To be annoyed at this person commenting on our parenting?

[SunFunMum]

DH has a dd from previous relationship and we also have a ds together - dd is almost 10 yrs and ds is 20 months so quite a big age gap.

At the weekend ds accidentally pinched dd as he was trying to grab a toy off her - she got very upset and was crying (understandably), but we tried to explain that he didn't mean it.

Two hours later when she went home she was still upset and told her mum about it.

So dd's mum texted dh to say that he absolutely did the right thing in smacking our ds's hand, and that he should either do that or pinch him back so he can see how it feels!

So AIBU to be annoyed at this?

I think it's up to me and dh how we wish to punish our child's behaviour .

does anyone have a lidls code?

ah hully. I have missed you

Got an Aldis one and a Nettos, but I gave the Lidls one to our neighbour... she has two spiteful children but they are much older.

They scare me when they're in the garden.

OP if you do ever come back, we're only having a bit of fun, we don't really think your baby is any of these babies

A word of warning, Aldi spiteful babies are faulty, they cna have moments of being nice which lull you into a false sense of security and you wil start to give them rides on your shoudler. And then they will pinch.
DOn't scrimp on something this important, get a proper JL baby

MmeLindt ds clipped a peg onto his willy the other day. He hasn't played with them since.

"MmeLindt ds clipped a peg onto his willy the other day. He hasn't played with them since"

ohmigod ohmigod ohmigod
i literally just psml @freakoid's post

Freakoid
Ah, boys and their willies. DS is going through a willy phase at the moment. Tried to get the dog to lick it after bath a couple of months ago.

LOL at spiteful baby.

OP, if you come back we are not laughing at your DS, we are merely amused at the thought of a 20mth old being spiteful. Hope you get things sorted with your DH and his ex. Sounds like there are other issues.

Hello hello all lurkers - op is back!

I knew this would happen on here as I posted and then swanned off on holiday so I am sitting in a wifi hotspot just so you all know I am not a troll!

I namechanged as I think that dd's mother is on here and don't want any stalkery situations!

Thank you for all the replies - the consensus (sp) is exactly what I thought myself, but I felt too embarassed to write it in case of a backlash.

DH's dd is quite a "princess" and I think there is a jealousy issue, however most times when she comes over all ahe wants to do is go out and play with friends - not interested in her dad giving her cuddles or attention. The only time she is interested is when friends are not about ie this past weekend.

It infuriates me as I feel that I can't "parent" her - if you ever try to talk to her she sits and looks out the window or puts her hands over her ears.

BTW, I personally did not and would not smack my son.

DH smacked his hand, which I was cross about. This obvuiously got back to dd's mother which is why she sent text to say he was right!

Apologies re the bad grammar and spelling - typing quickly so I can get back to my spiteful son .

if he bites someone should you bite him back?

Don't worry about spelling, I just thought you had his mittens on

So your DH did smack a 20 month old child?

That is horrible, sorry. My little brother took a pair of sharp scissors and snipped through my cheek when he was about 2 - I'm only 4 years older than him and of course I knew he didn't mean it! I think you need serious words with husband and step-daughter about what toddlers can and can't be expected to understand.

Owowow at snipping through cheek!

YANBU to be peeved with DD's mum, but DD's behaviour - jealousy at younger half-brother, not willing to be 'parented' by stepmum, I don't think is unusual. Which doesn't make it easy for you though!