for being utterly jealous of the lucky women for whom pregnancy does not affect their figures :(

[superv1xen]

Me, DP and the kids were in the park this afternoon, and it seemed to be full of mums looking amazing dressed in skimpy summery clothes and i just couldnt help looking at them and comparing them unfavourably to me

I am not bad, i am 30, reasonably pretty (well used to be) and a size 8 but have big boobs that have definitely seen their best days. and my stomach is awful, full of stretchmarks and i will never be able to wear a bikini again. even though i exercise loads (swimming, walking and pole dancing classes) and have a good diet, it just doesnt seem to be enough.

For example, one woman i saw pushing a baby in a buggy, who must have been only a few weeks old. she was stick thin and looked amazing in tight jeans and a tight vest. when my kids were a few weeks old i was still fat and practically still in maternity clothes.

Then there was another one wearing a crop top (a CROP TOP fgs) showing off her flat tummy with NO stretchmarks or loose skin.

It makes me soooooo [envy

I had a good figure pre kids...and it isnt like i didnt try to keep my figure, when i was pregnant (both times) i stayed active, exercised and had a good diet and didnt even put much weight on with either of them.

I seriously hate myself today. i even told dp how i felt, i was nearly in tears in the park, how pathetic is that? I should be grateful for my two healthy kids shouldnt i and not stressing about my figure. people have bigger things to worry about.

dude, you're a size 8!

I think if you are a size 8 and do a lot of sport, you must be trim and have nothing to worry about.

seriously

could they have been nannys?

I'm not bouncing about a beach naked playing volleyball anytime soon I can tell you that.

People havethe shapes they have. Partly just ggenetic I think and then with age and a slow up of metabolism ro whatever hideous thing is responsible for it, your shape changes. You can look fabulous 5 months after giving birth if you put your mind to it, but will it hold? Ten years down the track it can catch up on you.

YANBU.........know exactly where you're coming from. I'm still in maternity trousers and DD2 is 4 months .........I've got a couple of friends who've had babies recently who were both back in their pre-preg jeans 2 weeks post-natally. It's just not fair!!!

Mind you, I'm seriously unmotivated and pretty sure the weight would probably come off if i could keep out of the biscuit tin and away from my local chinese

If it makes you feel better, from what you have said, if I saw you I'd probably put you in the category of those to envy. I am really struggling to get anything like my old figure back and definitely nowhere near a size 8.

I'm doing my best to loose weight, am having to come to terms with the fact that my stomach is probably beyond repair, (even if I opted for surgery!) and try to do the best with what I've got! I've got friends who don't look like they've ever been pregnant five mins after giving birth too, but you know you are right, it's not the most important thing is it? It can be quite liberating to accept the changes and embrace them a bit - honest!

Also - you can still look gorgeous but you might just have to accept it will be in different clothes / cut of jeans or whatever to before!

Many of my friends "snapped back" to their pre-pregnancy figures very quickly, and are enviably slim and trim.

But I know them well enough to know, that while they look (to me) fabulous, they feel that their bodies are different, that they have stretch marks and sagging where there was none before, that they look different with their clothes off, and so on.

What I am getting at, is that you don;t know how these women feel, and while they look great to you, inside they might well feel just the same as you.

Which isn't a particularly positive thing (that loads of women don't like their bodies), but may be a comforting thought for you. Maybe

Oh, YANBU.... I feel the same. But, at size 8 sounds to me like you have a lovely figure. I have never been size 8 even in my wildest dreams.

The woman with the very young baby may have been a nanny, you know.

Lots of people have ishoos..... a good friend of mine has a gorgeous figure, but she has dieted and stressed every day of her life and seems to be so caught up with her food that really I think it is overwhelming for her. She will not even eat a complete piece of fruit for example... just half an apple, and then she beats herself up.

But I also feel bad.... i am 37 weeks, and i put on just one stone up until 3 weeks ago, (I was overweight to begin with) and have put on another stone in just 3 weeks, and today i cried and cried, because a friend of DH's said 'Christ, you have ballooned.'

so, a rambling way of saying that I am so sorry you feel bad, but honestly, I bet you look great.

Take heart, I bet they're all incontinent

I was a size 10 after all my kids ..then it all went wrong in my 40s

What I'mSoNotTelling said

FWIW - I too have said I'll never wear a bikini again, but sod it - I am this year

Hahahhahahahha what hurley said

anya - you are pregnant, you gotta balloon girl. That is blossoming.

Everyone else, should be squeezing. I never do this. Never

I totally feel for you! When I had my twins many moons ago, I snapped back quickly, but my stomach never recovered-and I did everything! Now, I am an older mother to be, I hope I don't end up too ravaged

You're a size 8 with large, ahem, assets? And you have children, multiple!

I have a flat, stretchmark free tummy (mainly due to having very small babies) but hips as wide as a house and an ever expanding backside!
I'm sure I will never be a size 8 (or even a 10) in this lifetime. However, I am healthy and I've got 3 lovely dcs.
Hope you feel better soon, I bet you look gorgeous x

no, they werent nannies, you could just tell, they were both with their OHs as well.

I know size 8 is small but i am quite short, five foot two so i dont think that helps matters much, if i was taller but the same weight i would look a whole lot better.

my kids are 1 and 4 btw.

and it isnt just the stretchmarks, its the horrible crepey skin. i want another one but, honestly, the thought of the aftermath body-wise of number 3 is one of the main reasons i am not ttc.

I wouldnt swap my kids for the world but its just so horribly unfair how much having kids can fuck your body up.

anyabanya thats awful what your dh's friend said. i would have cried too. why do people think its OK to comment on womens figures just because they are pregnant?? i am and for you!! hope you retorted with a good put down!

I ended up weighing less after I had my twins than before, in fact I lost 3 stone in just four days, and went straigh into my old clothes, BUT I have stretchmarks that reach 30 cms from my pubic bone.

i had big ten pounder babies......well,the last 2 out of my 5 were that big.....but i'm 5ft 11,42 and not a single stretch mark, boobs are the same as pre babies. think its down to genetics!

thats the weird thing, my babies were small too, and i didnt even get very big esp with baby # 2. so by rights i too should have no stretchmarks or horrid flabby skin.

and belledamesansmerci trust me, u have nowt to be jealous off ...i hate my big boobs, they are D cups but they are not nice, page 3 type perky D's, they only look half decent in a bra, sometimes I dont even like DH to touch them because it makes me self conscious, and i cant believe he finds them attractive.

Rofl at Hurley!

at Herbie

Think I'm probably a similar size to you superv1xen. People hear size 8 and think, what's she complaining about? To be honest I'd rather be a smoother, perkier size 14 than my saggy droopy wrinkly 8! Currently pregnant with number 3 so have given up all hope.

Starting to accept that I look OK clothed and dh still seems to find me attractive. Have also realised with age that the people I find most attractive are not necessarily the slimmest, prettiest etc. but the smiliest more confident ones, whatever their size.

I'm tall and a slim size 8-10, wearing leggings and a fitted longline vest today, no visible lumps and bumps. I have a 2yr old and 3 yr old.

BUT I have a ridiculously stretchmarked tum with saggy skin and my belly button looks like a cat's bum. You'd never know when it's covered up because it looks flat but it's honestly awful. None of my friends have had anything like it. I hate it and yes, sometimes it gets me down a bit. But I remind myself that overall, it would be a lot worse and it's not worth worrying about really. I have two beautiful children and a husband who clearly loves me - and prefers me happy in my own skin, even if it's wrinkly and I can tuck it inot my jeans

So they may very well have horrid bits you can't see that could really get them down.

And given that you're a size 8 with an impressive bosom, I'll bet people are envious of you too!