To be upset and ds nursery treatment

[LittleMrsHappy]

Ds1 is on a high fat diet, as he is underweight, due to his extremely high fast metabolism.

I got a letter from his dietitian, excusing him from the "healthy eating" programme, but as he was still having healthy food, I thought it would not be a problem.

Yesterday I got a phone call in saying that ds would not be allowed to sit with the other children while he was eating his lunch box as it was unfair on the other children , I asked if they tried explaining to the children about ds1 diet and they said No, and that his school is promoting healthy eating.

I send ds to school with wholemeal pasta, with tomatoes, courgette, some chorizo.

He had a homemade (Nan) flapjack with lots of nuts (Brazil, whole nut, pecan) and a pot of custard (he does not like yogurt of any sort) banana, cubed cheese.

He has a emergency bag of treats, which is mostly chocolate, which is behind the teachers bag, and his sugar levels drop and makes him very unwell in himself.

Now ds has a medical need for high fat foods, apparently the flapjack and custard and cheese are not healthy eating and that it will distress the other children, so ds now has to sit with the TA's.

He is four also,and loves sitting with his class mates.

AIBU to say NO! he has a medical need that dictates his food intake, not a government policy!

Id see the problem if I was sending him into school with chocolate galore and a vile kebab etc...

The early years foundation stage STATUTORY requirements state that ' providers have a responsibility to ensure positive attitudes to diversity and difference' (para 1.14) these have to be done by ' removing barriers where these already exist'

Thought these quotes might also be helpful for you when making your stand. Your doing the right thing IMO and agree with others that your ds lunch sounds very healthy.

Best of luck keep us informed.

good luck in your fight - I'm interested because we might be having exactly the same thing ourselves in a few months time, my son was born premature and has chronic lung disease which means he needs a high calorie diet. He should grow out of his problems but in the mean time i need to watch his weight gain (already starting from a low point because of various issues whilst in hospital). Right now he eats babyfood jars but i'm not the sort of mum to pack him off with a green salad and a ryevita and call it a meal!

I was raised on cheese sandwiches, beef pate sandwiches, no fruit (i was given it daily but refused to eat it) and lots of fish fingers and chips too. Never did me any harm as long as I was physically active too! Bloomin nanny state.

Get your dietician to explain VERY SLOWLY to this idiot nursery that small children NEED full fat - for healthy bones, teeth etc. It appalls me that this ignorance abounds. All other posts agree, lots of crisps, sweets and chocolate - not good - your lunchbox puts me to shame - FIGHT ON!!

Hope you succeed in making the school see sense. the whole healthy eating thing is sending out crazy notions of what children should eat. After the school talking about "healthy eating" to my DD quite a few children started to say to their parents they shouldn't eat things like mashed potato and other innocuous stuff. Several parents complained. I agree with other posters - children should have a balanced diet with no foods being "bad", just some things you have occasionally.

That lunch sounds perfectly healthy for any child. I am sick to death of the government trying to dictate to schools about so-called healthy eating - and I am sick to death of schools implementing it! LET PARENTS PARENT and I WILL TEACH!

(I am a teacher)

And if my school tried to get me to snoop in someone's lunch box to decide if they're allowed their lunch (or in your case, if your son is allowed to sit with the others - sheesh!) then I'm going to be mightily pissed off. I'll probably just lie and say they were all fine. .

interested in how this turns out, how dare they quote policy stuff when you did all the legwork with the guidelines!

and yes, i would like a packed lunch off you too please!