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AIBU?

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Original poster

... to be really, really upset @ my mum..

52 replies

globaljen · 12/05/2010 21:58

... who thinks it is ok to want a present back she gave my DD last year, so that other kids in her village can play with it?!!

My DD is little, and it was given to her when she was too little to play with it, so my mum looked after it for a bit, as it would have been too dangerous to have around when my DD was little. Now she is big enough I asked my mum to bring it the next time she visited.

Instead, my DH and I are gobsmacked to hear that my mum wants it back so that she can be a theme park for her local village kids???!!

WTF?!!

AIBU?

OP posts:
mollymawk · 12/05/2010 23:04

pogo stick? stilts?

why would bike or rocking horse be too dangerous to have around though?

i'm intrigued

IMoveTheStars · 12/05/2010 23:09

OP, tell everybody wtf you are banging on about please.

IMoveTheStars · 12/05/2010 23:11

ah, it's a camel. I see your dilemma now.

Yes, you are being very unreasonable.

So, your son has his horse (or whatever the fuck it is), and your daughter doesn't. Go and get it then?

Firawla · 12/05/2010 23:13

YANBU but tell us what it is.
next time take the presents home with you straight away and store it somewhere safe in your own home to prevent mum doing this. Did you remind her "but it was DD'S bday present and she is looking forward to have it?" and did she not then feel a bit ashamed and give it back? She must be quite bold not to if you say it very directly..

BabyDubsEverywhere · 12/05/2010 23:14

IVe just wasted 3 minutes of my life reading this drivel! wtf is it!

BAFE · 12/05/2010 23:16

I'm also annoyed with myself for reading this drivel but I must ABSOLUTELY INSIST on knowing what it is

MyFriendGouda · 12/05/2010 23:20

Ach, its a quad bike, i'm her sister, shes easy to figure out because I know the story

JustMyTwoPenceWorth · 12/05/2010 23:20

It'll be a bike.

Tell your mum that she has given it to your daughter, your daughter knows it is hers and is excited about it and if she has decided that she wants to take back a gift that she has given to her grandchild, then she can tell your daughter that herself and ask her if she'd like you to pass the phone over now or would she like to phone back later and tell her.

Unless she's a totally mad old bat, there's no way she'll want to do that! It will however, make her realise the total unreasonableness (is that even a word?) of what she's asking.

Unless, like I say, she's a totally mad old bat.

BabyDubsEverywhere · 12/05/2010 23:24

Thank god for that, i can sleep now

IMoveTheStars · 12/05/2010 23:25

oh yawn...

YABU to let your kids on quad bikes.
[gavel]

BAFE · 12/05/2010 23:28

OK we know a bit more now.

You've got two options.

  1. Leave the quad bike at your mums. The kids will have one at their house to play with and one when they go to their nans. Your mum will be happpy. It will please her to see her grandkids enjoying themselves with her gift.
  1. Go and take it, as is your right if it belongs to your dd.

I recommend option 1. It'll keep the peace and stop you from looking childish, greedy, spiteful and petty.

JustMyTwoPenceWorth · 12/05/2010 23:31

has your mum considered what might happen to her if one of the kids she lends this thing to hurts themselves or worse? The parents could try to blame her.

booyhoo · 12/05/2010 23:31

please tell me you have a field or a very large garden for it and arent intending to let your children go up and down the pavement on it?

Silver1 · 12/05/2010 23:37

I knew a family member might come on and spring her.
Hmm it is unreasonable if the DD thinks she has a quad bike, and is excited about getting a quad bike
BUT if OP can store the quad bike now, why couldn't she when it was bought? If she left it at her mum's it seems a bit thoughtless, so can't really blame granny for being thoughtless too. Perhaps thoughtless is in the gene pool?

runnybottom · 12/05/2010 23:38

Quadbikes? for what age?

Bloody dangerous yokes, and agree about pavements.

Mental.

KurriKurri · 12/05/2010 23:42

Quad bike??? How old is your DD, - surely these are for much older children.

MrsFlittersnoop · 12/05/2010 23:45

Your mum wants to let a random bunch of kids from the village loose on a quadbike?

charlotteolivia · 12/05/2010 23:47

Maybe it is just one of those battery powered ride on bikes that look like quad bikes, but smaller....?

Pikelit · 12/05/2010 23:58

Even if it is a My Little Lion Tamer set, the (reported) fact of the matter is that the OP's dd was given the present and told it would be delivered when she was old/big enough to use it. She's been anticipating that happy moment so it is hardly reasonable to have the present withdrawn just at the very time it was due to come her way.

Cannotfindaname · 13/05/2010 08:57

Ok, ignoring the general bizzareness of the thread, I would say that it was a present for your DD from her GM, therefore tell her that you would like to have it now. I am assuming it is one of those little battery quad bikes?

Would be interesting to see what the OPs sister's opinion is.

SloanyPony · 13/05/2010 13:37

LMAO no wonder she didn't want to spill.

Original poster
globaljen · 14/05/2010 18:57

Annnddd...

No, not a Quad bike, but close. It's really the principle of the thing, not the object.

We have now retrieved the nonquad... but only to find that my DS's pushbike that had been given to him @ Christmas, has been given away to another neighbour's nephew (but I am not sure that is the truth, long story but I have since seen a photo and think it has gone to a cousin).

And the play kitchen that was in the garden - also gone.

WTF?!

Alzheimers or just plain cruelty/selfishness?

Am totally gutted, upset, angry, and ready to say 'go to hell'.

Yes they are spoilt. But that is my mother's choice to buy these things. But it is totally out of order to then randomly ACTUALLY give these gifts away - I'd rather they were not given in the first place!

Mad old bat for sure (and I don't care if family read this as I am INCENSED!)

OP posts:
JustMyTwoPenceWorth · 14/05/2010 21:17

well, in future, when something is given - take it with you, then she can't give it away.

And yes, it's a totally bizarre thing to do - unless - maybe she feels you aren't grateful/appreciative or bothered, because she gives you stuff and you leave it there instead of making the effort to take her gifts home with you? Perhaps this is a passive aggressive punishment?

I'm not saying I think you're not bothered, or that you should be falling to your knees grateful btw just wondering if perhaps she thinks like that and that is why she is doing this?

pearlym · 14/05/2010 21:30

wish you would tell us what it is, dying to know, and can't really say if YABU wihtout knowing.

I bet a rocking horse/ or a space hopper?
Space hoppers are great, really love them
but hten, how does a rocking horse fit into a theme park for the village?

pearlym · 14/05/2010 21:31

sorry guys, did not read the end, did not realise 2 pages, so my offering looks a bit weird and late