to really not like baby ear piercings

[OneFucker2Many]

my dd1 had a birthday party today. was a lovley little party, dcs were all enjoying themselves until the mum whos dd party it was, said that her PLB - dd4 was upstairs asleep 'doped up on calpol' as her ear peircing had got infected. poor little mite is only 8 months. why do people feel the need to do this to such little babies? they are not a fashion acsessory

YANBU.

she obviously hasn't been cleaning it properly

my dd had her ears pierced at 6 mnths
yanbu to have an opinion but its been done to death on here

"they are not a fashion accessory" - I thought that was exactly what earrings were!
This argy-bargy has been done before, but FWIW YANBU. I totally agree that ear-piercings in small children are unnecessary and really quite vile.

i was regarding to the baby not being a fashion accessory lark not the earings

so am new didnt know it had been done before, this was just on my mind after today.

It does upset me to see small children and babies with their ears pierced, in my mind its assault as the baby/child can not give consent and its not in anyway in their best interest to have it done

if the child cant understand the potential for infection and cant look after it themselves, i dont see why people would do it in the first place? but people do, and im sure they fee awful when the earrings get ripped out/get infected.

MrsRhettButler, can i ask why your DD had hers done? was it a cultural thing for you?

I wear earrings for nights out but find them irritating for everyday wear and can't sleep on them, no way. So I'm sure a very young child or baby finds them just as irritating.
I have a 3 month old dd. I'd never want to inflict it upon her lovely delicate skin until she's much, much older, and then only if she expressed a desire for them.
Vile, vile, vile. In my opinion.

i agree girlie it really upset me aswell.
i just dont get why you would choose to inflict this upon your child?? just to look cool. i think its selfish really.

each to their own, don't really like your name either, is that unreasonable?

no its not unreasonable south, as you said each to their own.

Cultural reasons often, fucker. And some cultures do it to boys too, what do you think about that?

it is a form of mutilation tbh, i had mine done at 2 yrs old and i don't wear earrings, haven't since i was old enough to take them out and decided for myself but i still have the fucking holes in my ears, closed up, yes, but they still look pierced.

What is the cultural reason? Is it just a tradition, or does it have any significance? I'm genuinely interested.

yes i was wondering about the cultural reasons too? what does having an earring in your ear signify?

i think its equally mean to pierce both boys and girls ears.

and concerning my op, my friend has definatly not had her dds ears pierced for cultural reasons.

As an aside, I see that you are new, OP.

I don't like your name, any chance you could change?

Please?

Thank you

see OTTMumma has made a very good point here. ear piercings heal up very quickly and very well if they are not left in too long, but doing them at such a young age means permenant scarring before that child is old enough to really decide whether they want pierced ears!

what does 'cultural reasons' actually mean?

its not part of anyones religion is it? just part of culture, all of mine and my friends were done pretty early, its kinda normal for me so part of culture where i live i guess (am english in england btw)

i never even met people who thought it was a bad thing until i came on mn

i wouldn't do my sons though, for some reason i think that looks pretty bad

Sorry op I know you are new but .....please not again

YANBU- it is absolutely vile. The child cannot consent to this unnecessary pain, risk and mutilation (yes I am being dramatic but I really don't like it!).

Cultural 'reasons' and tradition are not an excuse either. It just makes it more understandable- but there is always a choice.

Has AnyFucker changed her name too?

I got my ears pierced at 16, they got infected so I gave up using earrings (turned out I'm allergic to nickol, which is in most metals). I'm 37 and still get scabby pus coming out of them every now and then! 21 years on! My DS(17mo) gets pissed off with his socks and takes them off within 5 mins of me putting them on, he hates wearing a hat. God knows what he'd do with a pair of earrings (prob not pull em out as he avoids pain as much as poss, but he would moan and fiddle).

Loads of different cultural reasons, depending on the culture.

Often religious rites of passage, often just tradition, sometimes symbolic (of wealth, status, beauty etc), sometimes reasons such as warding off evil etc. Massively depends on the culture, hard to be specific.

Of course YANBU. Making holes in babies who can't give their consent is wrong. Same as the other similar things I won't mention.

I echo juneybean!

Has anyfucker changed her name?

Leave it be!

YANBU it's vile. What cultures pierce their boys ears then? I've obviously missed that one.

Also, something that's always bothered me - why do people talk about 'doping' their babies with Calpol, or giving their children Calpol to make them sleep? There is no sedative in it - it's just paracetamol suspension. A child in pain may sleep better once pain relief has been administered, but the Calpol will not, in itself, make a child sleep.