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AIBU?

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Original poster

... to be really, really upset @ my mum..

52 replies

globaljen · 12/05/2010 21:58

... who thinks it is ok to want a present back she gave my DD last year, so that other kids in her village can play with it?!!

My DD is little, and it was given to her when she was too little to play with it, so my mum looked after it for a bit, as it would have been too dangerous to have around when my DD was little. Now she is big enough I asked my mum to bring it the next time she visited.

Instead, my DH and I are gobsmacked to hear that my mum wants it back so that she can be a theme park for her local village kids???!!

WTF?!!

AIBU?

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thisisyesterday · 12/05/2010 21:59

lol, sorry but that is quite funny. your mother is quite mad!
no, you are jnot being unreasonable

piscesmoon · 12/05/2010 22:00

Can't your DD just play with it when she goes there? If she is little- is she bothered?

Happybutknackered · 12/05/2010 22:04

What is it? I'm intrigued.

My Mum has bought presents for my DD to keep at her house so that she has stuff to play with when we visit. Maybe this is what your Mum is thinking?

nelliesmum · 12/05/2010 22:04

Just say 'Sorry Mum, you gave it to DD and she'd really like it now'.
What is it anyway, I'm intrigued as to what was so dangerous it couldn't be in the house but now isn't dangerous anymore.

estuardo · 12/05/2010 22:06

I know it is quite common for grandparents to want to keep toys they have bought at their own house. Perhaps that is what your mum is doing?

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globaljen · 12/05/2010 22:08

@TIY, Yes she is!

@Piscesmoon..

My mum lives a long way away (>2hrs), so we don't get to visit her very often (and she very rarely comes to see us). It seems stupid for the present to be sitting in her shed for 360 days a year when I know my DD would play with it every day if it was here.... my DS has a similar toy and she and he play with it for 2hrs a day, they share OK (they have to!) but it's not really a sharing toy IYSWIM.

The point is, it is already a present that has been given, so AIBU being cross that my mum wants to take BACK a present that she has ALREADY given her grandchild, so that other kids she barely knows can play with it a couple times per year?!

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pickledmonkey · 12/05/2010 22:10

i would let her keep it. can you get one for your daughter yourself? (whatever it is)

Original poster
globaljen · 12/05/2010 22:10

It was given on the understanding that she would store it until my DD was big enough. Yes, she could play with it there - but we are only there 4-5days p.a., whereas she would play with it every day in her own home. She has plenty of other toys to play with when we go down there - and it is not an appropriate toy for down there, as we can't let the kids outside without direct supervision anyway.

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KurriKurri · 12/05/2010 22:12

How does she plan to be a theme park for village kids with one toy? Do you mean she'd like to have it at her house so that visiting children can play with it? If so that seems reasonable, if it was just a casual purchase. But if it was a birthday present I think it's more reasonable on your part to want it. But in all honesty I wouldn't get that upset over a toy.

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globaljen · 12/05/2010 22:13

@Pickled, no I can't get one - it was a very large ($$) gift that we couldn't afford in a million years.

@Estuardo, she hasn't ever played with it @grandma's house as there is nowhere safe to play with it down there, so it is actually useless! It has actually been lent out to other kids without our permission (as we have just found out!) already, as it was unsuitable for my mum's garden.

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globaljen · 12/05/2010 22:17

@Kurri, - you're right, I shouldn't get upset over just a toy. But it was a significant b'day present (one bought for each child, my DS has his already), one that was always meant to moved here once my DD was big enough. I am upset that my mum is thinking more of other people's kids than her own grandkids.

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pickledmonkey · 12/05/2010 22:18

please tell us what it is

abbierhodes · 12/05/2010 22:21

Why won't you say what it is???

ScreaminEagle · 12/05/2010 22:26

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Cobwebsontheceiling · 12/05/2010 22:27

Is it a pony?

PixieOnaLeaf · 12/05/2010 22:31

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Drusilla · 12/05/2010 22:32

Is it a baby tiger? (smile)

pumperspumpkin · 12/05/2010 22:32

YABU by not telling us what it is. A single person trampoline is my best guess.

Cobwebsontheceiling · 12/05/2010 22:33

Or a quad bike?

Tell us!!

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globaljen · 12/05/2010 22:43

@Drusilla - I wish! Then I would be unreasonable and have it for myself, never mind my DD ;)

Am mindful of putting too mcuh on here as I know other members of my family are on here!!! Let's just say it is rather nice, and not something to be taken away again on a whim - my DD has been excited for the last 6 months that she is allllmost big enough (and her legs long enough) to use it! Get my drift? ;)

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globaljen · 12/05/2010 22:44

ps CWOTC is nearest ;)

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pickledmonkey · 12/05/2010 22:56

a quad bike and dirt track to ride it on

runnybottom · 12/05/2010 22:57

trampoline? Bike?

KurriKurri · 12/05/2010 22:59

Um - a rocking horse (speaks from experience of family rucks over a rocking horse!)

booyhoo · 12/05/2010 22:59

a bicycle

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