to have not picked up the sweets DS chucked all over Sainsbury's floor?

[YoMoJo]

popped into local "convenience" store earlier today.

Long queue as always, which is directed along the aisle that is packed with crisps, chocolate & sweets.

More sweets & chocolates at till points.

DS (2.5 yrs) fed up of continuously being told "NO" he couldnt have any sweets/chocolate/crisps then proceeded to chuck about 10 Mars Bars on the floor whilst I packed & paid for my shopping at the till.

In protest at having to queue in the said aisle I left them all on the floor & walked out the store.

so AIBU

YABU.
I'd have been mortified if my ds1 did that5 and I'd have made him pick them up whilst I apologised to staff and customers for my sons behaviour

...and resulting wobbly gets you tut tutting no doubt

Oh dear, so much comes to mind here - but I shall stick with YAB utterly and unspeakably U.

Having just spent a few grim hours with a mother who said vaguely 'oh that's not very kind' to her child when they snatched toys out of other children's hands and tipped them over and stamped on them, Morloth is spot on.

It's bloody hard work being a better parent but you owe it to your kid and the rest of society to make a sodding effort.

Not at all, UsualSuspect. My DS chucks a wobbler when I say no a lot. I just deal with it like most sane people would. I don't give a crap if someone else's DC is tantrumming. Most kids do it at some point. It's how the parent deals with it that counts.

Am always amazed at people who view toddler tantrums as something to be afraid of. I always think of them as vaguely amusing (especially if it is someone else's kid), they are just so passionate about shit that is so unimportant.

I'm not afraid of them and my ds was an expert at them..I never gave a stuff what other people thought..but some people on here especially ,seem to think only other peoples brats tantrum

Well said, LadyBiscuit. I remember one friend's toddler drawing blood when biting my DD, and his mother buying him an ice-cream because my DD upset him by howling in pain. She is no longer a friend.

My kid had his fair share of indigo/bratty moments when he was a toddler. Now at 6 he is virtually human - though still tries the whinge every now and again, we are way past the lying on the floor screaming and kicking and biting phase though.

I guess I have all of that too look forward to with DS2.

I'm at the door slamming ,grunting teenage stage

As long as they are slamming their doors on the way in too their bedrooms. Then it is a win all round, yes?

yes, only emerging to eat all the contents of the fridge

*into even

DS already does that, they child has hollow legs. My food bill is going to be frightening in a couple of years.

YABU
sorry but no matter how many times you just have to keep saying no and i'm afraid my DS wouldve had to pick them up even if they are put in damned stupid places to begin with

My Ds is a nightmare, hes been reading all the parenting books, he pre-empts my parenting with more ingenious ways to be a brat, he is very very indigo. Everythings a struggle, for me though, not anyone else, if he screams i deal with it, if he makes a mess i clean it, i dont actually let him get to the point where he can disturb others. Hes my brat so only i should be affected. gotta love toddlers!

"I can easily say no ..not so easy for a 2 year old to be told no though is it"

That's the tough bit of parenting isn't it? Telling our kids no when it would be much easier for us as parents to say yes, but would teach our kids nothing or worse still, would teach them contempt for the rules of good society and general conformity.

This is exactly the kind of attitude that would have my daughter doing her face when she was younger. She knew from a very young age that it was wrong to be destructive with ANYTHING whether it belonged to her or a store or anyone else.

If you don't teach your kids discipline in social situations when they're young, what chance have you got when they're older?????

Making a rod for your own back imo!

Well, probably YABU...
But... hey! I do believe in the right to have tantrums all your life! If there is something above any other thing that gives you permission for a tantrum is your own child's one.

You threw a tantrum, another adult will have to breath slowly and keep this elegant self-control some of us are unable to keep every minute of everyday just because we are mums and we are meant to be a 'good model' WTF THE perfect model to follow

Err I meant the resulting tantrum ..not that I never said no .....

no thesecondcoming, I'm sure it wasn't you. You wouldn't have complained to a lone parent who works full-time how hard it is never to have any time to yourself as a SAHM with ONE child who goes to nursery 3 mornings a week, nor would you have told me that you think it's wrong for children under the age of four to be in full-time childcare when you know my DC are. You wouldn't be that rude

Sorry, totally off topic but this woman and her DS did my head in today

betty she bought him an ice cream 'cos he was upset? bloody logical

I do think though, that if there is a queue, the supermarket should put more people on the tills. If you are queueing for a long time with a toddler it would be helpful if the store did something to minimise that time.Putting loads of sweets in the place where you HAVE to queue is not helpful as it puts the parent in the position of having to repeatedly say no and have to deal with resulting tantrum. This can be esp stressful if other people in the queue are not tolerant of children having a strop (not all people are understanding). So, I can understand why the op reacted as she did. I'm sure that had she not been stressed by the public tantrum, she would have considered the poor staff who had to clear up and realised that this is not their job.

cupcakesandbunting: "Some people might not like that the wine/beer section is right next to the tinned food section because they feel pressured to buy alcohol. I find it a struggle being in close proximity to cakes when perusing the bread but in the words of Diana Ross, I walk on by."

Actually, this is a pretty good point. Last time I went to Sainsbury's, the queue extended all the way up the alcohol aisle, and I did actually silently judge notice other people impulse-buying alcohol in the queue.

It would have been a bad queue to be in for a sober alcoholic, seriously.