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AIBU?

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Original poster

to stop DD having sleepover?

71 replies

YourCallIsImportant · 27/04/2010 22:35

DD 7 has a really nice little friend at school who stays about a mile from us. DD's friend had a sleepover with us last week and her mum sent me a text thanking me and saying she would have DD for a sleepover soon.

Problem for me is that the friend's parents have an American Pitbull. Need I say more? AIBU?

OP posts:
Vallhala · 27/04/2010 22:46

Another first post?

darkandstormy · 27/04/2010 22:47

her next door neighbour has a bengal tiger,even their fish tank is full of pirahnas.

GetOrfMoiLand · 27/04/2010 22:48

To be honest I wouold not let dd have sleepovers at this age unless I knew the family well. I think 7 is too young.

so, if you have any doubts, just don't let her go. You don't have to blatantly say it is about teh dog, just make up some excuse.

I know bugger all about dog breeds, but presumably there is a risk inhgerent with any dog anyway.

scurryfunge · 27/04/2010 22:48

I'm sure the pitbull will be fine....let her go

AnyFucker · 27/04/2010 22:49

have a gander at the profile, Val

tethersend · 27/04/2010 22:50

YourCallIsImportant, your profile says you do not have children... perhaps you should update it?

tethersend · 27/04/2010 22:51

x-post AF... What's the story here then?

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YourCallIsImportant · 27/04/2010 22:51

Behave! I've been here for ages.

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AnyFucker · 27/04/2010 22:52

dunno, teth, < shrugs >

tethersend · 27/04/2010 22:52

For 7 years?

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YourCallIsImportant · 27/04/2010 22:53

If you check any of my prev posts you'll know I've got a DD7 and a DS3. I'll update my profile if it makes you feel better

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MrsRhettButler · 27/04/2010 22:53

thats what they put if you choose not to disclose any info about your children, it happened to me when i first joined.. the fact is, shes been here since '08

op if you are worried then just say 'sorry but dd is a bit tearful when she stays out at night' or something.

AnyFucker · 27/04/2010 22:53

in 2008, you had no children

what gives ?

scurryfunge · 27/04/2010 22:54

I think I would probably make excuses if you are really not happy

GetOrfMoiLand · 27/04/2010 22:58

AF I looked on someone elses profile today and it said she had no children, even though she has 4 and there are pics all over profile. Think it is a MN idisynrcay when you set it up.

OP unless you feel comfortable that your dd will be safe around the dog, you are sensible not to let her go.

My dd is not allowed into my mum's next door neighbours, and she is 14. They have a dog which pulled me by my ponytail along the sofa when it was a young dog. Bloody thing didn't let go and I was pretty unnerved. I can't trust the dog to be safe, so won't risk dd going there.

AnyFucker · 27/04/2010 22:59

ah, I get it

if you are a regular, OP, you will know there has been a lot of people posting about issues they know will kick off

anyways...if I were in your situation, I would not let my child go

and I would tell the other parents why, too

Vallhala · 27/04/2010 23:01

Sorry YCII.

Are PBTs legal in Scotland then?

scurryfunge · 27/04/2010 23:01

Are American pitbulls always dangerous? Serious question....they are not one of the banned breeds are they?

AnyFucker · 27/04/2010 23:02

apologies, OP

Original poster
YourCallIsImportant · 27/04/2010 23:02

Thanks Mrs RB. I am totally shocked at the suggestions being made here.

I didn't know it was mandatory to provide profile info. If I had done, then chances are I would have forgotten to update it each time a birthday came round. Maybe then I'd be pulled up because my profile says DD is 5, when she's actually 7.

Anyway, I really am looking for some polite way of putting friend's mum off without saying it's because she's got a fuckwit dog with a head twice the size of my DDs. All suggestions welcome.

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MrsRhettButler · 27/04/2010 23:03

do you know what actually, i think AF's right, just tell them the reason, i have to put my dog in another room when my friend and her children visit as she is not comfortable

scurryfunge · 27/04/2010 23:03

Just looked it up...they can have a certificate of exemption....ask the parents what measure they are taking to protect everyone

AnyFucker · 27/04/2010 23:03

you can still be polite and tell them that you don't want your daughter staying in the same house as such a creature

I presume you will be precluding all playdates too...

GetOrfMoiLand · 27/04/2010 23:04

Just make vague noises and say you can't make date because you have committments for several weekends. No point in saying owt about the dog at this stage i don't think.

MrsRhettButler · 27/04/2010 23:05

is it an american pitbull or an american bulldog? biig difference but if you are not comfortable then don't allow her to go there