To have yelled at my colleague and slammed the phone down

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yes... it's barely his fault that your evening is not running smoothly!

yes unreasonable but you have lot on your plate.apologise to colleague

Is he a colleague or a superior. If he is a colleague I would have slammed the phone down after telling him to "go and fuck himself". If he is your boss then, obviously, you have to be nicer to him.

YANBU.

Perhaps a bit but then again it's unreasonable of your colleague to call i think

Weeeeeeeeeeel, to be honest, YA both BU.

He shouldn't have called you at that time of day, especially to ask you to come in early. Anyone with sense knows not to call people with children between 6:30 and 8:00pm as it's the crazy time of the day.

However, you should calmly have asked him to call back later as you were in the middle of something, and then hung up on him. It's very, very rarely appropriate to yell at a colleague, no matter how much of a numpty they're being (and I speak from bitter experience )

Yes - he probably feels terrible now. Can you ring him back and apologise? And tell him that if he wants you to go in early, he needs to bring you coffee and croissants as a reward!

Yes he will now think you are an unreasonable nutter

Unreasonable. You dont shout at people, you dont slam the phone down. Highly unprofessional. Your colleague has no idea what your evening is like.

you beatch

and why is dp at the pub and not helping you sort dd for school?

I think it's unreasonable, you can't treat a work collegue like that. I would ring back and apologise.

is it done thing for colleague to come to your house to go over work?who initiaes that arrangement

hell when im off im most definitely off. no one to house at all.do take calls if stuck/something needs clarifying/keech hitting the fan

YANBU to want to do it, but YABU to actually do it. You will now be the talk of the office.

always best to try to be professional, he does not know you are having a crap night..

YABU, don't ever give colleagues, especially male ones, a chance to describe you as hormonal/tearful etc..

get caller ID or screen your calls some way, so that if you need a clear head , you can call back when you are ready

depends on too many things..

do you get on with this colleague?
is he finding mistakes that may save you/him from a bollocking?
Why you are answering the phone when you are clearly not emotionally able to respond rationally or professionally
why colleague had your home number in the first place....

He may have provoked you, or you may have reacted really badly when he was being reasonable

Whatever else you were being unprofessional so the reason becomes lesss important than sorting it out really

Oh dear - sounds like colleague got the brunt of your bad evening.

As others have said - ring and apologise for shouting.

apologise profusely.hopefully he accept.why are you faffing about on your tod and dh down the pub

Call back now and grovel your arse off

unless you want to be known as the office psycho for the rest of your life

Is it possible your colleague is trying to help you? Especially as possible mistakes were made by you....And, isn't he essentially volunteering to come in early himself to help you correct the problems? What if the cases had been allowed to proceed with mistakes in them? Would it reflect badly on you?

Even if it was the 'wrong time' to call, you could have simply asked if you could call back later, or told him it wasn't a good time to talk. Not your colleague's fault your dd is having a tantrum and your dp is at the pub. You need to apologise, imo.

Poor you.

IMHO I think it was completely out of order for your colleague to call you at home.

What is your job (social worker? solicitor?)

If he was desperate to contact you, I think it should have been via email/text - so that an immediate reaction isn't necessary.

Good luck finding the school shoes - think ours are down the back of the sofa somewhere...

(But a little calm phone call later might smooth things over)

grovel big time or forever more be office flake

In my work we really wouldn't leave organising an early meeting till sunday unless a real emergency. I think it's unprofessional to disturb people on a weekend TBH.

YANBU.

In fact you are being completely reasonable. Unless you are paid ££££££££££££. in which case apologise to him tomorrow when you see colleague face to face.

Or better still hone then back at 11pm tonight to say, yes tomorrow morning early will be fine.

Who on earth thinks it's acceptable to phone a colleague at 7pm on a Sunday evening?