to be mortified on behalf of my friend re. her partners reaction to her c-section scar?

[ScentedLovePuff]

I know I'm sticking my oar in, but my friend (who isn't a mumsnetter but has said she doesnt mind me posting this anonymously on her part) is in bits!

Basically, she had a c section 6 months ago, and last night her partner admitted to her that he no longer found her physically attractive as he was 'repulsed' by her scar, and the thought of it disgusted him. He suggested they have a seperation.

I kinda get it a bit as I had a section too and it took me 3 weeks to build up the confidence to stand in front of the mirror lift up the rolls of flab and look at my incision, and I still don't like it very much now, but feel that what he said to her was hideous!

AIBU?

I think there are two plausible interpretations of this -

1. He has mental health issues related to the birth (esp if cs was e.g. an emergency 'crash' section) and/or fatherhood (his own daddy issues)

or

2. he using it as an excuse to separate for another reason e.g. having an affair/can't hack the responsibility/very immature etc

what an arse she has gone through this op to have his baby i think he is up to no good and using this as an excuse pack his bags for him and show him the door making shore it hits him on way out x

My god she'll be feeling crap over this cos she has recently given birth as 6 months isnt that long ago.

Tell him to admit the truth of what is up cos if he doesnt like it now what of before as he is bound of seen his wife in a state of undress surely.

I believe he isnt getting any sex and is getting pissed of with it so has resorted to this cos he wants to sleep with other women.

Dump him and pronto.

The section scar will fade but the man in the op will always be an arsehole.

I couldn't have put it better myself

What a nasty self centred pig your friend is married to.

My dh loves my c section scar because it saved the life of our dd.

There must be more to it. Is he having an affair? Or is he just the biggest arse ever to have drawn breath?

He is either:

1. a completely shallow arsehole, who's too cowardly to end it properly.
2. a completely shallow arsehole, who just can't deal with being an adult partner.
3. a completely shallow arsehole, who is probably under the delusion that he's a real 'catch' and will manage to get himself more totty easily.

She needs to;

1. chuck him out, and throw his possessions out with him.
2. do the above, but kick him in his (non-existent) bollocks.

Had a similar thing with my wanker ex - but am now with a loving, kind, caring, wonderful DH who doesn't give a monkeys about the effect that having 3 pg's and cs's has had. She needs the same.

'Nuff said.

That is awful, best rid.

Don't like fucktard though

She should be glad to see the back of him.

Clearly he doesn't love her. Because if he did, then scars, wrinkles, whatever, wouldn't stop him wanting her and wanting to be with her.

People age, they get all wrinkly and saggy. People sometimes have accidents and are left with scars. Sometimes people lose limbs or become wheelchair users. etc etc

If the person that you are with says sorry mate but yuck, I'm off - they never loved you in the first place.