AIBU or is my DP for asking me to this?

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My DP lives 40 miles away from me and 2 or 3 times a week I stay at his, got a call about 15 m ago asking me to come and pick him up and takehime home then take him to work in the morning. AIBU to say no or is he for asking me to as he is desprite.

PS he does not drive but is learning

Dunno, depends if you want to, if he does it often what your general relationship is like etc etc. It's a bit like asking how long is a piece of string really.

Run run run for the hills.... This could have been me writing this 5 years ago...

So he wants you to drive 40 miles to collect him, take him the 40 miles back to your house for thenight and then drop him to work tomorrow which i presume is near his home?

Hibu.

No, he'll want her to stay over at his house I'd imagine. Free taxi... and nookie.

Sorry OP, Im being very judgemental about your DP. Its based on my own experience only!

Why is he desperate?

What kittywise said.

I'm always a bit bemused by this type of thread, there are so many factors that determine whether he is being unreasonable or not.

Surely you are in the best position to judge that? Sorry, I'm not meaning to be dismssive but you're having a relationship with this man. Surely you know?

He has work at 7 am the next morning, but I feel guilty and normally I would as it is a chance to see him, but I am not 100% I have a cold and work wanted to send me home today but I didno want to go.

I just feel gulty

sod the guilt, if he were that bothered he could get a bus - tell him no and to use his time to have another driving lesson

How would he normally get home/get to work? And why can't he go that way tonight/tomorrow?

his famly usually pick him up but christ he could just book himself a taxi !!!

why do you feel guilty about the fact he has no transport ?

that is his problem, surely ?

Taxi, bus, bicycle?

Tell him to stop being a drama queen, he has options that don't involve an 80 mile round trip for you.

YANBU. How old is this guy? How does he normally get around?

His family usually pick him up?

How old is he?

Why can't they pick him up tonight?