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AIBU?

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to have just checked DS' friends' book bags?

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aliasanon · 14/05/2010 18:37

DS had 2 friends to play. While they were in the garden I sneaked a peek at their book bags to see what they were reading.

Pushy parent or what?

Please tell me you've done the same....

OP posts:

oceryo · 14/05/2010 21:45

icantbelieveimnotbitter, maybe she'd had a previous bad experience of people thinking she was gloating?

isthatporridgeinyourzone · 14/05/2010 21:57

Sooooo YABU. It's not your business. If you want to know whether your DC is getting on Ok - ask the teacher ffs.

forehead · 14/05/2010 22:02

As Cretaceous said, they all get there in the end. My younger sister couldn't read until she was eight and is now a director in the pharmaceutical industry.

seeker · 14/05/2010 22:11

I got into SUCH trouble on here once by saying (can;t remember the context) that when ds's froiend accidentally left his lunch box in my car one Friday night, I emptied it ansd washed it, rather than goving it back on the Monday full of mouldy yoghurt and babana skins. Apparently this was a massive intrusion and quite out of order!

Imarriedafrog · 14/05/2010 22:14

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piscesmoon · 14/05/2010 22:16

At 10, 16, 18 or 20yrs etc no one has any idea-or would even care which reading level you were on at 5 yrs! If it is a race I suggest that you read 'the hare and the tortoise'!
Does it make you a better mother if you can say that your DC is more advanced?
(I would never think of washing a visiting DCs lunch box either-did you ask him if he wanted it washed?)

edam · 14/05/2010 22:18

Baronconker, you really are struggling to defend the indefensible. You know perfectly well it's underhand and an intrusion - all this guff about 'it's not a handbag'. Please. Keep your sticky beak OUT. Or at least have the grace to admit it's wrong.

Thediaryofanobody · 14/05/2010 22:19

PMSL seeker You have to be joking how on earth is that a bad thing to do!

jellybeans · 14/05/2010 22:19

YABVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVU I would never ever do that and have had loads of kids round and seen loads of bags. It's so wrong, who cares what they are reading!!!!!!

piscesmoon · 14/05/2010 22:27

An arrangement to make packed lunches is fine-otherwise I leave well alone. Obviously if it was left behind I would give it a wash.

squeaver · 14/05/2010 22:35

This thread is so obviously someone trawling opinions for an article...

But, fwiw, I just DO NOT GET this obsession with who's on what reading level. After all, they all learn to read and once they do it's not something that you get any better at is it?

puffling · 14/05/2010 22:37

OP. How old is your child and what level are they on?

muggglewump · 14/05/2010 22:40

Quite Squeaver, am so glad you said that, saves me saying I haven't read the thread!

Really, what does it matter?

DD will read as an an adult at some point, she may be able to do it now, she may not (she is getting there quickly now as it happens but has very much done it overnight, rather than progressing), but comparing children is always a bit horrid, and bound to cause upset for everyone I think.

squeaver · 14/05/2010 22:42

puffling - my money's on the op being a childless middle-aged hack from the Mail.

MollieO · 14/05/2010 22:50

ime it is those whose dcs are the more able readers that are the most vocal and feel a need to share. It wouldn't occur to me to look tbh. I don't really get the interest in reading levels. Every child progresses at different speeds and just because one is better at reading doesn't ultimately mean much.

Thediaryofanobody · 14/05/2010 22:52

Is it really a case of caring and wanting to compare or is it just curiosity?

Partyofseven · 14/05/2010 23:05

I with squeaver once you learn to read thats it, my dd1 had a reading age of an 11 yr old at aged 8, she now 12 and her maths are crap but her english and dramatics skills are fantastic, no ones really interested in her reading as they assume she can, dd2 is also v.good at reading but struggles with math. dd3 couldn't give a flying .... about reading but is v.good at mental math, all children are different even from the same family.

op you should just be grateful that your ds can and is able to learn appropriate to his age, not in comparison to his peers. i think you should be grateful your son is happy and capable.

scottishmummy · 14/05/2010 23:10

has anyone shouted Journalist or troll yet.got the suspicious crew snooping about.watch out they will be checking history next

oceryo · 15/05/2010 00:11

Yes it does sound a bit jargony and journalisty

"sneaked a peek"

scottishmummy · 15/05/2010 00:58

journalist?so what!public forum no one compels you to answer.mn is highly visible on fb,twitter as it is.dont care if op journalist or not

mnhq and dm has a partnership,and frankly mn inextricably linked to dm.its linked daily by posters who protest they dont read it.while way-back many huffed/puffed threatened to resign.well hell dm still here whether they are or not

supersalstrawberry · 15/05/2010 01:18

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