... to be really, really upset @ my mum..

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... who thinks it is ok to want a present back she gave my DD last year, so that other kids in her village can play with it?!!

My DD is little, and it was given to her when she was too little to play with it, so my mum looked after it for a bit, as it would have been too dangerous to have around when my DD was little. Now she is big enough I asked my mum to bring it the next time she visited.

Instead, my DH and I are gobsmacked to hear that my mum wants it back so that she can be a theme park for her local village kids???!!

WTF?!!

AIBU?

Think I would also ask her if she is planning on giving your daughter anything else to replace the present.

I know it is rude to expect presents and all that and if she hadn't given her anything for her birthday then she might not like it but hey that's the way things go. But in this particular instance it does seem pretty unfair to the dd (and to the ds re the bike too) to give something but then take it away again.

Have you given anything to your mother for her birthday/xmas that you could make a point of picking up and taking away again when you next stay with her and if she asks, just say that you thought that taking presents away once they had been given was what she wanted now...

What do your family members think given they are on the thread - is OPs mum being unreasonable - has she given you a different reason or explanation for her behaviour? or does she treat everybody the same and take stuff away from all her grandkids?

My mother once gave me the diamond ring which was her mother's engagement ring and subsequently asked for it back.

I just said no, and kept it.

Go round to your mother's house and ask for the toy, in person. She might find it quite hard to persist with wanting to keep it.

By the way, my mother is slightly less dotty these days.