GUilty of only reading the first and last pages, but also the Telegraph and Guardian article.
While I agree that his emphasis has been on the mother, he does say in the Guardian article:
"When their children are small, most mothers employ mental acrobatics to reconcile their "mummy" and "worker" identities, and justify decisions about working or not working. If only their partners felt a similar pressure."
(my bolding)
And then at the end of that article he says:
"Abundant evidence shows that what is most harmful to a mother's mental health is when she is wanting one arrangement and living another. A life of quiet desperation soon develops, as she constantly has to hide behind a patina of rationalisations when talking to friends and colleagues.
The real solution is going to be men starting to feel ? every bit as much as women ? that it is up to them how the baby is cared for."
From these bits, it doesn't seem as though he really is bashing WOHMs - the Guardian article at least appears to be more a discussion of how working mothers make their peace with their situation. And suggests that it is only the mother who feels the need to make their peace with it - that the father/partner has no such problem and perhaps they should.
That's how I read it anyway.
I disagree that a child's character and behaviour are entirely down to nurture - most people with more than one child would probably also disagree, as children who have the same care can be wildly different in character and behaviour.
I chose to stay at home with my son and feel lucky to be able to do so - for the first year and a half I also worked regularly but short hours at home, thus getting the best of both worlds. Since leaving the UK I have not been able to do much work from home, and the work I have had I have found quite hard as DS is now older and more demanding of my time - and tbh, I miss the work. Not because it was "Me time" or my identity - just because it gave me someone else to talk to and broke the day up a bit.
Now, we have playgroups we go to twice a week so that helps - before I found them I was starting to get a bit cabin-feverish, with not knowing anyone here either.
I think it is deeply silly to make sweeping generalisations about all women and all children. Some women will do better working, others will do better being SAHMs.
Some children would prefer their mums to be there more, others are quite happy in the social atmosphere of childcare and yet others will be happiest with a mixture of the two scenarios.
The real problems arise, as the man says, when the mothers are not doing what they would most like to (be it from financial, situational or partner pressure) - and presumably when the children are not in their preferred environment either.
We have a long way to go before most men have the same problems in their lives, although some already do, of course.