To think that a 6 year old's party could have been some other date than Father's Day?

[Kupugani]

DS has been invited to his best friend's party which falls on Father's Day. It's between 11 and 1 so just when we would go for lunch as a family (DH loves Sunday pub lunch). Can't refuse the invite as DS has been looking forward to the party for ages and can't wait to go, but the invite only got handed out today and stupidly I'd said he could go before getting the invite .

AIBU to think it's a bit of a rubbish date?

My post was supposed to read "or will he be being fed there?"

I wasn't suggesting you feed him two lunches

Agree with the others, YABU for being precious.

Ah well, that's me told. I had no idea that 20th June is Father's Day when I booked DD's 6th party.

To those that don't "get sucked into every man made money grabbing holiday", does that mean you don't mark it at all?

that's right. We don't do valentine's day. Ever. To me, there is nothing less romantic than being romantic because it is feb 14th and everyone else is doing it.

Same with mother's day / father's day - get a card / flowers / meal because it's the date for it? Meaningless.

If you get flowers or whatever let it be spontaneous. A true gesture of love and appreciation is not scheduled, imo.

Agreed, Hecate.

YABU

But Father's Day was NOT invented by card companies! It's been around since Victorian times and was started by 2 girls whose mother had died and wanted to show their appreciation for their father's love and care.

No I don't. Same with valentines and mothers day. More useful things to spend my money on.

The children usually make a card at school and thats about it. (mind you ds has come home with a lovely card for dh he has made today to say he misses him when he works away)

'I find it odd that people would put a kids party before quality family time.'

People are able to spend quality family any time they like, it's not just allowed on those two days.

Mothers day is a little different mostly because as a child I used to go to Sunday school and they had a special service and we took daffodils home to our mums. usually I would get a card and flowers.

So, if someone is unreasonable enough to have a birthday on Father's Day/mother's Day/Christmas, tough?
YABU and precious, and it probably doesn't happen very often so just go with it.

yy - Hecate, I agree with you on the spontaneity thing. It's just that we seem to just end up doing both. Not sure why. We don't buy the cards and stuff, the children make them at school but we do mark the days nonetheless.

Not sure what I think about repeatedly being called precious tho - a tad uncalled for. It's clear IABU which I'll take on the chin quite happily. However, when did AIBU end up with further character assassination to boot? Eeek. But I digress and I'm big enough and ugly enough too take it but just wanted to mention it...

It's not character assassination - your behaviour is a bit precious.

Not saying you're precious about everything, but you are over this.

Just my opinion of course!

"However, when did AIBU end up with further character assassination to boot"

Oh god love ya Have you ever read AIBU? they're bloody vicious on here! Further character assassination is apparently compulsory

DD's birthday party has been on Mother's Day for the last two years - I always acknowledge to the mums that we will understand if they can't make it but not one person has ever not turned up for that reason - the general consensus is they would love to be swept off their feet and pampered for the day but the chances of that happening are slim to none

If it looks like shite, smells like shite and tastes like shite it usually is.

If you think calling you precious is character assassination, you need to get out more.

Can you not book a pub meal for 2pm?
Bit of a rubbish date

I agree with most others; I think you are being unreasonable to assume most others would think FD a 'special' day which merits no interruption. I have no idea when it is, never have, never made a card and I don't think my dad even noticed, let alone cared.

I don't go in for big gestures just because its fathers/mothers/valentines day. However I think its lovely that you like to mark it in a special way. Lets face it, there are reasons enough to be grumpy in this world, so a little 'this is your special day' time doesn't do anyone any harm.

Its rubbish that it clashes, but not the end of the world as it is only a couple of hours and leaves you plenty of time to do something else.

By Hecate: "Further character assassination is apparently compulsory "

Fair enough. Go on then everyone. Hit me with a the full whammy on my parenting skills, my taste in men, my ability to do my job, my dress size, my cooking ability and my driving skills!

ABatInABunk - you've lost me there.

For the record - DH just back and I mentioned it to him. He declared it to be a "bit of a pisser but doable". So in a similar mindset to me.

You smell of poo.

Does a slur on your personal hygiene come under character assassination?

Seriously, AIBU is a bear pit! Don't take it personally. Tell them to sod off.

Hecate - are you in the room because you're actually spot on. Been spreading manure today so I reek of shit.

Actually is ABatInABunk hiding somewhere in my house too?