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that people think it acceptable to cancel/not turn up

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Trifle · 03/06/2010 10:25

Why do people accept invitations to days out, parties, dinner etc then not bother coming or cancel if somethng better comes up.

Call me old fashioned but if I;ve agreed with someone to meet them for a particular reason then I bloody well go.

At the request of a friend I organised for a group of us to head out yesterday. Two cancelled that morning, another rang to say they were running an hour late and could I wait and others just didnt bother turning up. In the end it was just me and my two children.

I have stupidly organised another day out today with a different group of friends. One cancelled last night as they have had a better offer, I;e yet to see how many will come.

I;ve lost count of the number of parties where children just dont come after the parents have confirmed they will.

I;ve lost count of the amount of spare seats at dinner when people have agreed to come on a night out then dont bother turning up. These are not always events that I have organised so it seems that we are in a culture that people will just cancel at the drop of a hat and think it acceptable.

I think it's really fucking rude.

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ZZZenAgain · 03/06/2010 19:07

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I would be MNing though

Plopsie · 03/06/2010 19:39

I had a friend who did this to me time and time again - we even coined a phrase for it amongst the rest of us: "I'm afraid I'm going to have to do a '[friend's name]" meaning pulling out at the last minute. It wasn't just me she did it to, she did it to everyone. I persevered for years, spouting all the usual reasons - loyalty, tolerance, etc but eventually I got sick of allowing her to treat me like a total f*ckwit and ditched her.

I know she is still doing it to others, then comes onto FB and whinges for sympathy when it backfires.

Life is just too short...

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