I probably am bu but still its annoying!

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its dd2s birthday today (good job I realised I had today off work because I was convinced it was next week poor deprived second child , dont know where that year went)

her Dads Dad has just dropped off some cards and presents, and they have her name wrong! and its the same every time. They put baby my name, when its actually baby my name-their name.

I know its not really important, and its more important that she has a good relationship with them but they do it every time, and its annoying. Am I being unreasonable to think that her family could get her name right?

NOt if you got her birthday wrong!

btw have you corrected them that she has their name not yours?

you cant get her birthday right, yet you expect them to get her name right?

Indeed, poor second child....

I know Im just so busy time got away with me! I do feel bad about it

Yes Ive told them what her name is and so has her Dad they just never get it right

does it really matter in the scheme of things ? At least they remembered.

no you are not being unreasonable at all and if it were me i would return them with a note attached saying not known at this address. Maybe that would open ther eyes bit. That is disgusting they don't even get their own grandchilds name right.

Life is to short to stress over 'issues' like this.

Enjoy your DD's first birthday, that is what's important here.

my mother still spells my 12 year olds name wrong her FIRST name and she calls my youngest for FIfi even though she is Aoife.

That they get a surname wrong would be LOW down on my priorities Just make a reminder next time you see them say I am so pleasd we - the names they go so lovely togehter with dd's name end of story

I didnt actually forget her birthday. I booked it off work, she has presents, I have just been so busy that I thought it was the 3rd next week not this week.

and I know Im being unreasonable, but I do think that a names important, even if it is just the hyphenated bit.

ex-inlaws. and I think they probably are doing it on purpose

You are being just a weeny tiny bit precious.

In this case, I guess they wouldnt upset you by putting baby name your name their name, seing as for all they knew, you might have changed her surname to baby name your name, upon your divorce. I wouldnt stress about it.

sounds like you have a bigger beef underlying this then.

As I said (sorry different name now) life really is too short to dwell on matters such as these.

Think about it, in the scheme of things, does it really matter?

I know I am!

but they have never got it right, even though they have been told. But at least they are interested in her, which is the important thing

At least they acknowledge she has your surname - could be worse if they wrote her name their name and didn't acknowledge your surname.

TBH you are being v unreasonable.

"maybe you should go round to their house tonight and in red spray paint 6 foot high spray 'it's FUCKING X NAME HYPHEN BASTARD Y NAME' across their pebbledash."

Yes YABVU

my pils never quite get dd's name right, think calling her michelle instead of melinda

HOWEVER

my dd knows her own name
they adore the socks off her
they are slightly bonkers, this is just one of their quirks

thus no one cares

yabu

this sort of thing makes me so angry

not so bad I think as getting the first name wrong. when you talk to then next just ask them if they knew it was said surname. no biggie really.

my dd gets called "Nanabelle" by one grandparent instead of Annabelle. which is annoying as corrected grandparent many many times. even my four year old says it right.