to think delivery man was being cheeky?

[LittleMissSnowShine]

This morning we had a cot and mattress delivered to the house. The delivery company were supposed to phone ahead and let us know what time it would be arriving today, but needless to say, they did not!

Anyway, the delivery men arrived at 9:15am, DH had gone to work and I was forced to answer the door in my pjs and dressing gown. I'm 31 weeks preg, have been feeling a bit wretched for the last week or so, blood pressures issues etc and MW told me I need to sleep more, stay off my feet etc or I could wind up in hospital. I've been working all week, this was my day off and I was using it to stay in bed for an extra couple of hours.

Big crime!!

But the guy was really horrible to me - looked me up and down and asked if Jeremy Kyle had started yet and really sneered. He then commented he had 3 kids himself and being pregnant wasn't a very good excuse to still be in my pyjamas at...9:15am!!! It was the way he said it, really. Very contemptuous and he was having a good letch as well. Ugh. Horrible. His sidekick looked kind of embarrassed and said something along the lines of, 'he might have 3 kids but it isn't him that had to be pregnant or stay at home to look after them' after the first guy had stalked off. I'd love to phone up the delivery company and complain about him but prob over reacting...

complain in writing and with all the detail you just gave in your post

absolutely phone and complain - what a horrible,rude arse

Phone and complain, that is absolutely out of order!

Nope - not over reacting. He's paid to deliver goods not make social comments. Phone the delivery company & complain.

NO, phone and complain! But make sure the blame falls on him and not the guy with him, who sounds like he must have been slightly mortified.

YADNBU to be exceedingly pissed off - 31wks pregnant is deffo late enough to need advanced warning. You have a two-pronged attack - they said they would call in advance and they didn't, and additionally the delivery man was exceedingly rude.

Did you get the obnoxious one's name at all? Unfortunately, if you didn't it might be hard to make sure the blame goes where it ought.

he was out of line. i would phone and complain. but his sidekick was right, it wasn't him that was pregnant for 9 months. (god love his OH if that is his attitude though, loads of sympathy there )

Complain but make sure you make it clear it was only one of them and you have complaints about the other.

definitely complain. that delivery man was WAY out of order and acted appallingly.

I'm still in my pyjamas now! He sounds nasty, definitely complain.

yanbu, not overreacting, report him he is way out of line
9.15 not even late, its acceptable to be in pj @ that time definitely in your situation

complain complain complain

Oh, my God OP - I am so so angry after reading your post. What a cheeky ba**ard!!! Definitely phone and complain - you are not overreacting!

When my DD1 was 3 weeks old and DS 2yo, DD1 had cleft palate and I seemed to feed her all night. So naturally I would sleep in the morning while she was sleeping, with DS beside me. The doorbell rang one morning at 9am, i answered it in my PJs and it was a builder who was working on our yard, who sneered at me for not being dressed yet. I just growled at him "You weren't up with a sick baby all night - just leave it (in a more flowery language I'm afraid!)!" and slammed the door on him. He was more respectable to me after that.

Definitely complain - that is awful.

way out of line, no over reaction at all. their job is to deliver items to peoples houses, NOT to comment on how they live their lives.

i'm 20 weeks preg and have had problems and am often dont get around to getting dressed till late afternoon. he had no right to speak to you like that

i would say it goes far beyond cheeky.

What a twat.

complain, complain, complain.

and make sure, like others have said, that the other man isn't implicated.
the other man sounded quite nice.

Definitely complain! In writing. And mention that you were under midwife's orders!

Not that it should matter- for all he knew, you might normally work a night shift job, but it will give his bosses extra ammunition in a disciplinary meeting.

I'd consider informing the cot company, too, or at least threatening delivery company that you will.

I had a gobby delivery man a couple of weeks ago when our new sofas arrived.

He asked me if I knew the sex of the new baby (am also pregnant) and when I told him he berated me for spoiling the surprise.

Twat.

Your guy was really offensive though, I would complain.

Complain.

complain, really, that is totally unacceptable.

Agree with everyone else. It is one of those very rare unanimous AIBUs.

His attitude and comments were quite frankly appalling, and nobody should have to listen to that, especially not on their own doorstep.

Complain - regardless of pregnancy, or other mitigating circumstances, he is paid to deliver not comment on your attire.

How did he know you hadn't been working a night shift etc? (not that you need a reason to be dressed as you choose in your own home at whatever time of the day you choose)

OMG! You poor thing, the man is a c&%t! I'd put a complaint in straight away both by telephone and writing. even if nothing comes of it at least you will feel better. Plus being in your pajamas at 9.15am is pefectly alright, I'm back in mine now! (Am 21 weeks preggers and had to put some normal clothes on to take DS to playgroup this morning ) I always doss around the house in my pajamas if we're not going out, keeps your normal ones clean and tidy plus reduces the amount of ironing!!

Absolutely complain. I'm 34 wks now and just been signed off work yesterday, and was enjoying my first lie in this morning when the postman knocked at 0815. Which was fine, I legged it downstairs in my PJs and answsered the door with hair asunder and belly probably poking out...he raised a slight eyebrow at me but nothing more. If he had of done I probably would have burst into tears my hormones are so dodgy!

Definitely definitely complain! If you don't have names they will know who was due to deliver it and you can give them a description. Tell them you want a follow up to hear what they have done.

Complain! Nobody should have to accept being lambasted like that by a stranger in their own home. Make sure you also mention in the letter that they didn't call ahead to inform you they were arriving - not because you should have put clothes on, but it shows they were incompetant at their job as well as arseholes.

I'd probably also inform the company you bought the cot from, I'm sure they'd love to know that their deliveries of baby goods come with free verbal abuse.

Thanks everyone!! I was feeling a bit tired and fragile this morning when it all happened so I just assumed I was probably over reacting but having thought about it again and taken all your opinions into consideration I think I definitely will complain both to John Lewis and the delivery company as well. Just emailed DH in work as well and he polled the women in the office who unanimously agree with all of us lol

"Dear John Lewis.... the people who deliver your products are twats!!"

Maybe will wait until I can articulate my complaint more..umm..appropriately