to not want to wait for a council house anymore?

[StuckInTheMiddleWithYou]

I've name changed for this.

To cut along story short, I've been stuck living with my mother for the last five years after I was left destitute by divorce.

I've tried to move out but my employment status has made this difficult.

Two years ago I met a lovely man and we have been planning to move in together ever since. We were even TTC for awhile last year.

My Mother and I are close to killing each other. My DP thinks that we should wait for the council to house us - have been trying to get somewhere since November.

I could just about afford to rent somewhere privately. Hell, if I had a permanent job I could get a mortage!

Do I force the issue and rent privately (I hate it - had some horrendous landords) or do I slowly go mad living here?

Letting agencies will not take us due to my not having a permanent job, DP being on the sick and his terrible credit rating.

manda25

It depends where you live. We have a "choice based system". You fill out a form in order to get a registration number - this is used to "bid" on the properties available.

You "bid" with the number of years/months of occupation you can prove in your current home (find the oldest bit of post you can!).

Stuck, you also mention you have savings in one of the posts above. Surely, if this is the case, the council will never house you. I would genuinely rent privately and if DP wants to join you and you feel he can contribute to the rent, then all and good. If not, just find yourself a nice place to live before your relationship with your mother dies.

The council housing system round here is not income bases mini, but your right about the relationship with my mother.

Rent privately and get a job.

Simples.

and, seeing as that it's likely Cons/LibDem will be in power, I'd strongly suggest the 'get a job' part asap.

I have a job.

A perm one.

His days of being 'on the sick' are also very likely numbered with Cons in power.

I'd love a perm one, I truly would. Have applied for hundreds - 178 since November. Seriously it ain't that easy!

okay then.

I hear ya expat.
But, to ask an obvious question, if you have a job and savings, no children, why on earth are you even on the waiting list for a council house? If you are on a low income you will likely qualify for help with rent on a private place anyway. I am just a bit baffled as to why and how you have found yourself in this position

Sort out how to provide for your basic food and maintenance, with a job, benefits whatever.
Sort out a place to live.
Then think about having children.
Any other order is thoughtless to any offspring you may have. If you can't provide adequately for yourselves, why screw up some child's life as well? Because you're tired of waiting for a baby as well as a council house?

Yes, small, especially because, if you are single and have no children, it's also possible to flat share and therefore, not live with your mother and have cheaper rent than being on your own.

You can still get partial HB for a room share and your council tax single persons discount.

Which is why I am .

OP was TTC when DP was employed.

They stopped due to breakdown- sounds sensible to me.

I only got half way through this but why would anyone TTC with a depressive man in wrank accomodation while living with your mother because you have no stable income...?

Oh just read tethersend, I get it now.

Well, four, it's one way to get a council house . . .

if you are in housing need you are entitled to go on the list, children o no children.

Yes, but a) the mother hasn't given her notice to move out, so the council won't consider her homeless or threatened homeless b) single and no kids might lead to a very long stint in a hostel or B&B, and not the 5 star kind.

foureleven, that's the first time I've answered a question before it's asked

it was few yrs ago ago, but i was on the list whilst in private rented accomadation.i am not sure of the rules at all,regarding this tho.

I waited 5 yrs, it was a joint application with my then dh. A year after dh left, was lucky enough to be almost near the top, in my area.

In your situation, i would do all i can to find private accomadation, as i did back then. if my partner wasn't willing to forward and improve our living arrangements I would be wondering if he was indeed the right person. From what you say he doesn't seem bothered in improving things. I think i would go it alone, and look into all aspects.

i'd say that living with someone who makes your life miserable is grounds to go on the council list - like expat says, not likley to get anywhere unless your willingto be homeless and in a hostel - but its as good a grounds as some. whether its your partner or your mother. i dont think we would expect the op to stay with her partner if the op had said 'i am living with my partner, i have no money and we are close to killing each other' people would say 'do it!'

do it - as in move - no0t kill him

if you can afford to rent privately then rent privately, why should you even get a council house if you can afford to do that?