also if she is so hat and dehydrated that only an ice lolly would cool her off then surely this would have benefitted the children as well

She wasn't with her friends and colleagues. She was with the children who were also eating. She may not have even been working; she may have been waiting for a lift home and passing the time with the children.

YABU. And a bit petty.

What if someone had bought it for her? He/she could hardly save it for later!

Was your DD bothered about this, or was it just you?

Eating an ice lolly in front of children is character building. It teaches them that whilst they may have parents who ensure that people are sacked the highest standards of fairness are upheld at all times, in RL there are people like me who REGULARLY eat chocolate in front of other people and don't share.

Adair

how do you suggest she offers her lolly around?
2 licks each?

Or do you actually expect her to pay for lollies for the whole bloody club?

Op yabu
why not get other parents to club together to buy ice lollies all round?

and to whoever asked if I would share my treats with colleagues at school
a big fat no
I hide my fondant fancies in my locker and scoff them in secret

and I wouldn't want my child to think they are entitled to whatever someone else has
tis life

JJ6 if she was working she couldn't go off to the kitchen - she would have to stay where she could see the children.

notagranny

YABU OP.

although my kids get to share my ice lolly, they are my kids....

No, she couldn't share. So hence it was rude to eat it in front of them.

I don't want my child to think they are entitled to whatever someone else has, but I am thankful that my daughter would happily share her fondant fancies with whoever she was with. You sound very petty.

You're just jealous OP

I quite often swig coffee whilst teaching, & occasionally get chunterings from students because I won't let them have drinks other than water.

I wouldn't do it if I had time at break to actually sit down with a coffee, but hey ho.

OTOH, an ice lolly is obviously going to appeal to small kids, so I'd probably exercise some restraint there & just have whatever they had.

YABU to actually complain about it, though, if you're considering doing so. Fair enough to consider it a bad judgment call (I agree), but it's her call to make imo.