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to not 'release wind' in front of my DP?

172 replies

KodakTheBat · 01/06/2010 16:33

We've been together 3 years. I've never done it. During a conversation with the girls last night, in their words I'm a 'bloody freak' . I've also told him I don't poo

I'm not weird am I? Surely I'm not the only one who doesn't...?

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foureleven · 01/06/2010 16:53

If in bed yes I get up and go to the loo... and our loo is downstairs!

Unless Im asleep... or i know for sure HE is..

Poledra - my daughter likes to come in and sit on my lap while I wee and talk to me about 'important' matters.. bless her its probably the only time she can get my full attention!

I do wee in front of my girlfriends though on nights out... In fact we found a club the other day with two loos in each cubicle... handy!

MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 01/06/2010 16:56

Hahahahahahahahaha! Sorry, can't stop laughing!

My DH can't keep his hands off me and we both poo and fart, shave (different things obviously!), get ready to go out etc. in front of eachother. Well, not intentionally, but we don't go to ridiculous lengths to hide either thing. It's a bit daft to, really. I'd be a bit pissed off if he stopped fancying me just because he saw me doing normal human things!

IveStillGotIt · 01/06/2010 16:57

Forgot to add, if I feel a really good fart coming, I'll ask DP to 'pull my finger'!!!

InVinoFerretsAss · 01/06/2010 16:58

I have a friend whose DH has quite often wandered in and done a poo whilst she's relaxing in the bath!
You'll need more than a few scented candles to sort that out love.

foureleven · 01/06/2010 16:59

Invino, I would FREAK if DP did this!

PatsyStone · 01/06/2010 16:59

I could never poo in front of dh, and I would actually die of asphyxiation if dh ever pooed in front of me. Urgh. Farting though, no problem though I don't think it's odd not to either. Holding someone under the cover though, that is wrong!

Dh's quite chilled about periods too. I will not pluck my chin hairs out in front of him though, he really doesn't need to know that I have a hairy chin.

Original poster
KodakTheBat · 01/06/2010 17:00

violethill - I generally just don't need to that often.

See - I notice alot of you (that don't) are saying that your DP's don't either. My DP does it in front of me, and sits on the loo with the door wide open. He says it's to keep the balance for the DS's

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violethill · 01/06/2010 17:01

How about changing your tampon in front of DH?

(OP - does your DH know that women have periods?!)

Poledra · 01/06/2010 17:01

Patsy - never say never - would you rather a bedpan or DH with you in that toilet cubicle??

MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 01/06/2010 17:02

Invino - now that is gross!

BritFish · 01/06/2010 17:02

i would never change tampons pads etc in front of DP because lets face it, its grim buisness, and i dont like having to look at it so i dont think its fair on DH either. also, although he wasnt put off by childbirth, that might just do it...

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KodakTheBat · 01/06/2010 17:04

violethill - no way!! He does not need to see that!! Bit of a sticking point at the moment though that, been having some problems and he's been ferrying me back and forth to the hospital so have talkeda little about periods

and he did see me give birth to our son, and was very hands on. Thats different imo though.

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PatsyStone · 01/06/2010 17:05

Poledra - Good point! I think dh would be preferable to an audience of strangers in a ward! That said, I do get stage fright in any house other than mine of my mum's so maybe it just wouldn't happen...

WellMeantHellBent · 01/06/2010 17:06

I try not to but sometimes little ones slip out 'D'P however has held a pillow oon my face after letting rip onto it, there are no words to describe how disgusting that was! He was very proud of himself too, chuckled every half hour when he remembered what he'd done, the idiot!

MrsWobbleTheWaitress · 01/06/2010 17:08

How sad that you're so ashamed of your periods you go to lengths to hide them from your husbands too! It's just blood fgs!

InVinoFerretsAss · 01/06/2010 17:11

That said my DD has quite often dropped a sneaky stinker whilst I've got the bath water running for me. Then I get all ready and walk into a wall of smell and bubbles. Lovely.

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KodakTheBat · 01/06/2010 17:11

Not ashamed MrsWobble - he just doesn't need to see it?!

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NormalityBites · 01/06/2010 17:12

Nah my DP farts like a trooper in front of me, but to be fair to him he does look sheepish and say sorry afterward He likes his bathroom alone time as well, and to greet each other fully done up rather than witness the process.

I would never ever change my tampon in front of him I wouldn't even buy tampons in front of him!

He was kind of there when I gave birth, well he was on the stairs outside the bedroom so not technically in the same room but I distinctly remember him giving the placenta a good prod and asking if we could feed it to the dog (we didn't )

dwpanxt · 01/06/2010 17:12

IveStillGotIt - couldnt you have kept that yourself until after I had finished my curry ?

Rice up the nose isnt nice for anyone to see

5DollarShake · 01/06/2010 17:15

This is a massive bone of contention in our house.

DH has an outdated, Victorian attitude towards farting, in that it's fine for men to release wind as and when needed (at home, sans visitors - he's not a total philistine) but under no circumstance is it OK for women. This is like a red rag to a bull for me.

If he wants me to clam up, then he has to shut his buttocks as well. We are forever striking up deals in an attempt to keep both of us happy, but they always inevitably fail.

I do think some people need to fart more than others, and those who don't need to struggle to understand (and out up with) the steady emissions of those who do.

foureleven · 01/06/2010 17:15

change your tampon in front of someone??? Thats just rude.

foureleven · 01/06/2010 17:16

Its not 'just blood' its blood thats been congealing up your fannoir for about 8 hours....

izzybiz · 01/06/2010 17:16

My Dh will fart in front of anyone I find it quite rude and will try my hardest not too!

Obviously he has heard me at times, sometimes it cant be helped, he has watched me give birth twice, and we will wee in front of eachother, but poos and periods Id rather keep to myself thanks!

SandyisinCaldwell · 01/06/2010 17:16

IveStillGotIt - LMAO

Thediaryofanobody · 01/06/2010 17:18

DH and I don't let rip in front of one another, but the occasional one slips out we apologise and then ignore the whiff.
We are keep our bathroom habits private too. DH wont brush his teeth in front of me never mind a crap.