to not want to wait for a council house anymore?

[StuckInTheMiddleWithYou]

I've name changed for this.

To cut along story short, I've been stuck living with my mother for the last five years after I was left destitute by divorce.

I've tried to move out but my employment status has made this difficult.

Two years ago I met a lovely man and we have been planning to move in together ever since. We were even TTC for awhile last year.

My Mother and I are close to killing each other. My DP thinks that we should wait for the council to house us - have been trying to get somewhere since November.

I could just about afford to rent somewhere privately. Hell, if I had a permanent job I could get a mortage!

Do I force the issue and rent privately (I hate it - had some horrendous landords) or do I slowly go mad living here?

Letting agencies will not take us due to my not having a permanent job, DP being on the sick and his terrible credit rating.

Sooo basically what people are saying (apart from my sense of entitlement, wanting everything handed to me etc) is that I am not being unreasonable at all and should go with the course of action I suggested in the OP?

Smallishsheep I am truly sorry for your situation - it was pretty much the situation in which I grew up. That however is no excuse for you to be so rude!

seems to me that you and your DP have been together two years, and have almost since then planned ot move in together, and TTC

and yet 2 years down the line he is making no move to improve his situation and is happy to wait for a council house, which could take years and years

'This is bizarre!

I post: "I want to do this thing, my DP doesn't"

People respond with "Your a terrible person, you should do the thing you want"'

No, people are responding with "I don't get it - why don't you do it anyway, it's then his choice whether he moves in with you or not."

Stuck you have had some questions to enable people to answer you and all you have done is be hostile. Maybe you should re-word and re-post, maybe in relationships if you don't think you are getting the advice you need.

Hang on.... OP wants to rent privately.

Has been waiting for council house since september, doesn't want to wait any longer, wants to rent privately. Difficult as no permanent job.

Why the fucking fuck is she being slated?

Oh, and don't forget to berate her for TTC last year when she didn't even have a council house

OP, would like to know if you have children- however, I still think renting privately sounds best. Just be prepared to do it alone if you have to.

I think that you are looking for slights that are not there OP.

I dont think smallishsheep has been rude, and no-one has said you are a terrible person. Are you expecting us to because of the subject?

How am I rude?

"sense of entitlement" is pretty rude to me. Sorry love.

maybe looking for a bunfight op? Taking it out on the wrong people shouldn't it be directed at your dp?

I have not read all so sorry, but am unclear why you and DP cant get jobs?

That's pretty much what I've been thinking tehthersend.

Thank you!

Have you got children, Stuck?

Gets the bigger teapot out for Lovebeing Bearcrumble damn you woman

Cheers bba, do you want some toast?

It's amazing how these threads can disintegrate........

FWIW - rent privately. It is very difficult to get social housing which is in good condition and a nice area these days. I know lots of people who have council housing but now can't wait to get out as where they live is going down the pan. Those with the nicest council houses have been there for years and years and have often 'inherited' them from parents.

Housing associations might help too I suppose.

Would love some toast!

Cheers

Stuckinthemiddle, I sympathise completely. We have been on the council list for just over two years. My fingers are crossed!
Shadeofviolet, do you have somewhere to rent in Dulwich?

Maybe if i burnt the toast everyone would leave?

You're looking for a ruck aren't you?

Alright then I'll oblige. You were ttc with a skint practically homeless depressive while living with your mother and in a temporary job? Are you quite, quite mad? And why haven't you been on the housing list for the last 5 years you were living there?

I think this is a wind up. If not, then, quite obviously, get a bloody flat. Its not that hard.

what about 'part buy, part rent?' is that an option?