To think that a 6 year old's party could have been some other date than Father's Day?

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DS has been invited to his best friend's party which falls on Father's Day. It's between 11 and 1 so just when we would go for lunch as a family (DH loves Sunday pub lunch). Can't refuse the invite as DS has been looking forward to the party for ages and can't wait to go, but the invite only got handed out today and stupidly I'd said he could go before getting the invite .

AIBU to think it's a bit of a rubbish date?

If it finishes at 1 can't you go straight out to lunch? Or will the children be being fed then?

Early tea at pizza express or something instead?

Rubbsh, I agree,

can't you call them and point out its fathers day and ask why it isn't on the Saturday instead?

It wouldn't worry me to be honest. Father's day is just a marketing gimmick invented by card companies and the like. Go out for a later lunch or early dinner or something.

I don't know when fathers day is, i take it it's soon?

YAB a bit U - It's just not that big a deal to some people.

Sorry but I think YABU. Mothers day/ fathers day are not huge deals here. I imagine I am not alone in thinking that.

If lunch is taken up, how about a nice breakfast in bed etc?

have Father's day on saturday when the food is not hiked in price

Too late to change the day, I'm sure, the invites have already gone out, deposit made for the venue booked on that date/time.
We had same conflict because DS is also 6yo in mid-June and easily we could have chosen 20 June as the party date.

I think you are being a bit precious, tbh.
Why not go to lunch without the DS and do something in the afternoon with him as F-day celebration?

It wouldn't worry me either. Why don't you go to lunch afterwards, kids never eat much at parties anyway.

Wouldn't bother me.

But then I don't buy into the whole mother's day, father's day, valentines day etc etc thing. I think that if the calendar has to tell you that it's time to make a fuss of a loved one, then you need a slap and a boot up the backside

YABU. Have your meal at a different time.

Withorwithoutyou - DS will have eaten vast amounts of cheapo sausage rolls, a mountain of Quavers and his own weight in party rings and cake. He will not want another lunch, nor will sitting at a table be high on his agenda after it all either.

I could of course call, but TBH, despite the boys being great mates I barely know the mum. Feel a bit cheeky doing that. I'd do it if I knew her well.

YABU
If it's that important to you then don't go to the party. It's an invite not a court summons

YABU not everyone gets sucked into every man made money grabbing holiday.

Fathers day is a silly Hallmark Holiday. Mothering Sunday it isn't!
And even on Mothering Sunday a childs fun comes
before an adults pub lunch!!!!

Eat later, go out for tea, do the Daddy thing a day early, it's not hard.
It would never cross my mind to not have my
childs party on that day tbh and it seems the parents of the birthday child are of similar mind.

It wouldn't bother me tbh, but could cause hassle in visiting our parents, which is what we tend to do on that day! Dh probably wouldn't be bothered either.

OK, general consensus is IABU. Ultimately it's DH's call as to whether it's an issue or not really and I've not spoken to him about it. I'm sure he'll let it go.

To those that don't "get sucked into every man made money grabbing holiday", does that mean you don't mark it at all?

We don't do a big thing but I expect the usual pattern would be DH gets a lie in, we all go off and go bowling or something like that, pub lunch together and then a walk together. We just spend the day together as a family, not nec doing Father's Day related stuff. We'd do the same for Mother's Day.

If he is 6 he can behave himself whilst you are all eating so go afterwards.

Bloody hell - not something to get overly worked up about - would be sad for your little one to miss a party on account of his father liking a pub lunch!

Go for your pub liunh on the saturday before hand.

Go out for dinner early evening instead
Have a BBQ at home in the afternoon
Celebrate on Saturday
Have a special birthday

It is a little inconvenient to have the party on Father's Day perhaps but there are ways rounds it that are easy enough to implement. And I am sure daddy is big enugh to change any lunch plans.

Maybe this was the best weekend they could do for themselves.

Not tongue in cheek. Different strokes and all that, Cat64.

I find it odd that people would put a kids party before quality family time.

fathers day is pure commercialism - really no biggy
I would want my 6 year olds party on his borhday although weekend parties do piss me off a lot

borhday - wow - 'birthday'

Would'nt bother me either. Maybe they have soething on the weekend before or after. They probably havn't even realised its father's day. I have no idea off the top of my head when it is.