to threaten to take...

[mumdrivenmad]

my DH off my insurance if he drives home tonight. I have just had a returned call from my DH after I had called him around a dozen times (all were ignored). He has been out since 3 this afternoon, and has tried to tell me he has only has two pints but he was slurring his speach a bit. My reaction to this was "BULLSHIT" I told him to lock the car up where it was and to get the bus home, and that if you drive home I will take you off my insurance. I don't know how the hell he has never had an accident but he has come home and not been able to stand straight before now, and I have had enough. He knows that the drink drive law now stands at about one pint, but still he tries to tell me that he has had two and is ok, when I know full well he has had more. What more can I say to this selfish bastard who had even driven home drunk with our DC, in order to make him see sense before he causes an accident and all the horrible things that that entails.

Neither DP or I will ever drive if we've had a drink. Ever.

Mumdrivenmad, I totally agree with all the 'phone the police' comments. Incidentally, I think that you may find that any claim will be invalidated in the event of an accident if he is over the limit... not that will be of any consequence. My DH lost his licence for DD several years before I met him, and admits that many like him only learn the hard way. He wouldn't dream of it now and is still quite ashamed. As the endorsement stays on your licence for 11 years, he had to tell me, and it prevented him from getting a driving job at one point.

Quite frankly, your dc are the least of MY worries. At the end of the day you can physically stop them being in the car with him, but what about mine and everyone else's dc who are at the mercy of someone knowingly driving around drunk?

I'm sorry drink driving appalls me, and I'm afraid i would be giving serious thought to my future with him...a one off mistake is one thing, but repeatedly putting the lives of others at risk is absolutely NOT acceptable!

Purplehighheels I could not agree with you more.

Anyone who thinks it's ok should come and see my family- my auntie was killed by a drink driver, she was the only family my dad had left and myself and my 3 sibling never got to meet her, her husband, my uncle has lived alone ever since (25 years) and suffers from depression because of it. My dad was in the car and was unable to save her so you can only imagine how this has affected him. From what I know she was a talented concert pianist and very beautiful but I'll never get to meet her or introduce her to my family because of a stupid decision made by one person to get in their car that day.
I'm not trying to sound preachy but it's the truth and it hurts.

Op- phone the police next time. If anything happens you won't forgive yourself.

My ex h used to drink drive. I never knew when he was going to do it so not a lot I could do to prevent it really.

In the end I encouraged that we scrap the family car as on its last legs anyway and then went and bought one of my own and refused point blank to put ex on insurance, I endured much ranting and name calling but at least he wasn't drink driving anymore. He was too lazy and tight to run two cars.

I am not going to slag off the op, it sounds like she has more on her plate than her h drink driving and sometimes it is very hard to see things clearly when in that situation.