to really not like baby ear piercings

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my dd1 had a birthday party today. was a lovley little party, dcs were all enjoying themselves until the mum whos dd party it was, said that her PLB - dd4 was upstairs asleep 'doped up on calpol' as her ear peircing had got infected. poor little mite is only 8 months. why do people feel the need to do this to such little babies? they are not a fashion acsessory

TiggyR - boys: most popularly done in India and some SouthEastAsian countries. Some Jamaican and West Indians do it too. Not nearly as popular as piercing girls' ears to be fair

thanks itsybitsy and juneybean really dont see why my name has to be an issue.

There seems to be a fake Tiggy about!

Firstly - welcome to MN. Certain topics, you should be made aware, have been done to death (): babies with earnings, parent and child parking spaces, FF vs BF, dogs... So you will probably annoy someone if you post about something along those lines

Why the digs at the OPs name? She's not the first poster with a swear word in her name.

And although its all been done before, I don't think YABU. I hate it. Get quite irrationally frustrated about it. I think its cruel - why on earth would you want to put a sharp piece of metal through a babies perfect little ear?

tiggy i agree with the 'doping' comment, its completely unnecessary relating this word to paracetamol.

ok i see that people might want to pierce babies ears to follow culture, but i would find it hard to follow a culture that believes in inflicting unnecessary pain on babies or children. maybe people just do it as a fashion thing and dont want their dd or ds to be left behind. absurd if you ask me.

sirboobalot im really sorry if i have annoyed anyone just posted on here as after today it has left me wondering why people choose to do this.

No Tiggy, I think you'll find you are the fake! I'm fairly sure I'm the real Tiggy. Just make sure you have the same views as me on everything, will you? It's confusing enough without having someone pretending to be me and having completely opposing views. I may sue, you know.

Oh no, you haven't annoyed me If you don't know, you don't know - am just making you aware for future reference.

I don't understand how it is OK to put a piece of metal through a child's ear (twice in one day) causing unnecessary pain & permanent scaring, but we aren't allowed to physically discipline our children with a smack!

In Spain, all baby girls have their ears pierced just after they are born !!!

I have been asked many times why my little girl doesn't have ear-rings. So usually they think she is a boy.

I think it's un-necessary and it's up to my daughters if and when they want it done.

I was one of them (Spanish parents, but UK born).

This has been done to death but I do feel called upon once more to state that there is a large cultural component to this. Yes in the UK many people find it unnecessary and awful but this attitude is quite bemusing to many of us who had it done in infancy. I'm quite glad I had mine done as a baby and never felt my parents had abused me. It always surprises me the strength of feeling about this on here, they are just earrings.

why not put clip on earrings on then until the child is old enough to decided wether they want holes punched through their flesh?

I hate my 'pierced ears' and i even invegstigated into plastic surgery to make them look unpierced, but i couldn't find such a proceedure.

I think to mark your child like that at such a young age without their consent is barbaric, and i find some cultures that adopt this to be uncivilised aswell, but thats my own opinion.
There is no need for it in any way.

There is no need for a baby of that age to have their ears pierced and it annoys me when i also see new babies with piereced ears.

i dont like them, my dd is 14 months and she wont be having hers done... worse than the babies with studs in are the ones with hoops!!

Unless it becomes illegal, which I know some Drs were in favour of at one time, has it got anything to do with anyone else?

I think it should be illegal. If parents decided to have a piece of metal forced through any other part of a babies body for any other reasons, they would be (rightly) arrested and charged with abuse.

So what is the difference it being in the ear and looking pretty? Horrible.

boobie, it's not a dig, more a request, a heads-up if you like

sweary nicknames are not neccessary and just not funny

I don't like it, in the same way that I don't like any jewellery on babies. I think it is dangerous, unnecessary, and a little tacky.

However, just because I don't agree with jewellery for MY DD, it doesn't mean that other people can't make different decisions for their own DCs. I'm sure there are people who judge me for dressing DD in a football kit-I don't care.

I always post on these threads to give my perspective and thankfully no longer find them upsetting.

I'm not Spanish but live in the south of Spain and dp is from a Hispanic country, namely Argentina. My dd is 2 and I had her ears pierced when she was 10 months old. We went to a really nice chemists with a separate room for things like ear piercing and they had special teeny tiny gold earrings for babies. Of course dd was upset and cried and I felt like a really evil bitch, but less than 5 mins later she was happily pointing out the dogs in the park.

I decided to have her ears pierced for cultural reasons. ALL the little girls here have their ears pierced. There's no deep and meaningful reason behind it btw, they just DO. There are deep and meaningful reasons for it in India, however, but I don't know much about it.

With neither dp nor I being Spanish and living in a village in traditional Andalucia, it's very important for me that dd fits in as much as possible. I don't want other little girls being nasty to her and taunting her about it in nursery school.

EVERYONE commented on the fact that she didn't have earrings before I got them done and people called her "he" or "a lovely little boy" several times every day (even when in a pink dress ffs) and if I said "she's a girl" then they'd sort of squint at her ears and say "But she hasn't got any earrings! You'll HAVE to get her some." Grrr!

It's easier to get a baby's ears pierced than a toddlers. They are easier to clean too and heal v quickly. So that's why I decided to do it sooner rather than later. I nearly went home with just one earring when I was 8!

I was TERRIFIED the first time I took her home after reading the threads on here about it being child abuse, thinking people on the street and my aunties would all think I was a terrible mother, but tbh I only ever had positive comments. I'm still really defensive and bark "ALL the little girls have them where I live!" as soon as someone mentions them though.

Today dd mentioned them for the first time. She pointed at a girl sleeping in her buggy and pointed out that she had shoes and dd had shoes too. Then she pointed out that the girl had a dummy and that dd didn't have hers. Finally she pointed out the girl's earrings "girw eawwings" and then pointed out her ownand laughed and looked pleased with herself (I've never mentioned them to her btw). That's what it has all been about for me.

Forgot to say (as you can see I say too much ) poor baby in the OP! They haven't been looking after her ears and cleaning them properly. They'll heal up v quickly if cleaned properly from now on though - hope they do!

Oh thanks for that, BoysAreLike, I hadn't seen it FWIW I don't particularly like sweary nicknames, but don't see the need to lay into an OP (especially if new) just because of it. That was my (possibly very poorly worded!) point. Do agree that some of them have got a bit too much recently, too...

It should be illegal until 16, looks vile and chavvy in a child and absolutely no need for a child to have earings.

I hate the word chavvy more than I hate children with pieced ears ..