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to not want to wait for a council house anymore?

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StuckInTheMiddleWithYou · 09/05/2010 08:19

I've name changed for this.

To cut along story short, I've been stuck living with my mother for the last five years after I was left destitute by divorce.

I've tried to move out but my employment status has made this difficult.

Two years ago I met a lovely man and we have been planning to move in together ever since. We were even TTC for awhile last year.

My Mother and I are close to killing each other. My DP thinks that we should wait for the council to house us - have been trying to get somewhere since November.

I could just about afford to rent somewhere privately. Hell, if I had a permanent job I could get a mortage!

Do I force the issue and rent privately (I hate it - had some horrendous landords) or do I slowly go mad living here?

Letting agencies will not take us due to my not having a permanent job, DP being on the sick and his terrible credit rating.

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StuckInTheMiddleWithYou · 09/05/2010 09:36

Actually, when I was TTC we were in the process of buying a bungalow. I've come to my decision, feel free to berate what you think my life is! Toodlepip!

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runnybottom · 09/05/2010 09:37

hope thats real butter on that toast.....

BigBadMummy · 09/05/2010 09:40

can I have Bovril on my toast?

And don't think you can substitute it for Marmite. I can tell the difference, ya know. Same as Pepsi and Coke.... sooooo very diffent.

More tea anybody?

Or is it time for a vino?

Nancy66 · 09/05/2010 09:40

I think you should rent privately - if you're a single woman with no kids then i think you'd have a hell of a long wait for a council house.

How long as your DP been out of work for? do you get a sense that he would work again? Is he getting treatment for his depression? If the answer to any of these is 'no' then I wouldn't be moving in with him

thesecondcoming · 09/05/2010 09:40

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tethersend · 09/05/2010 09:43

Have you got children or not Stuck?

Rude to ignore the question IMO...

Northernlurker · 09/05/2010 09:44

This council house - is it for you and dp to move in to? Because if so I don't see how you could possibly have expected things to happen fast. You are adequately housed, as is he and from what you've said there are no other circumstances to give you enough points to progress quickly up the list. He's off sick atm but not with a long term condition (one hopes) I'm absolutely sure this will have been explained to you so I'm not sure where your dp in particular got the idea this would all happen quickly?
You haven't applied as a single parent with the idea he'll move in on the quiet have you?

Lulumaam · 09/05/2010 09:44

i didn;t have a go... i guess sometimes people only see what htey want and hear what they want..

runnybottom · 09/05/2010 09:45

Sure you were, I bet the banks were lining up to give the pair of youse money. Pull the other one dear, its got bells on.

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StuckInTheMiddleWithYou · 09/05/2010 09:47

No I havent't, we were TTC prior to redundancy and a mental breakdown.

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StuckInTheMiddleWithYou · 09/05/2010 09:49

And Runny, why on earth would I make that up?

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tethersend · 09/05/2010 09:49

Thanks for clearing that up... it makes a difference to the reasonableness of moving to private rented accommodation.

smallishsheep · 09/05/2010 09:50

So come on, do you have children or not>???????

LoveBeingAHungParliament · 09/05/2010 09:51

Runny of course, BBa will have a look

tethersend · 09/05/2010 09:51

She just answered that one, smallishsheep- no kids.

runnybottom · 09/05/2010 09:51

Whatever, apols if you're above board, I have just have trouble believing such a ridiculous question. "Should I rent a home or should I wait for ever for a council house that I won't ever get"? Well, duh.

RedLadyBiscuit · 09/05/2010 09:51

To ignore every single question that would help posters suggest alternatives and pick up on the one post that was aggressive.

Poor quality troll 1/10

Reality · 09/05/2010 09:55

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LoveBeingAHungParliament · 09/05/2010 09:56
tethersend · 09/05/2010 09:57

She has answered the kids question a few posts up- she doesn't have any.

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StuckInTheMiddleWithYou · 09/05/2010 09:58

1, no. We were TTC - redundancy, mental breakdown, depression put paid to that.

2, I do.

3, two black eyes, a cracked rib and a hairline fracture to my pelvis.

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SalFresco · 09/05/2010 09:59

If you do not have children, you will not get a house. And, where we live, in your circumstances, you would wait over 5 years for a 1 bedroom flat. SO yes, rent privately.

RedLadyBiscuit · 09/05/2010 10:02

Apols, didn't see that. Do you think it's worth waiting for a council flat (you won't get a house)? Honestly? If you are a couple who already have somewhere to live without kids you'll be waiting the rest of your lives.

Rent

Manda25 · 09/05/2010 10:03

sorry i do not have any advice for the OP - but i was interested how the whole housing system works these days ... does anyone have the time to explain it quickly or know of a website i can read up about it. 20 yrs ago you got made homeless ....got shoved into a B & B for about a (in my case it was 3 months) and then got given a council or HA property.
I keep hearing people taking about being made to privately rent now ??

tethersend · 09/05/2010 10:03

Well done for getting out of marriage, Stuck.