AIBU to think PIL are unreasonable for

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expecting us to consult them prior to making plans for our weekend so that they can see DD every week?

I'm on maternity leave with DD; DP and PIL all work full time. PIL have been coming over/us going over to them every weekend for the first 7 months or so of DD's life(apart from when we went on holiday). I made arrangements recently to see our friend's new baby without speaking to DH first and this coincided with the only time PIL were available that weekend. PIL were not happy and made this known to DH who related it to me. Last Saturday, we three went away to a wedding and spent the night in a hotel and PIL went spare, saying that one of us should have driven back that night or that we shouldn't have stayed out most of Sunday so that they could have seen DD.

AIBU and selfish in thinking that we should be able to do what we like?

YANBU. Your PIL sound really bonkers. Let them come and visit every weekend if you don't mind and are not doing anything else. If you have other plans or just don't want to see them just send them a text - Don't say "Sorry not this weekend" (you have nothing to be sorry about). Don't apologise just inform that it's not possible. They'll soon get the message that it's not an automatic entitlement every weekend.