To think that my friends should have said something?

[mosschops30]

My friend just had ds2 for 5 minutes for me to pop to the shop.
When I got back he was as happy as can be playing with a little v-tech baby toy (hes 6 months).
My friend said 'oh he likes that take it home with you and bring it back when you want we only keep it here for babies).

Just as we stepped out the door her dd (4.2) started screaming that she didnt want the toy to come to my house, literally throwing herself on the floor screaming 'nooooooo i want it'!

Neither of them said anything so I said 'and next time you want to borrow something from me Im not going to give it to you'

I just couldnt help it, shes such a whiney only child and if that had been mine Id have said 'stop being so silly its a baby toy' or similar, I was that they just let her continue.

I know I was a bit mean, but Ive just lent her a cowboy hat for school etc and we always borrow stuff only live 4 doors away.

So AIBU?

orm borrowing a toy overnight (one that is not played with) is hardly the same as someones dh throwing out their things without permission

youre all so precious

4 is still young.

It was silly of her to have a tantrum ( but she's 4, and they are silly sometimes!)

I'm putting myself in her shoes now, and although I wouldn't have a tantrum (because I'm 28 and that is unasseptable) I would be a bit annoyed that someone had given away my things! I would however have the words to explain this, because I'm not 4!

Was there no "mosschops' baby is going to borrow this for a little play, is that ok, you like to share your toys don't you?" business going on?

Yes it is but I guess from a 4yr old perspective it was going for good.

I think you are being ur in what you said. Maybe the mother was ignoring the bad behaviour or planned on dealing with it when you left. I don't think that giving a toy to someone to take home is the same as sharing in a young child's eyes. To them sharing is what you do when the toy is in situ and they both get to play with it, taking turns ect. Taking a toy home means the toy is gone until you choose to return it. I think you shpould have left it to the parent to deal with it, you acted like a spoilt child yourself really!

lol @ fab everyone keeps saying that, he was 6 months yesterday

I wasnt pissed off just that she was behaving so badly and they just let her continue. Its probably be building up after countless trips out with brattish behaviour, its a little wearing

typical AIBU

someone posts AIBU

they are

they insult the naysayers in airy general fashion

blah blah

I do think the mum should have handled it better, and clearly this has frustrated you, mosschops, but it seems you did take it out on the child

yes black her mum said that I was just borrowing it until the morning when she started screaming, when the screaming continued they just looked at me as if waiting for toy back

you know where the door is greeny thats what AIBU is all about

but I LIKE it

If no one was saying anything-how do you know that they expected/wanted you to give the toy back?

TBH if the child hadn´t been asked I wouldn´t have taken it.

The girl shouldn't have had a tantrum and the mother should have dealt with it better in order to help her understand that throwing a strop gets her nowhere (I agree: I too, as a parent, would have told the child not to be so silly and to get over it). However, your comment does just seems a bit petty, I think.

Ds always hands toys out when there are other children visiting, mothers always promise to bring them back "tomorrow", never happens though... with luck they are back a few months later, if they return at all.

For a child, tomorrow may mean never, actually, in my language tomorrow means "dream on"

Tricky then, you're left either looking like a toy theif or giving in to a tantrum.

Her mum should have said more, and you should have said less

*thief! Grr!

Sorry - just realised that both parents were there: I didn't mean to just blame the mum!

TBH I think I would have made a joke of it. You weren't upset at having to give it back were you ? Not the teeniest urge to throw yourself to the floor shrieking
'but i wahahannnt it'

4 year olds can be arses about sharing. I wouln't have been rude to the child.

diddl am ignoring your contrary rantings, I say black, you say white la la la

I think you should have left the toy when she got upset and mum could have passed it on to you out of sight of the child.

black that post was spot on and I totally agree with you on every point

I wouldnt worry too much OP

Im pretty sure they wont offer to lends any toys to you again

why do you not agree with me ? I said it FIRST

< lays on floor and has screaming abdabs >

Wasn´t aware I was ranting-but at least it wasn´t aimed at a child.

4 yr old was being unreasonable because she is a spoilt only child

Mother was being unreasonable by not dealing with her DD's tantrum

You were being unreasonable by behaving like another 4 yr old.

Sounds like the only reasonable one was the baby.

So you think their parenting skills are shit - presume you won't be dumping baby on them again any time soon ?

'ducks and runs at scary agree with me or else OP'