to take offence at endless comments about my size?

[LionsAreScary]

My first AIBU, so I?m a bit nervous, but here goes:

I am 31 weeks pregnant and am totally fed up with other people telling me how huge I am. This happens 2 or 3 times every day now as I go about my business, coming from any of the many people I interact with, from school mums to shop assistants, even sometimes from friends and family. My self-esteem is pretty low at the moment and I just don?t need to be reminded constantly about my size.

I am on the tall side, normally neither skinny nor overweight (not pregnant my BMI was 24). I have put on about 1 ¾ stone so far and luckily that is almost all bump (well maybe a bit of extra buttressing about my thighs). After the event, I always think of some witty or cutting response to the comments, but at the time words fail me. I don?t want to be rude as I am friendly with many of the people who comment ? e.g. DS2?s nursery manager, who said ?Gosh your bump is getting really big now, isn?t it??, and a school Mum who said, ?X and I were the other side of the playground and were just saying how huge you?re looking? (this whilst stroking my bump!)

DH says I?m oversensitive, that these people don?t mean to offend, and I just have to brush it off. My Dad says IANBU and that people are just inconsiderate and like to boost their own self-esteem by making others feel bad.

I am getting so sick of it I don?t want to leave the house. I am normally sociable but starting to avoid people for fear they?ll comment. I dislike talking about pregnancy generally, but it is the size thing that really upsets me.

I don?t understand why it is considered rude to comment on someone who has spots / has put on weight, and yet pregnant women are supposed to not mind? How am I supposed to not care about being insulted?

So AIBU like DH says?

After another day of people saying "god you're getting really big now" and people's eyes popping out when I tell them 7 weeks to go I am also pretty fed up with this.
Want to hide away which is strange as I'm quite extrovert normally.

Pregnant women get really big in the last 10 weeks- for the love of god- please leave us alone!!!!!

Oh dear - you know, I'm one of those people who probably do say this sort of thing to pregnant women. Having never been pregnant myself - and not being able to get pregnant, (and also having hardly ANY friends who are pregnant, nor anyone in my work/social circle): a) it kind of fascinates me and b)I don't know what else to say, as ignoring lovely pregnant belly seems really rude!
I do say all the "you're looking well/how are you feeling" stuff too, but I had no idea that people didn't really like it!
Shall refrain in future!!

sterryerryoh, YAY if we can convince just one person at a time to reconsider their well meant comments then that is WONDERFUL! you have made my day now, thank you.

I could have written OP myself. I'm 33 weeks with DC3 and have been getting the 'aren't you huge' comments from about 20 weeks onwards.
It's not so much the commenting on the size of my bump and it's growth that bothers me since yes, it IS big and yes, it IS growing.... what upsets me is the constant view that it is somehow freakishly big.
The total strangers who say to me 'Are you sure you're not having twins?', or 'You'll never last til your due date' or 'That one is going to be BIG' are all really just saying 'You're going to have a horrible, difficult and possibly traumatic birth'.
Yes - I accept that it is polite and normal for people to tell me I am getting big and even to comment on the size of my bump but it is neither polite nor welcome for anyone to do so in such a way as to imply something frightening or negative. That is nasty.

I think you are getting overly sensitive about it. They're talking about your bump not your overall size.

YABU. Tis the norm. In a irritating kind of way it is a compliemnt.